Mother in Law stories--ya got any?

Gavin and I first met in Japan--where he went to get away from his family! The first time I ever talked to his mom was on the phone. He was out and I answered the phone in his apartment. She said "Oh Im so glad I finally get a chance to talk to you. Listen, do me a favor. Can you please tell Gavin that Natalie, one of his best friends was killed in a car accident last night? I have some errands to run. Thanks! Bye!" We had only been dating six weeks at the time, and she felt it was perfectly reasonable to ask me to break news like that to him! He was so mad at her for asking to do that they didnt talk for six months!

Right now we are buying a house and everytime we get some details (financial, etc) worked out, his mother calls up and spends 45 minutes on the phone. My husband says nothing, she just talks the whole time. Then when he hangs up his attitude changes completely to whatever his mother just said! It takes me DAYS to undo the damage this woman does! We just got married, so its taking him awhile to feel comfortable in his married man identity and opposing his mom. It will get better, I know. He's just so nervous about buying a house that her crazy opinions, delivered with such confidence, actually make sense. (Im considering blocking her number until after we close! )


I guess I should also say this is mother is one of the most opinionated, strong-willed and pro-active women I've ever met. God truly broke the mold with her. She says she wants Gavin to be independent, but she does everything possible to undermine his decisions and make him second-guess himself. Sometimes I just want to get me and Gavin as far away from her as possible--maybe back to Japan? New Zealand?

Does anyone else have some MIL whoppers?

My soon to be MIL has tried to break us up twice in the past, the first time was a few times after i had met her and the second time was last year when bf was still asleep and she told me to break up with him, just because i should have been more tidy, but i dont know how can anyone be any more tidy just because some of our things that were in plastic bags were on top of my suitcase.
to make it short when he woke up i argued with him why she was telling me this in the kitchen and she hated me for a month.. needless to say she loves me now

My EX mil insisted that we take her sectional when she moved from her house to an apartment. I told her NO during 3 different conversations. It is black with gold trim - not my style. One day when I got home from work I found our couch GONE and her sectional in my living room. Of course my (then) hubby participated. I was ticked for a long time.

My soon to be MIL dislikes me and she hasnt even met me. hows that one for you? She dislikes me because of Steves two Ex's....*sighs* I am hopeing when I meet her. she will change her mind, and like me.but I am also not holding my breath on that.

Oh do I ever! When i first started dating chris, for like the first year she called me by his ex-girlfriends name. For a year!! Then whenever he would be mad or in a bad mood, she would always pull me aside and ask me what I did?!?!

His parents actually just visited and while they were here, she went through my entire kitchen and rearranged EVERYthing and made a point to tell me that there is a better way to arrange stuff. She also went through my prescriptions!!! She threw away ones that she thought were to old and she condensed things that i had multiples of(she did that with my thyroid pills.. that were two different doses and i couldnt tell them apart so the doc had to write me another prescription.) Who does that?!?!

Then what really made me mad is she made a point to leave all kinds of food and drinks laying around for the cats to eat, even after repeatedly asking her not to. I didnt want my cats eating lasagna or bacon and eggs. She would fill up a drink, set it in the living room and leave it(mostly coffee)

Originally Posted by mferr84

Oh do I ever! When i first started dating chris, for like the first year she called me by his ex-girlfriends name. For a year!! Then whenever he would be mad or in a bad mood, she would always pull me aside and ask me what I did?!?!

His parents actually just visited and while they were here, she went through my entire kitchen and rearranged EVERYthing and made a point to tell me that there is a better way to arrange stuff. She also went through my prescriptions!!!

She threw away ones that she thought were to old and she condensed things that i had multiples of(she did that with my thyroid pills.. that were two different doses and i couldnt tell them apart so the doc had to write me another prescription.) Who does that?!?!

Then what really made me mad is she made a point to leave all kinds of food and drinks laying around for the cats to eat, even after repeatedly asking her not to. I didnt want my cats eating lasagna or bacon and eggs. She would fill up a drink, set it in the living room and leave it(mostly coffee)

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What did your husband have to say about all this? Did you keep quiet? I REALLY don't think I would be able to. She actually reorganized your cabinets and then left half eaten food lying around? Was she TRYING to tick you off?

Well, I was going to post something similar to this, due to the fact that today is our 11th anniversary. My mother in law is living with us, due to the fact that her daughter kicked her out. I think I'm beginning to understand why. She has been here for about a month and she is driving me nuts!!!!!!!!!!! She feels the need to clean EVERYTHING, and while that may not seem so bad to some, it bothers me, since she feels the need to throw things away that are not hers to do so, and put things where they don't belong, so now I feel like a guest in my own home, since I have to ask her where the hell she put something that she shouldn't have even touched to begin with. I am one of those, where in theory, it would be nice to have a maid, I really wouldn't want one for real. I have my own ways of doing things, that works for both me and my husband. She feels the need to interfere, and then claim "Well, I was just trying to help". -----Even after being told that we DON'T want her help. She got all offended recently because I was making dinner and she offered to help. I told her that I didn't need any, but if I did, I would ask Ed before I would ask her, since he and I understand each other and he knows how I do things. My hubby works 3rd shift, so I have to be her chauffer. In fact, like I said, today's my wedding anniversary.....what did I do?....had to drive her to the Library. My hubby and I had planned to go out, when we told her, she says well I was planning on treating you. This of course, would mean she'd have to come along. I am really upset, and while it may not seem like much to complain about, it is really bugging the hell out of me.

What did your husband have to say about all this? Did you keep quiet? I REALLY don't think I would be able to. She actually reorganized your cabinets and then left half eaten food lying around? Was she TRYING to tick you off?

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Chris doesnt even notice. And No, I didnt say anything. They were taking us on an all expenses paid little trip to Reno to gamble for the weekend. They do alot of nice things for me, but i was talking to my mother and both of my parents hate chris, but they said they would have done the same thing for both of us... so they might just be being nice just because i am their son's wife.

And I really honestly think she does things just to see what it takes... and she knows i get pi$$ed really easy. I do think she enjoys it.

Originally Posted by emmysamson

Well, I was going to post something similar to this, due to the fact that today is our 11th anniversary.

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Happy Anniversary!!! Enjoy your day with your husband, no matter who is around.

Originally Posted by valanhb

Happy Anniversary!!! Enjoy your day with your husband, no matter who is around.

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Thank you. But it's kinda hard to celebrate with her along. Kinda like going on a date with your own mother along.

Originally Posted by emmysamson

Thank you. But it's kinda hard to celebrate with her along. Kinda like going on a date with your own mother along.

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I understand where you are coming from--you feel like you shouldnt complain because its not that bad--but a person can only take so much! We used to live in a house that Gavin's parents owned, and they would come by ANYTIME they wanted. I mean, it was nice to have a nice house to live in, but not having any privacy was horrible. And also, that whole, "I'm just trying to help" thing is SO OLD! If you try to say "please dont" they get so offended!

Happy Anniversary anyway!!

My MIL just sent me an email saying that she felt Gavin and I needed to work out some issues about the mortgage financing because she thinks we have some disagreements. That is too rich!! The only problem originates from HER and her bad advice! And she had the NERVE to tell me that I dont understand Gavin as well as she does!!! grrrrr

Originally Posted by emmysamson

Thank you. But it's kinda hard to celebrate with her along. Kinda like going on a date with your own mother along.

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I wonder if your husband would tell her that-- taking her to celebrate your anniversary is like taking your mother with you on a date. Of course her feelings would be hurt but it is inappropriate for parents to tag along when their kids have anniversaries.

You know...I can honestly say that mother in laws arent all bad. I am not saying that I dont get irritated, because I do, as I am sure my husband gets irritated at my mother. But I dont have anywhere near the amount of drama that ya'll have!! WOW.

I would be pretty ticked if my mother in law called and got my husband all mad. And to be combining prescriptions....thats where I would draw the line! What if you took it wrong? That could lead to serious consquences.
The worse thing that mine does, it since my husband is a mechanic, theres this impression that he can just drop whatever and fix a car problem immediately. And if he doesnt....well, he catches hell for months to come. I didn't used to mind when he lived there...I cant tell you how many dates were broken because someones car in the family needed fixing...and I let it go...and finally I reached a point where I was through. When did I get to be first?? So, then we got an apartment and now we have bought a house and are married....and that expectation is still there. He has responsibilities and obligations at home, and I am sorry that we are the only ones on that side of the family, who own a home, and have to do our own yardwork, and home repairs. I get so sick of it

My in-laws are loons. I kid you not. Of course, Sunny's whole family is pretty nuts and he's well aware of it; his mother drives him crazy. After we got married for a loooong time whenever he went to his parent's to do some chore or other for them I would stay in the car to avoid them! She's the only grown woman I know that will say things like "Pardon me, I have to go tee-tee," . But will also go off into some long, rambling story with no point and say "Isn't that some s**t?"

And she and her husband both were into the whole McCarthy era anti-communism/John Birch Society thing. Too busy doing all of this watchdog activism stuff to bother doing things like fixing broken windows, holes in the walls, or having the heating repaired in the house (We bought this house from them 4 years ago when they went to live with their daughter and SIL, it's only now getting halfway decent.) I cannot think of two people less qualified to raise kids, it's a wonder really that Sunny turned out as well as he did (and he agrees.) For instance my FIL is a member of Mensa but doesn't have coming in out of the rain sense .

The other day (I often ask Sunny for "Joyce" stories ) she apparently called and asked what to do about something or other that needed to be done to the car, and Sunny told her that looking in the Yellow Pages to be a good place to find somebody to fix it. Most people would know this.

She squeals when she sees you, like you're the best thing since sliced bread (sheesh.) I just have to grit my teeth. She was calling me "Cindy-Y" for reasons best known only to herself and Sunny picked it up from her. Finally one day I just snapped and said "DON'T call me that! Your MOTHER calls me that!" A lot of times he doesn't remember what I tell him, but he never called me by that "endearment" again. Not once LOL.

Sorry this is a bit long but I could go on and on about that family. Mine is super-boring (thankfully!) by comparison. They all love Sunny!

Cindy
Mom to Narsil, Mithril and Kellie da Peke !

LoL she sounds so cute but crazy at the same time

My sister has 1 of the WORST MIL ever. One story I'll share quickly that got me soooo furious..

My BIL has 4 sisters and 5 brothers I think on his side of family and one sister is named Pamela (same as me) and she's spoilt ROTTEN by MIL. MIL thinks that Pamela is the MOST PERFECT DAUGHTER EVER and makes no mistakes..

When my sister and BIL bought their first house, they made arrangements for moving to a house next door and asked both families to help them move. WELLLLLL Pamela decide to buy the old house next door and had the nerve to decide to move in on the SAME DAY. WELLLL what happened was that the MIL was over at her house ALL DAY helping along with FIL and their family while my sister only had us to help and there's only 1 brother and 1 sister in my family compared to THEIRS!

The next day, MIL was talking to my BIL and noticed he was grumpy and had the NERVE to ask him why he was so grumpy. When he expressed his feelings about her and his family helping Pamela out ALL DAY for the move, she got mad and told him he needed to be more considerate of poor Pamela!

My family RARELY have anything to do with BIL's family AND my BIL prefers that! Often, my sister would have to drag him to his own parents' home to visit (to be polite) while the whole time he'd be whining that he wanted to stay at my parents home!

My brother's MIL and FIL are GREAT though. They get along great with my parents and sometimes both families get together for holidays.

A friend of mine has been married to her husband for 23 years. About 2 years into their marriage the inlaws came down from NY State to visit. Dad in law is fine, Mom in law on the other hand is very controlling. Soon after the inlaws arrived, my friend went out to do some errands, grocery, Kmart. She returned home about 2 hours later to find her kitchen which looked fine previously, completely wallpapered! No one had asked my friend or her husband, if they wanted a kitchen make over, and on top of that the wallpaper was not to their taste. There are a million Mrs. E stories to tell, just not enough time to pen them!

My future MIL can be pretty evil at times. She liked me, then she hated me, now she likes me. She tries to control everything and speaks inappropriately often. She treats her two children horribly. She said something once that almost made me throw up, literally. Her daughter is married to an amazing man. They are both in the service- stationed overseas. This woman hates her son in law to the point where she actually said "I'd hate to see if one of them dies, you know God works that way sometimes." She actually believes that God will punish her daughter and son-in-law by killing them. Essentially she'd rather have her own daugther be dead than for her to not have complete control over her. It's truely unbelievable. I could go on and on, but that would take up pages and pages.

Originally Posted by RoseHawke

Finally one day I just snapped and said "DON'T call me that! Your MOTHER calls me that!" A lot of times he doesn't remember what I tell him, but he never called me by that "endearment" again. Not once LOL.

Cindy
Mom to Narsil, Mithril and Kellie da Peke !

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Thats funny. I had a similar thing happen with my husband--MIL always calls me "Hanny" and Gavin used to for about a week before I flipped in the exact same way--he's never called me that since!! Your sounds less malicious--more annoying in her ditziness, am I right?

I could write a book about my in-laws! They are very manipulative and just plain evil. We no longer speak to them, they just pushed my husband too far. Theo one good thing is that no matter what they would say or do regarding me, my husband would stand up for and back me 100%.