please help im devastated!!!!!!

can anyone offer me some reasurrance as i feel im going crazy, i got a male rescue cat 2 years ago called sid who was 12 at the time, i live alone and he has meant the world to me, i loved hime more than life itself, sometimes even at work i would want to be at home just to be with him! (odd i know!) - probably over the passed month my dad and sister both mentioned how old and scrawny he was looking, however it was put down to age, i had noticed some blood coming from his mouth and made a note to book him in at the vets, a few days later, he still hadnt gone and he suddenly seemed really quite bad and struggled holding his head up, the vet saw him the next day and had to re-hydrate him there and then, he has since been back a few days later and they took him in for 4 days to keep him on a drip for kidney failure and high blood pressure, when i went to pick him up he was like a different cat, so thin and unmotivated, two days later i had to put him down, that was moday just gone and i am constantly thinking how he may have made it if id just have taken him a few weeks before, i miss him so badly it hurts and just want him back, the guilt and pain is killing me - can anyone help??????

I'm so sorry to hear about Sid. Please don't second guess yourself about this.
You made the best decision you could for him, one motivated by love. It's been a while since I had to have my cat, Willy, put to sleep, but I remember the pain and guilt you are experiencing. I wish I say or do something to ease your sense of loss. It will get easier with time. Meanwhile, please know
you and Sid are in my thoughts and prayers and that you will find plenty of support here. Take care.

Hon, honestly I know that there are no words in the English language to take away your pain right now. Kitties are very good at hiding their sickness until it's too late to do anything about it ....it's survival instinct. So, even by the time you noticed that something was amiss, not much could have been done about it....you just might have been forewarned that the day which all of us here dread was coming, and pretty soon. Please don't beat yourself up over it......and don't forget that we're here for you... {{{HUGS}}}

I am very sorry for your loss. Please know that you are not alone in losing a beloved cat. Two years is too short of a time to spend with a loved one, I am sorry his stay with you was so brief. But you are a good person to rescue an older cat, and make his final time on earth a time of love and good care.

Some of the symptoms you listed makes it sound like he may not have survived even with optimal vet care, and maybe he would have spent more days away from home. Do you have other cats or pets to help ease your pain at this time? I certainly hope so, or if not that you are able to get another furkid to carry on Sid's legacy, when the time is right.

Condolences from Becky and furkids!

I am sorry for your loss of your beloved Sid. Please do not beat yourself up over this. It was a merciful thing to a sick loved one. Of course you miss him, and you will always remember him. Remember that you loved him enough to not let him suffer, and with that illness, he would have. I know it may be too soon for you, but I like to think that for every loved kitty that passes away, it leaves a loving nome for one that desrerately needs one. You can never replace Sid, but you can have another kitty to comfort you.

Nothing hurts so much as the loss of a loved pet. You can not do this to yourself.

You did the best you could for him, he could not talk to you and tell you how he felt. You fed him, you watered him, you loved him.

Unfortunately, none of our babies live forever. You did the very best you could.

Remember him as he used to be, happy, lively, warm, well-fed, loved and in peace.

Even if you had moved quicker in getting him to the vet, no one here can tell you if that would have made a difference. Sometimes, we just don't listen to our gut and that can go wrong as it did in this case. Everyone learns something in a situation like this, so take what you have learned and apply it to your life and come out the other end of grief a different person than you were before you entered into mourning-

Godspeed, Sid! The others are right - do NOT be so hard on yourself!! You did the right thing for Sid, the vet wouldn't have put him down if the prognosis was good. I have kidney trouble, and believe me, you saved Sid from a fate worse than death, had he continued to suffer from kidney troubles (which undoubtably he would have). No, I am sure that our Dear Creator welcomed Sid home with, "Come in, little one, and enjoy your reward, you dear and devoted cat." And someday, Sid, and all the other cats & other pets whom you've loved will be there at the other side of RB, to be part of your eternal reward. You will be in my thoughts & prayers! Susan

Originally Posted by KittenKiya

Unfortunately, none of our babies live forever. You did the very best you could.
Remember him as he used to be, happy, lively, warm, well-fed, loved and in peace.

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yes...listen to Kittenkiya... she knows about this... ...but she made it, no matter the pain!...isn´t Janet?

My deep condolences... my thoughts with you and my prayers with your sweet angel....

Awww I'm sorry!

So sorry to hear of your loss, but if he had kidney troubles, i doubt doing anything sooner would have made a difference, as kidney problems cant be treated they can only be controlled, and as cats hide their pain, it sometimes isnt fair to do that. You did a brilliant thing by taking on an older cat, there are not a lot of people who will do that, and you gave him love, attention and most importantly, didnt make him suffer. That is the best thing you can do for him, and although it may not feel like it, it is a very great act of love.

Take care.

I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your sweet angel will meet again someday.

So sorry to hear of your loss. It's obvious how much Sid meant to you. Don't feel guilty, the choice you made was in his best interest and that shows more than anything how much you love him.

Originally Posted by Miss Mew

So sorry to hear of your loss. It's obvious how much Sid meant to you. Don't feel guilty, the choice you made was in his best interest and that shows more than anything how much you love him.

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First off, don't beat yourself up over not noticing or taking your baby to the vet. I went through this with my darling Sheba just over 18 months ago. She had liver problems, but by the time I took her to the vet, it was too late. She had the best care possible, but she decided the struggle was too much. For the longest time, I kept beating myself up over the "what ifs" but in the end I stopped doing that because I was making myself sick. I miss my girl terribly and would give anything to be able to huggle her again. The only way I can do that now is in my memories and my heart, but that's all I've got now. She knew I loved her so very much, and I just know your baby did too!

Maggie in Western Australia

I'm so sorry for your loss, but you must NOT blame yourself! Cats are incredible about hiding illnesses or pain -- take it from one who has lost many and knows what you're feeling all too well. Remember -- you WILL be together again someday!

I am so sorry to hear of your loss of Sid. He sounds like he was a treasure to have. You released him from his pain and that is the greatest act of kindness you can do when someone is in pain. Take care of yourself and know that you will both meet at the bridge someday. My thoughts are with you. RIP Sid

I am so very sorry for your loss
please do not beat yourself up about this, you rescued Sid 2 years ago and gave him the best 2 years of his life, thats what Sid will always remember

he will be watching over you from above and one day you will meet again Bless you for looking after Sid for the past 2 years and letting him know how loved he was

Hi!
I am so very sorry for your loss. Something similar happened to my 12 year old boy Junior. I understand how horrible you feel but it is not your fault. No one knows for sure if he would have made it even if you had brought him to the vet sooner. I am sure if he was a rescue you most likly loved him more then any one before you had. If you want to talk more with me feel free to send me a Private Message or email me at [email protected] . You can email me any time.

Again I am very sorry!
Good Bye!

I am so sad for you, but you did what was best for this loved kitty. You gave him a good life.
I am praying for you.
It is like losing a child.