As promised...I want to go into my trials and tribulations of my cat drama recently. Now, I just want to state for the record that I am lifelong lover of cats, had one all during my childhood and early 20s, and found Cassiopeia ("Cassie") when she was barely two weeks old. I ask that you please not judge me, as I have been fortunate not to have lived with my mistakes. Thank you for any and all advice you can give me.
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Hi guys, first let me introduce myself. My name is Taryn and i just found this website today. Believe me, the time could not be any better.
I have kind of a long story about my furbaby(s) -- it's complex, but there is a point and I basically just need to let it all out
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Three years ago, my boyfriend found a baby kitten crying in our backyard. She was probably about two weeks old, separated from her mother for whatever reason. We found a not-for-profit organization that would wean her, socialize her with other cats, and we got her back roughly five weeks later. This is Cassie.
Cassie is a beautiful healthy calico. She is also temperamental, which I hear is a characteristic of calicos.
She is also very quirky, for example, in the middle of the night she will climb on my boyfriend and purr so loudly that it wakes both of us up. She is clingy, but then not. She is also extremely shy around strangers, she will run and hide under our covers whenever people come over. This was after her spaying, she was not like that when she was a kitty. But for the most part, she has been socialized with humans, not other cats.
Enter Napoleon Dynamite. We met him at a shelter a week and a half ago and fell in love with him. We had been talking to some friends and other cat lovers about getting another cat, we weren't sure how well Cassie would take to it, blah blah blah. Of course, we got the rigamarole of "get them used to each other's scents, and sounds...then let them see each other" etc etc. So we bring Napoleon home. That is the beginning of my troubles.
Napoleon is a boy, the shelter said he was three, but we think he is in his "terrible twos" the way he is so hyper and rambunctious. Cassie is playful but about 80% of the time, very mellow.
Anyway, my boyfriend, duing the "incubation stage" about two days into the "meet and greet" sessions, Napoleon escaped from the room we kept him in. Not good. Cassie FLIPPED OUT when he jumped next to her, and she started hissing and growling, and getting all antsy. Truth be told, we kind of expected that, but what we didn't expect was THIS:
About five hours after that incident, Cassie lunged and attacked my boyfriend. He's OK but enough to make him rethink the whole introducing a new cat situation. He told me he was going to take Napoleon back to the ASPCA. We were extremely grief-stricken but we thought it was for the best.
That same day, my boyfriend started analyzing Cassie and realized...she's sort of antisocial and can be aggressive with us at times. Our vet told us that this is because her mother never told her to stop biting (or rather, swatted her to let her know) and that biting hurts. I was against this, but my boyfriend thought we might be better off bringing her back to a shelter herself and letting experts work with her.
In the meantime, the ASPCA let us re-adopt Napoleon.
Needless to say, we were extremely grief-stricken before, but we needed Cassie back, even if it meant rehabilitation by us. The shelter had not gotten her adopted so we took her back too. Dare I say, that Cassie is still a little stressed, has not eaten too much, and vomited once yesterday morning (this is strange because she almost never vomits).
SO if you have following, we have two cats again. Cassie (the original "resident" cat) and Napoleon (the "defacto" resident cat). Now, we are doing the whole meeting "by the book" and since Cassie is less of a flight risk, we decided to leave her in the spare room, but let them smell and hear each other.
I'm sure you can tell by now, that I am a complete wreck. My vet has recommended "Feliway" or "anti-depressants" for Cassie, I'm not too sure about kitty prozac but maybe Feliway.
I'm sorry that I am taking up so much of your time, but in this past week, I have been so grief-stricken, to happy, to driven to get these cats to at least tolerate each other's presence (I know Napoleon won't mind, he's very outgoing, it's going to take a lot to get Cassie on board, potentially months to be honest). I need to make sure that I am doing this right. I need some support. Please let me know how you've handled your problem cats.
I also ask, that in light of what I have told you, that you please not hold judgment over me. I am fortunate enough that I was able to not have to live with my mistakes, and I am so grateful for it. Now I am looking to do this right.
Thanks for listening. Even if you don't have any advice for me, I just needed to get this off my chest.
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Hi guys, first let me introduce myself. My name is Taryn and i just found this website today. Believe me, the time could not be any better.
I have kind of a long story about my furbaby(s) -- it's complex, but there is a point and I basically just need to let it all out
Three years ago, my boyfriend found a baby kitten crying in our backyard. She was probably about two weeks old, separated from her mother for whatever reason. We found a not-for-profit organization that would wean her, socialize her with other cats, and we got her back roughly five weeks later. This is Cassie.
Cassie is a beautiful healthy calico. She is also temperamental, which I hear is a characteristic of calicos.
Enter Napoleon Dynamite. We met him at a shelter a week and a half ago and fell in love with him. We had been talking to some friends and other cat lovers about getting another cat, we weren't sure how well Cassie would take to it, blah blah blah. Of course, we got the rigamarole of "get them used to each other's scents, and sounds...then let them see each other" etc etc. So we bring Napoleon home. That is the beginning of my troubles.
Napoleon is a boy, the shelter said he was three, but we think he is in his "terrible twos" the way he is so hyper and rambunctious. Cassie is playful but about 80% of the time, very mellow.
Anyway, my boyfriend, duing the "incubation stage" about two days into the "meet and greet" sessions, Napoleon escaped from the room we kept him in. Not good. Cassie FLIPPED OUT when he jumped next to her, and she started hissing and growling, and getting all antsy. Truth be told, we kind of expected that, but what we didn't expect was THIS:
About five hours after that incident, Cassie lunged and attacked my boyfriend. He's OK but enough to make him rethink the whole introducing a new cat situation. He told me he was going to take Napoleon back to the ASPCA. We were extremely grief-stricken but we thought it was for the best.
That same day, my boyfriend started analyzing Cassie and realized...she's sort of antisocial and can be aggressive with us at times. Our vet told us that this is because her mother never told her to stop biting (or rather, swatted her to let her know) and that biting hurts. I was against this, but my boyfriend thought we might be better off bringing her back to a shelter herself and letting experts work with her.
In the meantime, the ASPCA let us re-adopt Napoleon.
Needless to say, we were extremely grief-stricken before, but we needed Cassie back, even if it meant rehabilitation by us. The shelter had not gotten her adopted so we took her back too. Dare I say, that Cassie is still a little stressed, has not eaten too much, and vomited once yesterday morning (this is strange because she almost never vomits).
SO if you have following, we have two cats again. Cassie (the original "resident" cat) and Napoleon (the "defacto" resident cat). Now, we are doing the whole meeting "by the book" and since Cassie is less of a flight risk, we decided to leave her in the spare room, but let them smell and hear each other.
I'm sure you can tell by now, that I am a complete wreck. My vet has recommended "Feliway" or "anti-depressants" for Cassie, I'm not too sure about kitty prozac but maybe Feliway.
I'm sorry that I am taking up so much of your time, but in this past week, I have been so grief-stricken, to happy, to driven to get these cats to at least tolerate each other's presence (I know Napoleon won't mind, he's very outgoing, it's going to take a lot to get Cassie on board, potentially months to be honest). I need to make sure that I am doing this right. I need some support. Please let me know how you've handled your problem cats.
I also ask, that in light of what I have told you, that you please not hold judgment over me. I am fortunate enough that I was able to not have to live with my mistakes, and I am so grateful for it. Now I am looking to do this right.
Thanks for listening. Even if you don't have any advice for me, I just needed to get this off my chest.