Hi guys - need advice. Have been on sick the last five weeks due to a stomach problem that put me in the A and E dept for a day in hospital. I have had an ulcer that was bleeding, caused I guess by upset and stress through the divorce etc.
However, when my ex wife and I parted - I took on all the debts and said I would work to pay them off, leaving my ex (still loved) with caring for our dear son. I wanted them to not have to have money going out that would mean our son would lose out on things. My ex is doing really well and has her own place and moving on. I am financially crippled. One of the biggest outlays is as follows:
My job is 26 miles away and I am racking up over £200.00+ per month in fuel costs alone. I have been to see my bank and also a financial advisor who both - as well as a debt specialist - have all said that I need to cut down on things massively - being fuel and find a job nearer where I am currently living. That would start making in roads quick on the other debts.
Ok - thats fine.
However, come monday, I go back to the office as the ulcer is a lot easier and I will have a review about health and work. Question is though, should I sit down with my boss and tell her that having taken a lot of financial advice, I just cant afford to work where I am due to the large chunk of money being taken out for fuel every month and its costing me more than I have left? That I am having to look for something nearer where I am in order to cut down on expenses, pay off the c.cards etc quicker and thus, be able to get my own place and start again with a new life? I take my son out on a sunday and I cant afford to do anything with him which is heart breaking although he just enjoys the company, the play fights etc. Bless him.
Unsure if to be honest and lay my cards on the table with her or not as she can be funny about things?
Opinions and advice gratefully received.
Kev
However, when my ex wife and I parted - I took on all the debts and said I would work to pay them off, leaving my ex (still loved) with caring for our dear son. I wanted them to not have to have money going out that would mean our son would lose out on things. My ex is doing really well and has her own place and moving on. I am financially crippled. One of the biggest outlays is as follows:
My job is 26 miles away and I am racking up over £200.00+ per month in fuel costs alone. I have been to see my bank and also a financial advisor who both - as well as a debt specialist - have all said that I need to cut down on things massively - being fuel and find a job nearer where I am currently living. That would start making in roads quick on the other debts.
Ok - thats fine.
However, come monday, I go back to the office as the ulcer is a lot easier and I will have a review about health and work. Question is though, should I sit down with my boss and tell her that having taken a lot of financial advice, I just cant afford to work where I am due to the large chunk of money being taken out for fuel every month and its costing me more than I have left? That I am having to look for something nearer where I am in order to cut down on expenses, pay off the c.cards etc quicker and thus, be able to get my own place and start again with a new life? I take my son out on a sunday and I cant afford to do anything with him which is heart breaking although he just enjoys the company, the play fights etc. Bless him.
Unsure if to be honest and lay my cards on the table with her or not as she can be funny about things?
Opinions and advice gratefully received.
Kev