Hi there, I'm new to the boards.
On Saturday I got a 5-year-old cat from someone who advertised in the paper. He said she was very affectionate, and before they got 2 other cats, she never bit or scratched.
When I first met her I pet her head and she was fine, but I don't know, I just got the feeling that I was afraid she might bite me. My friend pet her too and seemed totally unaffected and comfortable.
I got her home and she hid under the bed for about 2 hours, then came out and rubbed up against my leg, layed on my lap while i layed on the couch, and basically has been alternating by laying on the couch with me, hiding under the bed and sleeping on my bed.
Saturday night she followed me into my bedroom and i layed my pajama top on the bed. she immeidatley jumped up on it and when i tried to pull it out from her, she HISSED at me. I was totally in shock. So after a minute I tried to pull it out from her and she hissed at me again. I said "NO" in a loud firm voice and she meowed and ran away. Then, everytime she would enter the bedroom she would make a loud chuffing breathing sound and I was terrified that she would hiss again.
I realized her carrier was in there still, so i hid it. I was terrified to go into the bedroom. I thought she might follow me and hiss and attack me, but at about 3:30 am i got fed up and just went in there and went to bed. She just slept on the bed with me alternating by sitting on the window sill all night, and sort of meowing through the night.
Yesterday I went out and while I was out and talking about her, I got this nervous horrible pit of anxiety in my stomach and I haven't really eaten anything all weekend. I couldn't stop getting major anxiety about going home to her.
When i got home she was of course fine and happy to see me. She slept on my lap for awhile on the couch and then we went to bed. She meowed once during the night but basically slept all nite with me or at the windowsill.
today is the first day i have gone to work all day and i won't be home until about 10:30 pm.
When i got to work and someone asked me about her - i burst into tears! I don't know WHAT is wrong with me. I'm really intimidated by her, and scared that she might bite me if i pet her not carefully, and scared if i do anything to upset her she might hiss at me again.
What can I do to calm down? Also, does this mean that we just don't "click"? I had one cat before that was 4 years old, and i NEVER from the first moment was ever intimidated by her nor did i think she would EVER bite me or hiss or anything. I don't know what's wrong with me.....has anyone else ever felt this way?
thanks!!
On Saturday I got a 5-year-old cat from someone who advertised in the paper. He said she was very affectionate, and before they got 2 other cats, she never bit or scratched.
When I first met her I pet her head and she was fine, but I don't know, I just got the feeling that I was afraid she might bite me. My friend pet her too and seemed totally unaffected and comfortable.
I got her home and she hid under the bed for about 2 hours, then came out and rubbed up against my leg, layed on my lap while i layed on the couch, and basically has been alternating by laying on the couch with me, hiding under the bed and sleeping on my bed.
Saturday night she followed me into my bedroom and i layed my pajama top on the bed. she immeidatley jumped up on it and when i tried to pull it out from her, she HISSED at me. I was totally in shock. So after a minute I tried to pull it out from her and she hissed at me again. I said "NO" in a loud firm voice and she meowed and ran away. Then, everytime she would enter the bedroom she would make a loud chuffing breathing sound and I was terrified that she would hiss again.
I realized her carrier was in there still, so i hid it. I was terrified to go into the bedroom. I thought she might follow me and hiss and attack me, but at about 3:30 am i got fed up and just went in there and went to bed. She just slept on the bed with me alternating by sitting on the window sill all night, and sort of meowing through the night.
Yesterday I went out and while I was out and talking about her, I got this nervous horrible pit of anxiety in my stomach and I haven't really eaten anything all weekend. I couldn't stop getting major anxiety about going home to her.
When i got home she was of course fine and happy to see me. She slept on my lap for awhile on the couch and then we went to bed. She meowed once during the night but basically slept all nite with me or at the windowsill.
today is the first day i have gone to work all day and i won't be home until about 10:30 pm.
When i got to work and someone asked me about her - i burst into tears! I don't know WHAT is wrong with me. I'm really intimidated by her, and scared that she might bite me if i pet her not carefully, and scared if i do anything to upset her she might hiss at me again.
What can I do to calm down? Also, does this mean that we just don't "click"? I had one cat before that was 4 years old, and i NEVER from the first moment was ever intimidated by her nor did i think she would EVER bite me or hiss or anything. I don't know what's wrong with me.....has anyone else ever felt this way?
thanks!!