or Connect
TheCatSite.com › Forums › General Forums › The Cat Lounge › Weird Kid
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

Weird Kid

post #1 of 21
Thread Starter 
Were any of you the weird kid at school.. has it affected you as you've grown older?
post #2 of 21
Yeah, I was always the weird kid, too smart, too quiet, matured early, attracted any mentally handicapped person like flies to honey.......'cause I was always nice to them. Still do, for that matter! Affected me now, not really, aside from having a deep urge to save the world and root for the underdog!
post #3 of 21
I was a nerd, a geek, one of the kids who always got picked on by the "cool kids". Red hair, glasses, freckles & braces? Plus I was in the band (flute) and I adored science fiction. Oh and, I was smart --- straight A's. So naturally, yeah, I was considered "weird".

How has it affected me???? Many ways. I was so ugly and weird, I had to make people laugh or be really entertaining (like, being the best burper during lunch to impress the "cool kids" who could burp loudly), in order to win friends. I had to develop this way-cool sense of humor. I found out that if I make people laugh - they overlooked my glasses, braces, the horrid red hair & freckles!

And as far as being a band geek, nanner nanner nanner, I could play a freakin musical instrument and the 'non weird' kids could barely think for themselves.

Funny how the cool kids label you as 'weird' if you are different from them, eh?
post #4 of 21
It's interesting hearing everyone's stories. At my school being smart wasn't one of the things that would make one "weird." Everyone wanted great grades! I wasn't considered "weird," I was a total floater. Basically I just hung out with whoever I wanted and no one thought any differently of me. I guess I was an inbetween kid?
post #5 of 21
I was totally punk rock/goth/mod from my early teens in my tiny town in Southern Alberta, and I only had one other friend in my town who was into the same stuff. We were artsy but had no peers who were. Everyone was concerned about conforming to their own group, and we weren't conformists. So we were considered "weird".

We didn't associate with anyone else, except some friends we made in the nearby city (she was older and had a car), so people couldn't really classify us. Some people talked and tried to make assumptions based on nothing, but I think they were intrigued more than anything because I pretended they didn't exist.

Things changed when my friend started going to college, and so I hitched a ride with her every morning and began attending the biggest high school in the city, where I met a lot more people like me, which was certainly a welcome change. And I still wear a lot of black.

Remember, this was in the mid-late 80s, before Nirvana and the resurgence of mainstream "punk", when alternative the way I knew it, no longer existed. So those of us who were considered "weird" prior to grunge, paved the way in a sense for that movement.
post #6 of 21
I was considered the weird kid, and probably still am...I was always off in my own little world dreaming things up...not to mention getting straight A's and being a 'band geek'...Now, in college I'm considered weird for keeping my apartment clean and the fact that I'd rather be at home reading and cuddling with my kitty than out at a party!
post #7 of 21
I wasnt necessarily the "weird" kid, but I wasn't the cool kid either. I was chubby for a lot of my youth...and so, I got made fun of, but I had friends. And then all of a sudden, I got boobs, and I got tall, and all of those guys that made fun of me before, well...lets just say that they wanted a shot. It was a classic and cliche' "the ugly duckling turned swan." But once my Dad got sick, I had my few friends that I was close with, and we hung out, because I worked a lot to pay the mortgage and went to school, so I couldn't go to the mall and I couldnt go shopping or go to the movies and I was embarrassed. So, I was kind of quiet.
It only affected me in the fact that I had to grow up so much more quickly than my peers. I am the only one out of the group married, and buying the house. The others just got their own apartments. But I am definitely a better person for the experience.
post #8 of 21
Originally Posted by darkeyedgirl
And as far as being a band geek, nanner nanner nanner, I could play a freakin musical instrument and the 'non weird' kids could barely think for themselves.
Awesome! Totally accurate!
post #9 of 21
Ironic....in our school the band kids for the most part are the cool kids...more outgoing. but i guess now your cool if you drink and get high. Sigh... i will never be cool :-( oh well im not an outcast, to take someones term im a "floater"
post #10 of 21
In school I was the loner. The few friends I did have from time to time were the so-called 'nerds' and so, as you can imagine, I was often picked on. From elementary all through high-school. It didn't help that at the time I was dealing with a great deal of emotional and physical abuse from my stepfather at home, as well. I had no self-esteem whatsoever.

Now I'm almost thirty and while my self-esteem has improved a great deal I still have a lot of social phobias to deal with. I hate parties, I hate being around a lot of people (except family). I have trouble with relationships.

People don't understand the damage verbal and emotional abuse can do, even from schoolmates. If I ever, EVER, caught a child of mine making fun of someone else, in public or in private, I'd rip them up one end and down the other.

And, I'm terrified of heights, but that has nothing to do with anything
post #11 of 21
To answer your question about
"has it affected you since you've gotten older?"
It affects every aspect of my life.
I was the 5th child of 8 my Mother had.
I was never cared for at home and went to school dirty,
with dirty greasy hair, dirty clothes and no self-esteem whatsoever.
I was teased mercilessly every day all day.
When mother nature came along, I was never told about it and
how to properly handle things.
Grades school was and still is a Horrible memory that I
feel I have a lot of deep scars from.
I had one friend who was very sweet and didnt care what
the others said about me or who I was, but it was never
a really "close" friendship.
I could never open my mouth, or take a step without
someone making fun of me.
I don't feel like I even got an education in some classes. The ones where I was sitting right next to or in front of one of the more ruthless ones.
Bullying and teasing kids who don't have anyone to turn to IS very
dangerous and harmful long term.
If you have kids that do this to someone, Please make them stop!!!
This is what breeds Columbine type people.
(I'm not homicidal or even suicidal but very easily could've been)
post #12 of 21
In elementary school I was the 2nd weirdest, and the weirdest was my best friend. I used to be the one who stoped litterally most all the other girls in our grade from beating her up on the playground. They would all group up and slap, punch and kick her. I think someone spit on her once. Guess they couldn't stand the peer pressure so they had to do what the other kids did. Wonder if thoes kids would have treated her any different if they knew what a horrible home life she had. Isn't it bad enough to get beat at home (whenever her father was home) and then to go to school and get beat there? I still wish I'd have known thoes things about her home when we were younger. It never occured to me that her broken fingers might not be accidents. Actually another friend (not so weird one) and I have been IMing lately thanks to classmates.....I made her promise not to tell anyone I know now how much of a dork I was. She was one of the very few other girls who liked us. I was pittifully shy during thoes years. Middle school was a little better besides all thoes hormonal changes and what not teenagers go through. High school was ok by the end. By that time I'd stoped caring what other people thought. I'd come out of my awkward stage. I was president of the latin club and darn proud of it! I think I do still have some hangups from it. Moving past it was difficult but my Mother had always tried to teach me and that helped. When I have children, I will do my best to teach them that no matter what the other kids say, they are intelligent, beautiful, and have a purpose on this earth. I will teach them to respect everyone, even the people who don't respect them. My cousin's daughter is going through this now....it breaks my heart to pieces.
post #13 of 21
I'm 36 and still the weird kid
I was a punkrocker when it wasn't cool, still am, just not as visually so.
People avoided me like the plague because I was so vastly different, and apparently scarey looking.
Those that bothered to get to know me found I was completely different from what they expected, I was (am) actually a very nice, caring and sincere person.
post #14 of 21
I was the weird kid, actually both me and my brother were. We came from a very strict household and did not get to do things that normal kids got to do, like watch cable tv or listen to the radio or whatever. We didn't know cuss words or anything, and weren't allowed to hang out with other kids because their mothers cursed, or dressed trashy, or dyed their hair, or whatever, and mom was scared that they would influence us. So basically we had nothing in common with normal kids and it was obvious. And of course due to our upbringing we were a little scared of "normal" kids because they were evil or whatever, and it really impacted our lives dramatically. We were the smartest kids in our respective grade levels, both winning awards and getting amazing grades, but scared of people so we never did anything with that. Well now it has turned around for my brother, and I guess it's starting to look better for me too. But omg was I tortured, and he had it worse. Blah. The best way I can describe it is the movie Carrie but my mom wasn't quite as bad.

Oh and how it affected me, I didn't really have people to count on so it all turned inward. I consider myself more self reliant and braver because of it, but I wish I didn't have to remember things.. Even today it affects every relationship I have, whether friendships, family relations, etc. It turned me into a dark place for a while and I was a goth princess and a smug one at that. I push people away and have been told that I kinda give off the "I'm better than you" vibe because of my so-called righteous upbringing, but it's a defense mechanism because my self esteem is rock bottom at times.
post #15 of 21
I was considered weird throughout most of elementary and middle school. In middle school people were mean though! I got in a Birkenstock phase, before they became popular and people called me a hippy nazi (the nazi part because my brother was a skinhead- emphasis on was- he changed prior to graduating). My first day in 7th grade was horrible, the first thing I heard was "f**ing freak, we don't want your kind here." I had transfered in to a small middle school, from a large inner-city middle school. Talk about culture shock!

In high school people thought I was hip because everything I wore came into style (i.e. the Doc Martens that I worked my butt of serving up tacos to afford). In general people thought I was a freak because I dyed my hair weird colors, dressed in black a lot, and listened to music none of them had heard of. High school was weird though. I wasn't thought of as a nerd. I think the fact that things I wore became stylish and the fact that I could make hemp jewelry, purses, etc. really helped. I started volunteering a lot and joined a couple of clubs (like Key Club), did tutoring, etc so eventually I became that nice, feminist girl who listens to weird music.

I still listen to genres of music most people haven't heard of, which is always fun to explain to people! But now most of my wardrobe comes from places like Banana Republic, so go figure. I still have tattoos and gauged ears, but otherwise I look totally normal and I'm still known as that nice, feminist girl who listens to weird music.
post #16 of 21
Guess I should say that I am still very, very, very weird. When all the other gals around me shorn off their hair and ironed it flat - I kept my curls. Gals my age dress like hookers, whereas I wear long hippie skirts and keep my boobies covered up in public. For this, I am still very weird... I fear normalcy (being like everyone else). SO that makes ME weird....
post #17 of 21
Originally Posted by KittenKrazy
Yeah, I was always the weird kid, too smart, too quiet, matured early, attracted any mentally handicapped person like flies to honey.......'cause I was always nice to them. Still do, for that matter! Affected me now, not really, aside from having a deep urge to save the world and root for the underdog!
you sound like me! when i moved into my house 6 months ago i found that my neighbor is a girl i went to highschool with...and she agrees i was weird, and quiet and smart...i don't think it's affected me as an adult though, i'm far from quiet, but i think i'll always be weird!
post #18 of 21
I was also a weird kid growing up. I moved a lot as a kid so it was difficult for me to make friends. It started when I was 9 and moved with my dad to Florida. Things were OK at first but the last few years were pretty tough. He had shot himself a year before that so he had bad health problems and had to wear leg braces. Which, of course, everyone made fun of and I was so embarassed of. Not to mention the fact that he was already "different": He was still stuck in the 60s/70s. Blaring Allman Brothers/Yardbirds/Jeff Beck/Muddy Water/etc at all hours of the night. (Unfortunately, the things I was embarassed of then are the things that I cherish when I think about him now that he is gone)

A few years after we moved he started getting really depressed again. He would drink alot, not take care of the house. I was ashamed to let people knew where I lived. I always had atleast one or two good friends but for some reason I wasn't able to keep them for long.

It got to the point where I just couldn't take it any more so in the middle of the school year I moved to my mom's house. I lived there only a year then moved back in with my grandparents. Which brought the total to 7 different schools.

Same thing at my mom's and at my grandmother's... I was always different because of my childhood, I had grown up so much faster than kids my own age. So I didn't have that many friends and the ones I did have I would lose touch with. In my freshman or sophomore year of high school I got into punk. Wore fishnets, plaid, spikes. Dyed my hair all sorts of crazy colors. (Which, of course, my grandparents hated!!) Then I just ended up for the last year or two retreating into my shell, wearing all black and avoiding contact with most people at all costs.

I think now I am more comfortable with myself. I just didn't know who I was back then. I am happier (for the most part). Unfortunately, now I just work so much and never have time to myself to go out and find someone to be friends with. So I guess I'm still the weird kid. lol
post #19 of 21
Well way back when in elementary school I the 1st six yrs I went to school with basically the exact same kids. (people didn't seem to move around much as they do now). There were 28 of us 20 boys and 8 girls. Of the 8 girls my twin & I well do the math- 25% of the girls. I think other than being a twin I was fairly normal. Mom made most of our clothes (dresses) this was the 60's and we dressed the same until 7th grade. In jr high I qualified for many advanced classes-math, english and science. In High school with being the only girl twins in our class of 444-well we (I never think of just me) were in the popular jocks group. But didn't have a big core of friends in this High school but with the one across town. So does this make me weird-I think unique being a twin and wearing really dorky (oops aging myself) glasses back then!!

So don't call yourself weird. WE ARE JUST VERY UNIQUE!!! I think that is a better word and better for the self-esteem too.
post #20 of 21
I was picked on and bullied unmercifully. I was not allowed many friends, so I was considered snooty. I had one friend who's dad though it was cute that I could balance 2 12 packs of beer on the back of his Harley, so I started riding at about 8. When I hit high school, I was the only girl that rode their own bike to school, and the only one in school with a Harley. My friend's dad built it for me. The kids at school decided I was either dangerous or interesting, and then wanted to try to get to know me. I wasn't interested by then. My mom hated it, she wanted desperately to be a snob, and we were middle class, my dad worked with his hands. My ballet teacher was also not amused.
post #21 of 21
My brother and sister and I were the "wierd kids" because we're triplets. Some kids were really horrible in middle school. In high school I join the Marching Band and sister joined the cheerleading squad. that provided some shelter from the bullies
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: The Cat Lounge
TheCatSite.com › Forums › General Forums › The Cat Lounge › Weird Kid