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post #91 of 112
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KEV....
I am sorry to hear this news...it will get easier each day...you need your family and friends the most during these times!!!
post #92 of 112
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Originally Posted by caprice
Can someone please explain to me why people stay together for so long and not get married? I know some of you have been with your partners for years now, but why not get married? I know there are many reasons, but...what is your story? (hope I am not crossing any lines here, just wondering...my husband and I always ask ourselves why?)
I've been with my b/f for 5 years..he lives in memphis tn and i live in Little rock, ark.-- we both were unsure about alot of things...and so 5 years and alot of hard times later...we are now building a house together here in arkansas and will be ready by december so he'll be here soon!!!
post #93 of 112
Interesting... over 70% of TCS is taken.
post #94 of 112
Awwwwwww, Wyan, you sound disappointed! If it makes you feel any better, that means 30% of us are still available, including me
post #95 of 112
I just celebrated 8 years yesterday to my wonderful Hubby and have gotten two beautiful babies out of it.
post #96 of 112
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Originally Posted by kev
There is no category for me - however, I was officially divorced on 7 July 05 and am totally devastated. Alone, single, call it what you will. Miss my ex wife and son terribly every day and would do anything for them.
Devastated is all I can say with no hope financially or otherwise for the future.
K
How heartbreaking!

It will get better even if it doesn't feel like it right now.
post #97 of 112
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Originally Posted by caprice
Can someone please explain to me why people stay together for so long and not get married? I know some of you have been with your partners for years now, but why not get married? I know there are many reasons, but...what is your story? (hope I am not crossing any lines here, just wondering...my husband and I always ask ourselves why?)
Let me ask you a question. When you exchanged your vows -- when you said "until death us do part" or however it was worded in your service -- had you any thought that it might become impossible at some point to keep that vow?

Maybe that was unfair. But neither did Rob when he married Jan in 1970. For that matter, neither did Jan. And they tried. They really tried. Despite the fact that they both knew they were in trouble within five years, it took them eleven to pull the plug.

If there's one thing you can say about Rob, it is that he is a man of his word. I've seen him agonize over breaking a commitment to a friend in some very trivial matter -- sometimes accepting serious inconvenience, rather than pick up the phone and say, "Sorry, Joe, such-and-such has happened. Do you mind if we don't...etc?"

It really freaked him bigtime when he had to break that vow -- even though it was a mutual breaking of it, if you will. He's put a lot of stuff back together in the ensuing 20-odd years, and is a happier person than he was when I met him. But the publicly spoken commitment is and always will be a sticking point. He hadn't any less reason to have confidence in his ability to keep the vow in 1970 than he had in 1990 when we merged households -- so it's just something he can't do again.

But I don't care. Because what we forego is a ceremony and some signatures. We have the marriage. I feel his commitment in so many ways -- big and small -- every day, and there's no way I will jeopardize that for the sake of a ceremony.

I certainly don't mean to put down the ceremony -- the public affirmation of the commitment, the milestone event, etc. Not for a minute. In the best of all possible worlds, the public utterance of those words would not be an issue, and we'd have done it too. But life is not perfect, and choices have to be made. I made mine: Rob.

There's one story -- for what it's worth.
post #98 of 112
Married...will be 13 years in September
post #99 of 112
Dating for the last 4 years.... and wondering where the sparkly thing is!!

By the way Fran, very well said. Ceremonies are all very nice for those who want them (myself included, I have to be honest) but they're not really necessary if you're contented just the way you are when all is said and done, the ceremony isn't really about the wedding couple, it's more there for other people around you. How many people say that their wedding day actually went by in a blur!?
post #100 of 112
I'm happily single ,but I have decided to try internet dating - you never know what could happen!

Juli
post #101 of 112
Go for it girl! The internet is where I met Rune! We've been together four years and finally now we're living together Anything's possible!
post #102 of 112
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Originally Posted by Julianne
I'm happily single ,but I have decided to try internet dating - you never know what could happen!

Juli
Just be very careful...there are alot of weirdos out there!!
post #103 of 112
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Originally Posted by yasmine
Just be very careful...there are alot of weirdos out there!!
TELL me about it!
post #104 of 112
Not to worry - I will be careful! I must admit it is quite fun
post #105 of 112
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Originally Posted by yasmine
Just be very careful...there are alot of weirdos out there!!

There are a lot of weirdos out there in regular life too. I've met more scary people in the flesh than I have on the internet.
post #106 of 112
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Originally Posted by Purity
Very happily single, and most likely planning on staying that way!

I get restless about once a year and start dating someone, only to find out a few months later that I prefer being single, and break it off. I'm only 27, but I think I'm too set in my ways to be part of a couple, I enjoy my own company and prefer a quiet night in to going out. Maybe if I meet 'Mr Right' I'll change my mind, but I'll be damned if I'm going to date/marry someone just because it's the socially acceptable thing to do.

I also love living on my own! I love being able to come home, change into something comfy and spend an hour playing with the kittens before collapsing on the sofa and watching a bit of crap tv! If I want a takeaway I can have one, and I don't have to worry about cooking if I don't feel like it. Selfish maybe, but happy!

It's good to find other people that have this outlook on things. Most people look at me like I've grown another head when I say I'm happy being single and plan on staying that way.

Now that being said if Mr. Right fell in my lap I wouldn't toss him off or anything. I'm just not looking for it. And I refuse to be with someone just to say I'm with someone.
post #107 of 112
Divorced after 11 years, but now happily remarried for 2 years to a wonderful guy!
post #108 of 112
Married 2 times the first time for 32 years from the time I was 15 till I was 47, he passed away at 50
I am remarried to a wonderful supportive man for 8 years now august 17th, I met my current hubby on AOL just goes to show you that it does work, I still consider myself a very lucky person to have found 2 wonderful men
post #109 of 112
Married but separated almost a year.
post #110 of 112
Single can't marrie until I'm at least 18 where i live
post #111 of 112
Married 18yrs now
post #112 of 112
I'm probably going to die alone and my body will be eaten by wild dogs before anyone notices I'm gone.
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