How do you show *extra* love to a cat who's not fond of lovin?

I've posted so many new threads lately but I have so many "issues"...

I know I'm supposed to make sure Max and Baylee don't feel neglected since we brought in Jordan. I know I'm supposed to treat them extra nicely, make sure they feel loved. That's easy for Max, I start petting him and he falls over, totally happy and relaxed.

But Baylee... not a lap cat, not a cat who likes to be petted, really (she walks away after a second). She's not too fond of most of the treats I've found, she just really prefers her space. So what do I do?

Talk to her.

My Lilo is exactly the same way. I have noticed that when I get down to her level and lay with her and just talk to her straight in the face.... she stays there with me a lot longer. I just tell her stuff like .... I love her. How Im proud of her that she had 7 beautiful babies and was/ is a wonderful momma to them . I also tell her she is still my little princess although she is not the only kitty anymore.

Now for treats .... you have got to try WHISKAS TEMPTATIONS
they come in lots of flavors. Lilo just cannot resist them. Actually, none of my cats can resist them.

Ari-

Don't stress out so much over these cats. They know you love them, you feed them, give them water and change their litte pans. You don't have to overcompensate just because you added a new cat to the group. Just let them be what they are cats, and don't worry so much- you are going to give yourself an ulcer!

Ari just don't force yourself onto them. You know how Rosie was when Sophie first came and it's took over a year for her to come onto my lap etc...

But all i did and "still " do was to talk to her, and where ever she sits or lies when i walk past her, i will always stop and give the top of her head a stroke and she does that slow blinking of her eyes to show she's content and at ease

If Baylee doesn't like to be petted just sit for a couple of minutes and talk to her in a soft voice and that will help a lot.

Does she like to play? Taking a little time for some interactive play is a great way to show affection for a cat who doesn't like too much cuddling & petting, but likes to play. Rotating the toys used can help keep her interest, too.

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You can also try kitty language for 'I love you' : occasionally when she looks at you, give her a slow blink.

Just talk real sweet to her. She knows your voice and your voice will be comforting to her. I've got 2 girlcats who are affectionate only when they want to be... sometimes I really have to work for their affection! But it's my VOICE that makes them relax. Even if they won't let me touch them, they'll still give me lovey eyes and headbutt the nearest object.

Hey guys. I have tried talking to her, she ignores me (the window and outside are far more interesting). I've tried the blinking thing so many times but it never works... and yeah she likes to play but I think somehow she outgrew it a bit and turned into a bump like Max. My baby grew up!

Originally Posted by pinkdaisy226

Hey guys. I have tried talking to her, she ignores me (the window and outside are far more interesting).

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Same Feeling here... ... ..... but you can´t open a can of whaterver food because........ ........ He´s on firts line, making his labour of inspection! ... .... ........................ .... ...

I am so happy to learn that my Lilo is not the only cat that is like this!!!

~SARAH~

Sarah, I guess our cats must be related somehow! And I don't mind it, she's not as needy as Max is (which can be a bit frustrating) but I wish she would cuddle sometimes.

Originally Posted by pinkdaisy226

Sarah, I guess our cats must be related somehow! And I don't mind it, she's not as needy as Max is (which can be a bit frustrating) but I wish she would cuddle sometimes.

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That sounds like Garfield!!!! Mr. Needy!!! I think he was taken from his mommy too soon. He always wants my attention. Which I dont mind. he gives me enough loving for him and Lilo together.
I guess you and I are going through the same situation with our cats. I love Lilo. As I do Garfield. But I have to work for Lilos affection where as Garfield just throws it at me!!

~SARAH~

Originally Posted by pinkdaisy226

Hey guys. I have tried talking to her, she ignores me (the window and outside are far more interesting). I've tried the blinking thing so many times but it never works... and yeah she likes to play but I think somehow she outgrew it a bit and turned into a bump like Max. My baby grew up!

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Aah, but is she ignoring you?!. People can talk to us and we can show were not listening, but we are really

Aw Sarah we must have the same cats, lol!!

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Aah, but is she ignoring you?!. People can talk to us and we can show were not listening, but we are really

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Hmmm.. interesting thought. Not sure...

I think it depends on the cat. Willow's more independent and couldn't care less if we paid attention to her, but she, like anyone else, will feel left out if we don't acknowledge her presence and only pay attention to the other pets. You just have to find the one thing they enjoy, and for Willow, that's a short scritching or stroking along the diamond between her nose and forehead. Make it short and just walk away, before she had a chance to get tired of the scritching or stroking (whichever of the two depends on her mood of the day. If she's frisky, it's a scritching, if she's upset, it's a smooth stroking). If I keep stroking, then she'll get tired of it and her mood won't be affected, but if I always have her wanting more, then she'll be acting happier and more eager when you show up. I don't know if it's the new way I'm treating her or her new food, but she's much more frisky and friendly these days.