A week ago, I found out that they were testing my husband's father for ALS (aka Lou Gehrig's Disease). My mother-in-law asked me not to tell my husband yet, as they were just tests. They live in NY, we live in IL, and she didn't want him worrying. Yesterday she called me and said the test was positive. Here is my dilemma...we are going to NY August 5th to visit his family. Should I tell him before then, or should I let his father tell him when we get there? I don't believe that they should tell him over the phone, so that leaves it up to me, or the previously mentioned option. His brothers and sisters all know. Either way, I cannot tell him until at least Wednesday, because he drives a truck and is on the road until then. I'm confused and I don't know what is best. I know that I will probably be telling him this week. I'd be very angry if I were in his place and found out that I was the last to know. Thank you all for listening....I'm sure I'll sort it out, but it helps to vent.