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Ok this is my dilemma. I have a kitten name Mojave. I've had him for a month now. He is out of control. He has bitten me and strached me all over my body. When I'm cooking, he literally climbs on me to get to the counter. That pisses me off. Yes I know he is a kitten and he needs to play and all but it makes me so mad to the point where I can't feel the love for him. I decided to get a new kitten yesterday. I thought it would be his friend. Her name is Sassy. I brought her home around 12 yesterday afternoon. He has been attcking her since then. I have put him in his room so she can explore her environment. When I let him out she gets in a corner like she's scared. She doesnt move and if she moves an inch he pounces on her. I let them at it for a while but I have to stop it b/c he just won't quit. I have been thinking alot and I feel like a bad person, But I have thought that if it does'nt work out with them two, I'm going to take him back. My husband has'nt even gotten close to him b/c of the way Mojave is. I don't know what to do!!!! Please someone give me some advice!!!!
 

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How old is the kitten?, if he is old enough he should be neutered that might calm him down a bit.
 

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Do you have any toys your kitten can play with? Things such as tennis ball, pin pong ball, paper bag, empty soda box, etc. My kitten Izzie is almost 11 months old and she has PLENTY of energy to burn. All of the toys I have mentioned have helped her to burn lots of energy by playing with them.
 

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You can't rush introductions. Throwing two cats into a room together who have never met before rarely works. Do a search for "introductions" and you'll find pages and pages of useful information on how to go about introducing a new cat into the household.
 

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I would definitely post in the Behavior forums for extra advice!! It sounds like Mojave hasn't been properly socialized, and now your stuck with breaking bad habits. first of all, please realize that he has NO RIGHT to ever bite or use claws on people!! His mommy kitty sure wouldn't put up with that and nor should you! When he uses them, tell him No Claws!. He shouldn't be using you as a toy anyway; you're the Supreme Cat of your household, his safety and well-being are totally dependent on you. I know that you will get lots of great advice here in this site, so keep the faith - this can be worked out, with effort - Mojave might just be one of those rambunctious cats that turns out to be a great watch-cat - it's just the huge chore of getting his good traits to outnumber his naughty ones...I'll say prayers & light a candle for you & your family, including Hubby & Sassy......Take Care, Susan
 

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Originally Posted by sboricua

Ok this is my dilemma. I have a kitten name Mojave. I've had him for a month now. He is out of control. He has bitten me and strached me all over my body. When I'm cooking, he literally climbs on me to get to the counter. That pisses me off. Yes I know he is a kitten and he needs to play and all but it makes me so mad to the point where I can't feel the love for him. I decided to get a new kitten yesterday. I thought it would be his friend. Her name is Sassy. I brought her home around 12 yesterday afternoon. He has been attcking her since then. I have put him in his room so she can explore her environment. When I let him out she gets in a corner like she's scared. She doesnt move and if she moves an inch he pounces on her. I let them at it for a while but I have to stop it b/c he just won't quit. I have been thinking alot and I feel like a bad person, But I have thought that if it does'nt work out with them two, I'm going to take him back. My husband has'nt even gotten close to him b/c of the way Mojave is. I don't know what to do!!!! Please someone give me some advice!!!!
Ok first of all- it takes time for the cats to adjust to each other.
You need to introduce them to each other SLOWLY.

There's a wonderful thread about how to introduce cats to each other in the behavior forum. Here are the links.

http://www.thecatsite.com/Cats/Cat_B...cing_Cats.html

http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/sho...threadid=22138

Also there are some links regarding scratching, how to stop it, etc in the behavior forum. Here is the general link to that.
http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/showthread.php?t=22301

I KNOW these will be helpful to u. HANG IN THERE. It takes time and patience.

Do you have scratching posts, cat condos and/or toys? If so, make sure to play with him before dinner time and/or bedtime and that helps to wear them out..


It took me about 2-4 weeks to introduce a new cat to the existing cats home and all 5 of my cats loves each other MOST of the time (95% of the time) HEHEH.. SO it can take a while but I promise it'll work out if you follow the suggestions in these links.

Good luck and keep us posted!!
 

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Originally Posted by sboricua

Yes I know he is a kitten and he needs to play and all but it makes me so mad to the point where I can't feel the love for him. My husband has'nt even gotten close to him b/c of the way Mojave is. I don't know what to do!!!! Please someone give me some advice!!!!
It's not helping either if theres no love being shown towards the kitten/kittens.

You've said it yourself, you know he's a kitten and he needs play. Animals have to be treat like children at times, especially when their young because they don't know any different.
 

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after 6 months kittens do tend to calm down a bit.

try hissing at him when he's naughty, that way he will know he's doing wrong.

is he pure bred or a domestic?
 
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Originally Posted by Miss Mew

How old is the kitten?, if he is old enough he should be neutered that might calm him down a bit.
Yes when I got Mojave from the humane society, he was already neutered. He's around 2 months.
 
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Originally Posted by MissCharlotte

Do you have any toys your kitten can play with? Things such as tennis ball, pin pong ball, paper bag, empty soda box, etc. My kitten Izzie is almost 11 months old and she has PLENTY of energy to burn. All of the toys I have mentioned have helped her to burn lots of energy by playing with them.
He has balls, and mice. He also has this monkey that he loves. He likes small mouse toys. He runs all over the house with. He also has a scratching post and a scratching cardboard box that has cat nip in it. He hasn't used it untill he saw Sassy using it. Thank you for you suggestions
 
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Originally Posted by catsknowme

I would definitely post in the Behavior forums for extra advice!! It sounds like Mojave hasn't been properly socialized, and now your stuck with breaking bad habits. first of all, please realize that he has NO RIGHT to ever bite or use claws on people!! His mommy kitty sure wouldn't put up with that and nor should you! When he uses them, tell him No Claws!. He shouldn't be using you as a toy anyway; you're the Supreme Cat of your household, his safety and well-being are totally dependent on you. I know that you will get lots of great advice here in this site, so keep the faith - this can be worked out, with effort - Mojave might just be one of those rambunctious cats that turns out to be a great watch-cat - it's just the huge chore of getting his good traits to outnumber his naughty ones...I'll say prayers & light a candle for you & your family, including Hubby & Sassy......Take Care, Susan
Thank you for your suggestion, I will def post this in the behavior forum. I use the spray bottle everytime he does something wrong. Everyone has told me to use it
 
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Originally Posted by Pamela

Ok first of all- it takes time for the cats to adjust to each other.
You need to introduce them to each other SLOWLY.

There's a wonderful thread about how to introduce cats to each other in the behavior forum. Here are the links.

http://www.thecatsite.com/Cats/Cat_B...cing_Cats.html

http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/sho...threadid=22138

Also there are some links regarding scratching, how to stop it, etc in the behavior forum. Here is the general link to that.
http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/showthread.php?t=22301

I KNOW these will be helpful to u. HANG IN THERE. It takes time and patience.

Do you have scratching posts, cat condos and/or toys? If so, make sure to play with him before dinner time and/or bedtime and that helps to wear them out..


It took me about 2-4 weeks to introduce a new cat to the existing cats home and all 5 of my cats loves each other MOST of the time (95% of the time) HEHEH.. SO it can take a while but I promise it'll work out if you follow the suggestions in these links.

Good luck and keep us posted!!
Yes I do have a scrating post for him, he has a scratching cardboard box with catnip in it. He has'nt used it until he saw Sassy using it. He has balls, mice. and a monkey he loves to play with. Thank you for the links, I will def use them
 
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Originally Posted by rosiemac

It's not helping either if theres no love being shown towards the kitten/kittens.

You've said it yourself, you know he's a kitten and he needs play. Animals have to be treat like children at times, especially when their young because they don't know any different.
No don't get me wrong, I show him alot of affection. He will sleep on my chest and I give him love and kisses all the time but when he does what he does it just pushing me away. I pet him and play with him all th etime. But when it's time for me to do something like cook he just doesn't seem to understand that I can't play right now. But I do show love
 
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Originally Posted by Miss Mew

How old is the kitten?, if he is old enough he should be neutered that might calm him down a bit.
Hi I just wanted to give you an update on my situation. Mojave and Sassy are getting along. I don't have to put her in her own room. They sleep together and play. I am so happy
it only took a week. i thought I was going to go crazy!! Just wanting you to know
 
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Originally Posted by rosiemac

It's not helping either if theres no love being shown towards the kitten/kittens.

You've said it yourself, you know he's a kitten and he needs play. Animals have to be treat like children at times, especially when their young because they don't know any different.
Hi I just wanted to give you an update on Mojave and Sassy. They are getting along. It took only a week. They play and run around the house together and they even sleep near each other. I don't have to put her in her own room anymore.
 
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Originally Posted by Pamela

Ok first of all- it takes time for the cats to adjust to each other.
You need to introduce them to each other SLOWLY.

There's a wonderful thread about how to introduce cats to each other in the behavior forum. Here are the links.

http://www.thecatsite.com/Cats/Cat_B...cing_Cats.html

http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/sho...threadid=22138

Also there are some links regarding scratching, how to stop it, etc in the behavior forum. Here is the general link to that.
http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/showthread.php?t=22301

I KNOW these will be helpful to u. HANG IN THERE. It takes time and patience.

Do you have scratching posts, cat condos and/or toys? If so, make sure to play with him before dinner time and/or bedtime and that helps to wear them out..


It took me about 2-4 weeks to introduce a new cat to the existing cats home and all 5 of my cats loves each other MOST of the time (95% of the time) HEHEH.. SO it can take a while but I promise it'll work out if you follow the suggestions in these links.

Good luck and keep us posted!!
Hi, I just want to give you an update on Mojave and Sassy. They are getting along. They are actually sleeping together on the computer desk right now!! They play and run around. I don't have to put her in her own room anymore. I have bought him the soft paws to put on his claws. which so far is working and hes not scratching. I'm happy
 

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Originally Posted by sboricua

Hi, I just want to give you an update on Mojave and Sassy. They are getting along. They are actually sleeping together on the computer desk right now!! They play and run around. I don't have to put her in her own room anymore. I have bought him the soft paws to put on his claws. which so far is working and hes not scratching. I'm happy
I am so happy to hear that it has worked out!! Would love to see pics! Keep us posted.
 
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