I have two kitten littermates that are 12 weeks old. One is a boy the other a girl. I have had them about 4 weeks now. The girl named Cow, loves me to death. She is just like all the cats I had growing up. She purrs, kneads, runs around my feet, rubbs up against me, plays with the teaser, meows when I am not in the room, everything I always thought cats do. Now for Skunk, her brother. I thought maybe he is one of those cats that likes to be left alone but this has moved beyond that. We I first got him, when he would do something wrong I would hiss at him or yell "no". Sometimes I would scruff him and put his head down on the ground for a second like a mother cat does to reinforce the verbal. Though I never would hurt him in any way. I did the same to his sister and she stopped any bad behavior the very first time (biting, aggressive play, climbing on furniture, getting into stuff they aren't supposed to) I'm afraid he then began associating me with bad things I believe. So I stopped saying 'no' to him and stopped hissing at him. His bad behavior seemed to stop but was replaced with fear. I am the one who gives him his baths (once a week) and he thinks I am trying to kill him I believe. Sometimes I walk up to him to pet him and he ducks his head down and to the other side like he fears me hitting him. Then other times you can't even get that far he just runs if you approach him. I tried baby food and that worked okay for a few days, he would run to me to get it then bolt away. He won't play with the cat teaser or any toys. If I leave the room and have the teaser left on the floor though I can hear him hitting the bell. He plays fine with his sister but when I open the door or walk into a room he spots me and runs and hides. Sometimes he turns and faces the wall or chair to avoid looking at me. I have tried putting my shirt in his sleeping area, giving treats each time I walk by him, but now he refuses the treats. Lately if I try and get him to come to me to give him some great treat he just looks at me then looks away. If I walk up to him and hold the food to his nose to get him to smell it, he then runs away or twice he hissed when I held the food to his nose. I tried isolating him from his sister because I figured he may bond with me more that way. Well I tried it a few nights but he didn't even cry when left alone or jump up and meow when I entered the room. He slept the whole time, he acted like he didn't care. If he is sleepy, already been alseep, I can pick him up and pet him and he purrs, but thats the only time. I was feeding him baby food the other day in my arms and after I stopped he jumped from me scratching me in four places. He never meows at all. He has cried if he is on my deck and he sees his sister inside, he cries (meows loudly) to get in to her (not me I'm sure). If I let him outside he runs away usually and it is so hard ever getting him back in. One night he stayed gone for 10 hours and took his sister with him. It had rained and I thought since they have never seen ran before they might think I was doing it to them and ran way. I looked everywhere and couldn't find them and then the next afternoon they showed up but weren't hungry so I figured they had went somewhere and were eating something, so now I don't let them go out at all for the time being. So any advice on how to tame this wild kitty? Before I got him they were indoor only cats that lived in a small trailer with 15 other cats and 4 people. Any help would be appreciated.
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6/4/05 at 6:38am