My mother is currently in the process of divorcing her second husband. It's obviously taking a toll on her, she's been really grumpy, sad, angery, and over all tempermental. The thing is, I'm really happy about this divorce. The ex was a real creep, to both my mom and her children. I really think she's much better off without him. Is it wrong to be so happy when my mom is in so much pain?
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Is it wrong to be happy?
- Thread starter agent_haun
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No, it's not wrong to be happy that she's gotten out of a bad situation as long as you're also still being supportive and sympathetic (which I have no doubt you are). Sometimes when people manage to remove themselves from detrimental situations it takes some time to really feel the relief from it, but there's no reason why you shouldn't already be taking that big relaxing sigh from the knowledge that thanks to this your mother will eventually be better off.
It sounds as though this is a good step for your Mum, so I say no, too.
I agree that it's okay to be happy that the loser is gone, but prob. your mom will get the most comfort if you let her know that you'd be even more happy if she did find the love of her life. That way, she knows that your motives are purely for her happiness, as opposed to resenting having to share with a man. Maybe you could ask her how you could help out; maybe take the other kids out so she can have some time off for herself; to either grieve or enjoy a diversion. "Let the lover spread his joy all over the earth, but let him feel his pain in peace" which is really, really hard for a mom to do, since no matter what, her life goes on, with all the demands & responsibilities.
I second that - but no, it's not wrong to be happy. Would you rather have a mother who was married and miserable, or a mother who was divocred and eventually happy again? My mother left my dad, and she was miserable for a long time too, even though my brother and I could both be happy that finally, our parents were doing something to get out of a situation they both didn't enjoy. It's taken time, but they're both finding their feet again and they're both more contented in themselves. She'll find the love of her life, I'm sure.... this'll be a rough ride as you know, but it'll be worth it. Just stay supportive and she'll appreciate it.
No, you are not wrong to be happy to see your mom getting out of a bad situation. Even getting out of a bad situation is a major upheaval, and can be painful uintil things settle down and they realize that they are free of it. She is lucky to have your love and support.
I agree its not wrong just be there for your mom.
