Originally Posted by journey
But what about when my friend just picked her up, and she ran away as soon as he put her down and hissed at him, but as soon as he called her, she came right back to him so its not like she didn't like him.
I thought some cats were just hissy cats and hissed for inappropriate reasons? Like, it would be appropriate for her to run away after he put her down, but to hiss at him seems so aggressive?
What is her body language like when she hisses? Are her ears up or flat back? From everything you've said about her, it really sounds to me like she is just trying to communicate with you. If she isn't lunging at you, or attacking you, she doesn't sound aggressive.
She may have learned at her previous home that the subtle signals didn't work, but when she hissed both human and feline took notice. You may want to just talk with her, and tell her that she doesn't need to hiss at you, that you will try to listen to her without having to hiss. (I know it sounds strange, but cats are smarter than we give them credit for...)
My little girl still hisses at us once in a while when we push her limits, or we startle her. She's almost 6 years old, and we've had her since she was a very scared little 6 week old kitten. She hasn't been mistreated, but that's one of the ways she communicates with us in extreme cases.