Help Plleasessss

3 years ago I had my beloved Corkie girl who was very happy being an only cat, BUT next door a sweet Siamese was going to go to the pound as she was ruining her owners home.

I took her from them, had her spayed and kept her BUT-----! She too wants to be a one cat family with HER the only cat. She did her darnedest to chase Corkie away but failed (she DID make Corkie terrified though! ) Then I adopted Missy who was also in need of a home. Kotton was afraid of her and though she yowled and growled at her she pretty much left her alone.

Corkie has been gone soon 3 months, and suddenly Kotton has become very brave (maybe because my young kitty who picked on her for fun is sick) and is doing her best to chase Missy away!

Soon I HOPE to adopt the Church cat, Boots, as she is terrified, and getting more so each day of everyone ever since someone put up a netting to keep the cats out of the Church basement. IF Boots tests negative to felv/Fiv she WILL be mine BUT------! I do not want to bring her into a home where the Lady of the house will chase her and try to drive her away!

Rehoming Kotton is NOT an option as she is sooooooo unbelievabley sweet and loving but I gotta make her leave Missy (and Boots if I adopt her) alone!

I am at my wits end! Kotton is VERY possive of me, even to the fact she chased a dog away(big Pit Bull or American Bulldog) when he came on our driveway.

HEEEEELLLLLPPPPPPP! Someone PLEASE!

I guess my question would be if you are having so much problem integrating the cats you have together, why bring in more? Bringing in more just upsets the balance, and you have to find the balance first before accepting anymore cats into your home. Your home has to be set up in a way where there are different levels of areas where the cats can get off the floor and not feel so vulnerable with each other. If you have limited space, you will have turf wars and two cats will fight to be Alpha of the group- with sometimes high vet bills resulting.

Originally Posted by hissy

I guess my question would be if you are having so much problem integrating the cats you have together, why bring in more? Bringing in more just upsets the balance, and you have to find the balance first before accepting anymore cats into your home. Your home has to be set up in a way where there are different levels of areas where the cats can get off the floor and not feel so vulnerable with each other. If you have limited space, you will have turf wars and two cats will fight to be Alpha of the group- with sometimes high vet bills resulting.

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Oh I DO have room, as I have 3 bedrooms and a kitchen (with kittyposts at the window) and a dining room and living room. I have so many kitty posts in so many windows that I have little room for furniture! Problem is Kotti feels SHE is boss lady and knows Missy is weak.

I really do not want any more cats BUT this Church cat, Boots is in need of a home. I have to go and feed her every day, and I know she loves and trusts me. Some "nice" person put netting up to prevent the Mamma cat and HER kittens from going into the basement and either that person or someone else has Boots scared out of her wits! IF she is healthy she NEEDS to be in a home where she is loved.

I see the difference a year has made in Missy (who only occaisonally runs from me and now is actualy comming TO me to be loved) and I feel Boots deserves the same.

I just need Kotton to "chill out"! <sigh> When my Schatzi Poodle was alive HE kept the peace as Corkie used to do the same to her MOm (they had been seperated for 3 years so did not know they were related) as Kotton did to her and now does to Missy. Since he died, Kotti has become the "ruler" of this house. She does her best to keep the others away from me!

I love her to peices for that! I hope if I can adopt Boots, that she and Missy can bond and if so maybe then Kotton will leave them alone. It took Missy a LONG time to realize Kotton did not like her as she so desperately wanted a friend.