Allow me to clarify.
I was quoting a friend when I made the "test drive" remark. In the context of the conversation with her, it was both funny and appropriate. I guess it lost a little outside the context of the moment.
What she meant was that there's nothing wrong with sleeping and/or living together before marriage.
It wasn't meant to degrade or make light of the level of commitment people should have when they decide to live together.
Originally Posted by winwin
If the participants in the cohabitative state were the only two people in the world, it wouldn't matter, but is it out of the question to consider the impact your "union" has on others, not the least of whom are children of the "union" ?
By putting the word union
in quotes, you are implying that those of us who are cohabitating don't have a valid relationship.
As for children, I am childless by choice and intend to stay that way. But plenty of kids have unmarried parents and turn out just fine.
|Do you not consider that you are bringing shame (and worse) on your parents ?
My boyfriend and I are hardly "bringing shame" upon our parents. My parents lived together before they were married, and they lived with my step-parents before they were married, too. None of my parents have a problem with my living arrangement. My boyfriend's mother was pregnant with him when she married his dad. She was the kind of person who would have told him if she had a problem with him living with his girlfriend. In fact, she told him that she loved me. And his dad has no problem with it, either...he's told us both so.
|On a purely material note, what if assets are accumulated and one of the "partners" dies intestate, how will the rights of the survivor be determined ?
If you want you partner to inherit anything of yours, you can put it in your will or make sure that all your assets are jointly owned. You can also make them the beneficiary on your life insurance.
|I think this is just another instance of "rebellious children", like a child uttering an obscenity in the presence of grown-ups to see their reactions.
I think it has more to do with society changing and evolving, as societies tend to do.