Originally Posted by Loveysmummy
Rant away..I was actually gasping reading your post..What cruel things for your family to say!!! Don't people realize how much those comments hurt?
My mum has been known to comment "you could lose about 20 lbs" or "you couldn't wear your sister's shirt ..she is 10 lbs thinner than you!" ...
I know she thinks she is helping but it does really hurt at the time...
For some reason, I don't say anything about it either...I guess its too embarrassing at the time. Weight is such an issue for women and most of the time, its not about how you feel but about how you look to the opposite (or depending on your preference) sex...
i'm not sure if they all realise, i'd say my nan does, she is so mean sometimes, another thing she does (off topic) but she has a bit of money, she isn't rich at all but she has a lot more money than my mum who is on welfare and struggles to even buy food at times, you would think she'd help mum because she's family but she will complain and make mum feel bad for not having money and then she will visit mum with something new she brought herself and mum will say how she'd love to be able to buy stuff for herself too and nan will say 'beggers can't be chosers' in this very irritating high voice
other things she does is take mum shopping with my two brothers and buy my brothers stuff but nothing for mum.
i think the worst thing she did was a few years ago, my nan's daughter carmel was in a car accident and ended up completely relying on people for everything, she couldn't talk, see, walk...anything.
before the accident mum was very close to carmel, they were like sisters and spent heaps of time together, when the accident happened mum spent nearly every day by carmels side, telling her jokes, feeding her and keeping her company, carmels sister might have visited once or twice.
after a year of this carmel got sick and her body couldn't handle it so she passed away.
mum was devistated and must have cried for over a week.
about a year after carmels death nan got a heap of money, a payout from carmels accident, she gave all her children money, including the daughter who couldn't be bothered spending time with carmel yet she gave mum nothing, they all brought lovely things with the money and made sure mum saw it too
she has always been like this and i can't understand why, i always thought it was much more fun to be kind to people, to share with them, i do help my mum out too and i always buy her stuff when we go shopping, i just don't understand why nan is so mean...grandad isn't much better, when i was five i started to cry and he apparently told me 'oh go a smash your head into a brick wall or something and give our damn ears a rest'
sorry for another rant but i needed to get that off my chest and once i'd started i needed to get it all out.
i do love my family, my dad and stepmum are fantastic.
back on topic lol my mum does it because she doesn't want me to get big because she knows how nan and grandad are, she also wants me to feel good about myself and stay healthy, she just goes the wrong way about it sometimes.
nan on the other hand is a mean old @$%# and will tell me i'm fat while casually handing me a peice of chocolate cake