Poll:Visitors-Should They Call Before Dropping By?

This thread is insipred by my sister, who likes to just drop by for a visit without a warning phonecall. I personally don't like it, & think it is inconsiderate. Please vote, & post your opinions.


1. It's okay for someone to just stop by whenever they are in the area without calling first, I don't mind!

2. I don't like unexpected visits! I consider them rude &/or inconsiderate. They should at least call first!

(I'm not confident that this is actually going to post in a polled format, so please bear with me!)

P.S. How do you post polls, anyway?

I cannot stand 'drop ins'.
If you don't call first, don't expect me to open the door!

I would rather people call before they visit, but I don't mind my family or boyfriend stoping by.

Yes, please just drop by! I love the excitment and drama it brings!!

(unless its a new bf, then i need pleanty of warning to plaster on some make up and have perfect hair and 'lounge wear'!)

If people don't call first, unless I'm where they can see me from the entry hall, I just don't bother to answer the door. I have terrible sleep problems and can rarely get more than four hours sleep at night. Consequently, I have a "split shift" sleep schedule, sleeping for several hours during the day. If people call first, since I take my phone off the hook when I sleep daytime, they don't disturb my sleep. But I get really ticked off if someone comes to the door and wakes me. Besides, it is just plain rude, whether I'm awake or not.

Absolutely I think it's rude.

I hate when people drop by unexpected!!

On the whole, I'd prefer to have a quick heads-up call, but I'm not going to get particularly upset at the occasional unannounced drop-in.

I HATE it when people drop in unannounced - I absolutely consider it totally rude and inconsiderate. I actually will not even answer my buzzer if someone just drops in.

I really hate it when people stop by unexpected...i may need to tidy up or change clothes....all i ask is that you call and give me ar least 30 minutes notice...i dont do it to others, in hopes they dont do it to me!!

I generally dont mind it too much - But at the moment we have a very small place and I like warning If I am going to have visitors so that I can re-arrange a bit.

My partner has a friend who likes to drop by unannounced, and he stays for hours on end... This guy does not seem to realise when he has worn out his welcome - Swedish people can be a bit reserved sometimes when it comes to saying what they think, but even my mild mannered boyfriend has gotten quite blunt with him and he just does not seem to understand.

You have to literally get up and walk away from him and start doing something else (he usually stays so long its bedtime so I will just go in the bathroom and get ready for bed). If he is still hanging around when we have done all of that my poor boyfriend can tell I am starting to freak out if this guy does not get out of our house in about 30 seconds...

We have to open the door - thats how strong a hint he needs. Just telling him "Its pretty late ****, we are going to bed now, ok", he does not seem to hear us or understand that means he has to go home. I dont think the guy is lonely - he is a real party animal and has a long term girlfriend.

I just dont think he understands that arriving un-announced at lunchtime and leaving at midnight is not cool. My heart just sinks when it is him at the door - I know the whole darn afternoon is over...

When people drop by unexpectedly, I don't answer the door. I think it's extremely rude, and I don't like being suddenly imposed on. In fact, I don't open the door to anyone unless they call first. And even then, I often don't answer the phone, and expect a message will be left if it's important enough.

Ugh! That would bug me, too. Mike's friend used to do that till we moved & didn't tell him where we went!
What is everyone's outlook on family? My sister has always done this to me..today I got a message about "where are you, the car's out back.." etc, etc. I think I will just tell her we don't like drop-ins & leave it at that.

Originally Posted by vespacat

When people drop by unexpectedly, I don't answer the door. I think it's extremely rude, and I don't like being suddenly imposed on. In fact, I don't open the door to anyone unless they call first. And even then, I often don't answer the phone, and expect a message will be left if it's important enough.

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Yeah, on the phone! We've had enough trouble with unwanted calls that among other things we took call display and now our outgoing message says if we don't recognize the incoming number we usually don't answer, but if you leave a message it may get you a quick call-back.

Originally Posted by Me-n-my guys

Ugh! That would bug me, too. Mike's friend used to do that till we moved & didn't tell him where we went!
What is everyone's outlook on family? My sister has always done this to me..today I got a message about "where are you, the car's out back.." etc, etc. I think I will just tell her we don't like drop-ins & leave it at that.

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Yeah - the guy turned up half drunk the other night at 4am, there was no way he was coming in...

Relatives - hmmm. Sometimes good, sometimes bad. I dont really live near any of my family so its just partners family that tend to drop in. They do usually ring first - but often not long enough in advance. Coffee and cake for your guests is pretty important in sweden, its kind of tradition I guess. Coffee and and cake, biscuts etc is pretty big, fullstop. I'm trying to lose weight, so I dont really keep that stuff around all the time.

When, for example, grandma and auntie and little cousin just drop by with a 5 minute phone call beforehand, its a bit of a scramble to see if I'm dressed decent, the place looks ok, make sure I have milk for coffee, anything sweet and edible, and chairs for them all to sit on!! (I'm sorry SillyJilly, but I'm really sure I beat you in the worlds smallest apartment contest! )

So yeah, I really do prefer relatives to call at least an hour in advance so I can run to the store and get goodies, or even bake something If I'm really feeling domestic

Most of my family members are 1800 miles away, so I don't get unexpected drop-ins from them. My stepdaughter, however, lives only 40 miles away. She is so allergic to cats that last time she planned to stay overnight, she instead left right after dinner and her eyelids were swelling so bad one eye swelled shut on her drive home. Consequently, I want to be able to thoroughly vacuum and dust before she comes. And with a bad back and a huge house, I like to be able to spread the vacuuming over two days, so as not to re-injure my back. Plus, I need time to plan menus, buy groceries, and perhaps do some food preparation in advance. And sometimes I might have other things planned for the last few days of the week. So I've asked her repeatedly to let me know no later than Wednesday night if she plans to come on the weekend. So guess what? Last Sunday night she called and said, "I tried to call you earlier. I was going to drive out there this afternoon, but you didn't answer the phone." Man, I'm glad I didn't answer the phone!

Right now I'd be so happy to see some of my family and friends that however they wanted to drop by would be fine with me!

I miss them all