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My heart is breaking.

post #1 of 26
Thread Starter 
Well, my little Simon is missing.

On Monday night, my husband went out the back door and he ran out. We didn't think much of it. He sometimes will go out on the back steps and he loves the bushes. I wouldn't consider him an "outdoor" cat, sometimes he doesn't go out for days, and other times he'll spend 2 or 3 hours just running around the yard in the grass!
Anyway, he went out. We saw him sitting on the back steps, and I figured I'd open the door back up for him to come in. Well, that was the last I saw of him. I have no idea what has happened.

Its quite cold here, and we are getting snow as I type this. I am so horrified to think of what could have happened, or where he could be. He does have a collar and tags on, so if someone finds him they would be able to notify us.

Please, can all of you say a prayer and keep your fingers crossed that he finds his way home. Thank you.
I am going to call the animal control rescue today just to be sure that he wasn't picked up. And I am going to post some signs.

**sigh** I haven't had the heart to tell my kids that he may not come back at all. He is such a sweet little guy, with his big eyes and big white paws. I am just so dreadfully sad.
post #2 of 26
Oh Daniela, I am so sorry! I have been through this, and it's awful.

Hissy would recommend you leave a sweat-soaked t-shirt outside so your scent may attract him.

I am sending out posituive thoughts that yoiu may find Simon soon. Perhaps somebody took him in, due to the cold. I am keeping my fingers crossed.
post #3 of 26
How awful!

Daniela, I'll keep you and Simon in thoughts and prayers for reunion.

I dread the day I have to go through this.

post #4 of 26
Thread Starter 
I called Animal Control after I posted this morning, and they told me there had been a report of a dead cat sort of near my house. I don't know why, but I just knew it could not be him. I went outside anyway though just to look around, and to my horror I found my little Simon on the sidewalk about 10 feet away. He had been hit I think, and was totally frozen.

I am just so upset that I can't even see straight. He was the sweetest little kitty anybody could have ever dreamed of having. And he was still so young.

They picked him up for me and put him out back. My husband will have to bury him tonight when he gets home. I just don't know what to do now.
post #5 of 26
Oh, Daniela, I'm so sorry! My heart is breaking too.
post #6 of 26
Oh, Daniela...how terrible! I'm so sorry!

post #7 of 26
What a horrible thing! My heart is breaking for you.

post #8 of 26
Oh, I am so sorry, Daniela! That is horrible!

(((Hugs))) & tears for you

post #9 of 26
I am so terribly sorry to hear about your loss, especially so close to the holiday.
post #10 of 26
I am so very sorry to hear about Simon
post #11 of 26
Oh I'm so sorry about Simon! Hugs to You!
post #12 of 26
I'm so sorry to hear about Simon. That is such a sad thing to go through. You are both in my thoughts.

post #13 of 26
Thread Starter 
Thank you all for your posts. This is so much harder than I ever thought it would be. I've told my children, my two year old doesn't understand. My son is sad, but he is not falling apart like his mother is.

When Sunshine had Simon, we right away decided that he would be the one we'd keep. This is so devastating.
And Sunshine, well that is a whole other story. She is moping around, not eating, not even really moving. I feel horrible for her, Simon and her got along so great. They would play all day long, and sleep together. Ooooooooooooh, I am going to cry again. I better go.
post #14 of 26
Daniela, I wish I could hug you right now and be there for you. I'm so, so sorry hon...please listen to my message in your phone mail.

post #15 of 26
I know what a heartbreaker this is. I hope your heart will heal soon and perhaps it will allow you to take another cat into your life. You have so much love to give. hugs (((((((()))))))))
post #16 of 26
Daniela..... my heart goes out to you! It is soooo hard to loose a beloved pet and I know just how you feel.

Love, Meme
post #17 of 26
Sunshine sounds lonely and grieving too. I know you might not be ready, but if she doesn't seem better in a while (maybe soon, if she doesn't eat) you might want to get her another kitten to nurture (maybe a discarded Christmas kitten). But I'm sure you aren't ready for that yet.
post #18 of 26
Thread Starter 
Sunlion, I've gotten several emails from members here saying I should get another kitten as soon as I can.
I probably will, although I am not sure when. My husband never really wanted "2" cats to begin with, and I am not sure how quickly I can convince him to get a new one!

For right now, I will just try to get over my Simon. I tried to pick up Sunshine today to pet her, and she got really mean and tried to scratch and bite me. I guess she is much more affected than I had originally thought, she has never done that before.

If and when we get a new one, I'll be sure to let everyone here know! Thanks again for your support.
post #19 of 26

I am so very sorry to read the news about Simon. I'm not altogether sure on this one (Hissy would probably know), but it may help Sunshine to be able to see Simon's body and know he's gone for good. I have read that animals grieve in their own way and need closure, as we do.
post #20 of 26
to go through with it, but it would help Sunshine to see her friend and grieve properly. It is not an easy thing to do, but it does make it easier on the other cat in the long run. Again, Daniela I am so sorry for your sudden and tragic loss. Also, Suunshine is feeding off of your sadness and emotions so picking her up right now when you are so distraught, will only tend to complicate things. Wait until you are calmer and able to hold her as you would normally instead of seeking comfort in her fur and softness. Remember, she is more confused than normal as her world is suddenly tipped the other way.
post #21 of 26

I'm sorry, I'm not trying to push you into another kitten! I was just thinking about Sunshine being lonely, but that doesn't mean the rest of you are ready to add another purson to your family. I know you just need to grieve Simon right now.

I'm really sorry if you felt pressured!

post #22 of 26
Thread Starter 
Sunshine saw him ( I am 99% sure at least ). He was on the sidewalk outside, and we let her out last night ( when simon was still missing ) to see if she could lead us to him. She never did, but thinking back, I think she must have saw him yesterday. That is probably why she was acting so strangely all day long.
I may let her look at him once more before we bury him. My husband has to work until 10 tonight, so it won't get done till morning anyway.
Thanks for the great advice.
post #23 of 26
Thread Starter 
Oh Sunlion, I didn't feel pressured at all! Don't be silly. I was just saying that if it was up to me, I'd get one right away, BUT the hubby is not really a "cat person" and it may take some convincing!!!

You guys have all been great today, when I started this thread earlier I was bawling my eyes out. Now I feel a bit better tonight. But, I don't think I'll ever totally ever get over Simon. He was such a great kitty.
post #24 of 26
Daniela, I just got online today, after being offline for a week, and just now saw this.......

I am SO sorry!!! My heart is breaking for you, your kids, and Sunshine!!

I wish there was something I could do to make you all feel better!!!

Please know that I am thinking of you, and I am here if you need me!!!!
post #25 of 26
Oh Daniela,

I am so sorry to hear about Simon. My heart goes out to you and your family. To help his mama grieve, you might want to at least let her see his body. It would definitely help her know that he is gone. I wish I had done that with Marina Mar to spare Mollie Rose from her depression.

Please call me at work if you need to talk. You've got the number and know that I am always here for you.

post #26 of 26
I am so sorry for your loss.
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