Originally Posted by Juniper
I saw several parents scold and smack their kids on the butt for bad behaviour - you don't see that much here (in my yuppie neighbourhood, anyway), so I was impressed.
I have to say that this sentence worries me a little ...especially since you are a Nanny. If I see people smacking their kids on the butt (and in public yet), I feel physically ill. Its the same I would feel if I saw someone smacking a dog or cat. Physical violence gets you nowhere with a child just like it gets you nowhere with an animal....There is a difference between a child acting out and the parent reprimanding them for doing so or the parent humiliating and harming by smacking them.
I happen to be one of those attachment parents (or that "crap") you spoke of in one of your posts. And depending on how you look at the philosophy, there is discipline. It just does not involve violence or humiliation. I was once complimented in a bank line by an elderly lady for the impressive manners of my daughter.. She isn't perfect by any means but there are ways around raising a child that don't involve losing your temper (and yes, smacking a child in public is losing control)...
Just my two cents..
|I think people may have thought *I* was rude, though, because I noticed that everyone down their referred to me with 'ma'am' - you don't get that up here, except occasionally when dealing with an older, difficult customer, perhaps, so I didn't use it in return - so I was a bit paranoid the whole time that people might think me rude because I wasn't ma'am-ing and sir-ing all over the place like they were, but I just couldn't do it, it was so strange to me. So basically, I agree with you - maybe certain regions in the States are particulary rude, but overall I really didn't find Americans very rude at all.|