I really have nothing against people who are naturally thin. Everyone is different!
But I refuse to succumb to anyone in the media (or in real life) who thinks I should be a waif. I have never been stick skinny, never will be. Dont care!
I still read the magazines like Cosmo and Glamour, dont look at the girls. I look at hair/make-up/clothes. It took many years to quit looking at them and start looking at what they are advertising.
It is just an instantanious reaction when you open the pages and you see someone a third of your size and you have instantly convinced yourself that you could never pull off the hair/make-up and what-not. Then you get jealous or self-conscious.
You just have to kinda retrain your mind at what to look at and think about.
I have always had wonderful womanly curves. All through my teens I was super self-conscious. Present day- I dont give a
how thin anyone thinks i should be or how i should dress, etc.
I have walked my curvy self through malls with jeans and a t-shirt on(took all of five minutes to get ready) and get all sorts of stares/smiles/whistles from guys, then realize, 'Hey, they are looking at me, not the girl who got up at dawn to get ready and get dressed up.'
I still no my limits though... there are things that I wont wear, just because I know they are not going to look good on me. I am not going to try to wear it, then walk around all day comparing myself to people who can pull it off. That is just going to depress me, then I am going to go home and eat a pint of ice cream... which doesnt help anything either
I think the most important thing is confidence. You can be the hottest person in the city, and if you are walking around with your head down and arms crossed, you are gunna come off as unsociable, snotty, and basically no-fun.
Confidence makes anyone glow. When you walk into a room, walk in like you are the hottest, funniest, most intersting person there. (Like you are a princess!) --Even if you are feeling shy and non-confident. Head always up, arms NEVER crossed in front of you!
People WILL notice, and will flock to you. Which will help you loosen up and then you really will be confident.
Hope that makes sense!!
Trust me!! It works!!!