Wish I'd been more graceful as you all suggested.
Complicating matters, of course, the daughters are best friends with my girl. They are going on vacation tomorrow for a week and we really didn't want them thinking that whole time they would be coming home to a kitten. Basically the mother says, "no cat in my house unless it is declawed," and I told the girls that I had to stand up for my babies since they can't stand up for themselves. (The mother has expensive furniture, and wouldn't even let a cat on the sofa, anyway.)
Of course the girls blame my daughter because they, "almost got a kitten," but we told them there were tons of declawed cats at the shelter that they would learn to love too. Unfortunately, I wasn't very graceful or tactful, because I really, really never thought that someone I knew would declaw a cat. (It's like, way out there on the cruelty scale for me.) What's a couple more kittens anyway?