new job do you think im doing the right thing

well guys im about to make a change in jobs a friend of mine works at goldberg bagles its a small place but yet busy breakfast sandwiches/and lunch sandwiches The hours are 6am to 3pm im really scared in away cause i half to give my two week notice tommorow and mrs B has been so good to me i dont think i would be leaving if it wasn't for this one person who came back in march after she left in december she is a real witch! to work for
most of the time she dont even talk to me thats because i went to mrs B last month about the way she goes off on me
mrs B said would i like to see her gone but i told her i dont want anyone to loose there job im begining to think maybe i should of thougt it through

my work duties have got longer and longer at work and i did some reading on
Psychological harassment at work and most of what i was reading is how she is treating me this is part of what i was reading

http://www.cnt.gouv.qc.ca/en/normes/...manifestations


Making rude, degrading or offensive remarks.
Making gestures that seek to intimidate, engaging in reprisals.
Discrediting the person: spreading rumors, ridiculing him, humiliating him, calling into question his convictions or his private life, shouting abuse at him or sexually harassing him.
Belittling the person: forcing him to perform tasks that are belittling or below his skills, simulating professional misconduct.
Preventing the person from expressing himself: yelling at him, threatening him, constantly interrupting him, prohibiting him from speaking to others.
Isolating the person: no longer talking to him at all, denying his presence, distancing him from others.

The only posstive thing out of this if i take this job my hours will be perfect nomore nites and sundays off for church and more time with my husband


sorry to go on so long but this is really got me upset has anyone else ever gone through something like this before? and if so do you have any advice please

You spend 40 hours a week at work. You have a right to be happy there.
Most of us spend more time with co-workers than with friends/family!!

If you have attempted to correct the problem, then look at this new opportunity as an open door...I would go for it if it were me.

Something I may have done differently is to talk to this person directly first before going to the boss..But some feel they can't do that..Its hard to confront a rude/aggressive person.

Good luck and I say go for it....

Let me understand, basically:
A) You have an opportunity to change your job to one which:
1) has shorter hours; and
2) normal working hours and days.
B) At your current job there is an co-employee who is treating you badly and you could ask your boss to fire her but chose not to.

Question:
1) Is the new job better or at least equal to the current job in all respects such as pay, medical, leave, travelling time, etc?
2) If it is better than what is keeping you to your current job, except for perhaps a sense of loyalty to your boss or a fear of the unknown.
3) I do not see why you have a desire to protect the co-employee treating you badly. It is never too late to talk to the boss to have the situation resolved.
4) If the new job is better or equal than your current job in all terms and working conditions then perhaps you could go visit the boss and tell her that you are
- not pleased with co-employee; and
- have a better job offer elsewhere and unless you are better paid or that your benefits are improved you would leave.

Bottom Line:
What is holding you back on changing jobs?

I definitely think you're doing the right thing! LIke it's been said, if you spend so long working, you more than deserve to be happy where you are! If you're not happy, get out of it and take this new job! Go you!!

Yes, leave. If Mrs. B asks, you can tell her the new place has better hours. Since you're leaving, there's also no harm in mentioning that The Evil One is engaging in workplace harrassment and hasn't gotten any better since the last time you talked about it.

One piece of advice, by the way: never talk down a past/current employer to a potential employer. No matter how justified, it makes you look like a problem employee. So whenever you have an interview in the future and they ask you why you left this job, say something about the better hours or pay or that you thought you'd enjoy the work more or something.

Originally Posted by evnshawn

The Evil One

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I'm sorry, I shouldn't laugh.... hey, if you need cheering up, why don't we sit here and make up some really horrid names for her? It's purely therapeutic, you understand You go girl... you can do ANYTHING!

Originally Posted by Loveysmummy

You spend 40 hours a week at work. You have a right to be happy there.
Most of us spend more time with co-workers than with friends/family!!

If you have attempted to correct the problem, then look at this new opportunity as an open door...I would go for it if it were me.

Something I may have done differently is to talk to this person directly first before going to the boss..But some feel they can't do that..Its hard to confront a rude/aggressive person.

Good luck and I say go for it....

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See i did try to talk to this person many times before i went to mrs B it would last a week then it would start all over again i have never worked with someone like this before but i really dont want her to loose her job over me cause that would make me look bad to others she also has done this to the other lady working and go to find out the lady also went to mrs B two weeks before i did to put in her notice cause of the samething and mrs B said to hang in there so right now shes still there but i belive she is looking for a job to

Originally Posted by LilleKat

I'm sorry, I shouldn't laugh.... hey, if you need cheering up, why don't we sit here and make up some really horrid names for her? It's purely therapeutic, you understand

You go girl... you can do ANYTHING!

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what i really would like to do is throw a pan of fudge in her face
if it wasn't for Mrs B and mr B i would tell this girl just what i really think of her but i'd better not cause then i would look like the looser you know what what goes around comes around so they say!

I was in a similar situation, working with a girl who made my work life miserable. I can't count the times I would end up in the washroom crying over something she did or said. And there was nothing that anyone could do, apart from firing her. The boss just went and hid in his office when trouble started.

I quit that job. Then the rest of the staff found out how horrid she really was, because I wasn't there to buffer her nastiness. Or correct her many many errors. She was fired, and within a year, I had my old job back, with better pay and benefits.

The thing is, you can't make other people change. All you can control is your reaction to them. So if she is a complete and utter b***h to work with, I don't think that will change, and you need to remove yourself from that work situation. Good luck with the new job! And don't let them convince you to stay, you've given them enough notice that you are unhappy with the awful one. And you know that it won't get better.

sammie,
you are right cause i know its not going to get better and its a matter of time that one day i'll do something stupid like walking out and i do not want to do something like that cause i think so much of mrs B and mr B and lots of other people there well i gotta run going to lunch with a friend from work be back later today thanks everyone for the feed back your giving me

im still at boulineaus everything worked out with her after we had a sit down meeting so far things are going fine
i was afraid of taking to much of a cut in pay to leave then i might of been living in a cardboard box and there would be no room with all my furbabbies

I am glad things worked out for you!