I wasn't sure if this belongs in IMO or not. I figured it probably isn't controversial. This gets long, so there is a nice short version first!
Short version:
Should Nate and I elope before getting married in December, but still have a wedding so that we can afford to send him to paramedic school and give our families the celebration they deserve? His family is opposed to elopment, mine doesn't care.
Long version:
Nate and I are getting married December 10th of this year. However, he was accepted into a paramedic program, offered at a local college and we can't really afford tuition. His parents techically make too much for him to get any financial aid (he found this out by spending two years in college) and since he will only be 23 next month he cannot claim himself as an independant. His parents refuse to emancipate him. So- two years ago we had planned on being married by May- but pushed it back so that his sister could be at the wedding (she's stationed overseas). If we eloped next month he would have access to much needed financial aid. His parents have never supported him financially and he's never used any education grants, of which there are two in this state that are quite substantial. Since I filled out my FAFSA already and counted the amount I am eligable for when we are married we realized just how necessary this aid would be for him to complete school and do what he loves the most. He would have access to grants and subsidized loans. It may not seem like a big deal to postpone starting paramedic school until we are married- but it really is important.
We thought about eloping next month and keeping it hush hush, except for my mom, brother, and stepdad. My family does not care if I elope, his family is pretty opposed to the idea. I read an article in Brides or Modern Brides about how getting eloped before the wedding to cut down on stress, etc. is becoming more and more popular.
My question is, what do you all think? I know that there is one person on here who eloped (KatBoy?) and it went well for him. Has anyone else ever eloped or known someone who has? Do you all know of anyone who eloped, kept it hidden, and later had a "normal" wedding with all the family? It feels dishonest to me, but at the same time more than justified and necessary. Does anyone have any advice for how go into this situation, or whether we should let everyone know?
Short version:
Should Nate and I elope before getting married in December, but still have a wedding so that we can afford to send him to paramedic school and give our families the celebration they deserve? His family is opposed to elopment, mine doesn't care.
Long version:
Nate and I are getting married December 10th of this year. However, he was accepted into a paramedic program, offered at a local college and we can't really afford tuition. His parents techically make too much for him to get any financial aid (he found this out by spending two years in college) and since he will only be 23 next month he cannot claim himself as an independant. His parents refuse to emancipate him. So- two years ago we had planned on being married by May- but pushed it back so that his sister could be at the wedding (she's stationed overseas). If we eloped next month he would have access to much needed financial aid. His parents have never supported him financially and he's never used any education grants, of which there are two in this state that are quite substantial. Since I filled out my FAFSA already and counted the amount I am eligable for when we are married we realized just how necessary this aid would be for him to complete school and do what he loves the most. He would have access to grants and subsidized loans. It may not seem like a big deal to postpone starting paramedic school until we are married- but it really is important.
We thought about eloping next month and keeping it hush hush, except for my mom, brother, and stepdad. My family does not care if I elope, his family is pretty opposed to the idea. I read an article in Brides or Modern Brides about how getting eloped before the wedding to cut down on stress, etc. is becoming more and more popular.
My question is, what do you all think? I know that there is one person on here who eloped (KatBoy?) and it went well for him. Has anyone else ever eloped or known someone who has? Do you all know of anyone who eloped, kept it hidden, and later had a "normal" wedding with all the family? It feels dishonest to me, but at the same time more than justified and necessary. Does anyone have any advice for how go into this situation, or whether we should let everyone know?