Do you believe in marriage?

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My parents have been together since they were 15. They have never gotten married, they just didnt feel they needed to. Sometimes they talked about it but that was mainly because of pressure from family.

I am undecided. On one hand, its tradition - something cool to tell your kids about and a nice way to make a symbolic commitment to one another.

on the other hand - Just because people have been getting married for years and years does not make it a good thing nor does it mean I have to follow suit. I dont need a ceremony to prove I love my partner.

Time will tell
 

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I absolutely believe in marriage!! I've been happily married for 2 years now.

I'll admit, though, that I didn't always feel this way. After barely escaping three terrible engagements, two of which were abusive, I was at a point where I didn't believe in relationships, much less marriage. I swore I was going to stay single.

Then I met Pat, who has been married before and also swore he was never getting married. It took us 10 years to get engaged (we lived together for 9 of those years), and another two before the deed was done. So, we've been together for 14 years, and married for 2 of them.

Being married is so much better than living together!! But, like others have said, it needs to be taken seriously. Just loving each other is NOT enough. You MUST have total respect, absolute trust, a solid friendship and an unbreakable committment to go along with it in order to get through the tough times.
 

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I most defintely believe in marriage! My parents have been married for over 25 years and are still happy. I grew up seeing what a great marriage was like and that's what I want more than anything. I know I've found it with my bf of 8 years (we've lived together for 4 of the 8).
He's not in any hurry to get married and that's fine with me. Just knowing he wants to marry me, that our relationship has a future, is all I need right now.
 

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I want to believe in marriage, I really do. It's hard though, both of my parents come from past marriages and are truly unhappy in their current marriage. I don't really understand why they stay together, and my sister and I have asked them to get a divorce and stop all the pain time and time again.
I see other people who have been happy in their marriages though. Both sets of grandparents stayed together for about 53 years. In fact, my grandfather's funeral on my dad's side was on their 53rd wedding anniversary. It's so wonderful to see the love that the two of them had. It truly makes me believe in love.
With satistics the way they are though, with about a 50/50 chance of making it the first time and having the odds of divorce go up after each one...it makes me sad and wonder if marriage may be something that's been a social hype for generations and is slowly wearing off.
I guess some of my negative thoughts come from the fact that I recently broke up with my ex boyfriend who I loved so dearly. He just couldn't love me enough. I'd like to think that there will be someone out there who will treat me like the queen I am, but it's hard to get passed the pain that the last relationship caused. It feels like unconditional love from a man just isn't out there for me.
I hope someday that I can find the love that my grandmother has had, and maybe someone who will play the saxophone under MY window late at night
 

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It depends on the people but I say yes. some people just aren't meant to be married and I am glad we live in a time when that's ok. But I know so many really happy couples too!
 

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I am happily married. My parents are and so are my inlaws. My grandparents and both of Paul's. My sister however was divorced after three years. He was an ass though.
 

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I'm not sure, but I can't say that I do.
At 38, I'm the youngest of 4 sisters, all of us unmarried. I never bought into the whole fairy tale thing, just never cared. I'm in a good relationship now with a sweet, hardworking man, we are engaged, but I am still in no hurry. We could stay engaged forever & it wouldn't bother me.
 

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Been together 8 years, not married, maybe one day... Parents were divorced when I was 6 months old - I was born on their wedding anniversary.
Dad divorced second wife 1 year after my mom died. Married 3rd wife about 3 years ago - who he met on the internet!!!!
Sister's been married twice and that's a terrible relationship. Brother was married and divorced once and now has a girlfriend who is about twice his age - she's 56 he's 31.
Not sure where my thoughts really are on marriage, but I am not completely against it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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Originally Posted by darkeyedgirl

I have my own house, my own mind, and well people annoy me too much to live with anyone again. Even steady dating bothers me, let alone, a commitment!

I kind of feel that way too - almost everyone annoys me, I need a lot of space.....
 

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I was raised to believe in marriage. My mom, throughout my life has always told me there's someone out there for everyone. My parents have been together for 28 years (this august.) Me and my sister I feel are sometimes pressured to live up to my parents example. I hope we can but this 50% divorce rate has me wondering otherwise.
 

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Originally Posted by dawnofsierra

I do, and hope to one day find the man who is out there with whom I will share the rest of my life.
You will
 

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I think that marriage is beautiful. I'm really to young to decide. I personally think its too big on a commitment. You never know how your relationship will change after you're married.
 

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I do beleive in marriage but I've never been married yet. I would rather stay single that jump into a marriage that I'm not sure of. So you could sat I haven't found Mr right yet. I've been exposed to long marriages all my life. My parents have been married 32 years and my Grandparents just celebrated their 63rd anniversary last month. All my Grandpa's family were married 50+ years before one of them passed away
 

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wow 100 years together? Impressive stuff
I dunno... I do believe in marriage, and I also really believe it's got to be something really special. It's not just an affirmation of the way you feel for eachother - let's face it, you can do that just by living together. Marriage is a partnership, compromise, team effort.... yadda yadda yadda. My grandparents stayed together for 49 years - my grandfather unfotunately died before their 50th anniversary. One aunt has stayed single her whole life (mind you, truth be told, the man who took her on would have to have something wong with his head) and both my parents and my aunt and uncle on my mother's side were married for over 20 years before calling it a day. It's a mixed bag. You never know what it'll be like until you get down and do it. I'd love to marry...
 
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by the way - i didn't mean to have the poll so everyone saw who voted for what....now i don't know how to fix it....sorry!
 

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Originally Posted by journey

by the way - i didn't mean to have the poll so everyone saw who voted for what....now i don't know how to fix it....sorry!
Don't worry. It's not like you asked our bra sizes.
 
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