A good thing I noticed this morning about men

We were just talking about this at work and I am wondering if you all have the same experience. I realized that men, no matter who they are, will almost always hold a door open for a woman. I actually can not think of one time that I have been somewhere and a man who was going in or out at the same time did not hold the door for me. This has been true of ALL men, drunk men, professional men, smelly working men , and even the perverted ones that just want to stare at you as you walk by. Are men the same way where you live? Do you think it has to do with the way they are raised? I don't think it's that because even when I worked for a criminal defense attorney and had to escort the guys to court they opened the door I think it's just a rule that is imbedded in their heads that they should do this. Whatever reason it is, it's nice that they do it.


Edited to add: This little story kind of goes along with this topic. My fiance's 8 year old always holds the door open for women when we go anywhere. The problem is he never knows when to let it go. One afternoon he was right beside me walking out of a clothing store and I started walking into the parking lot and noticed he wasn't beside me. I turned around and he was still standing at the door holding it for people going in and out

nope, in frankfurt everyone just slams the door in your face instead of helping opening it one after the next.
Once this lady with a twin pram couldnt get through the woolworth door because noone would let her through and then noone would hold the door open.
When i did it for her she smiled at me and my friend said "why did you do that for?" and she is german

Actually Tanya your right!, and something else i noticed as well is if i'm getting off or on my train they let me go first!

Give yourselves a round of applause chaps!

Perhaps it's regional/cultural? I know people hold open the doors for each other here, usually no matter the gender. If I'm going through a door for instance and there's somebody fairly close behind me I'll hold the door for them and from what I've seen most people do this. At least here.

yep, i have noticed that to

Sometimes yes... sometimes no.

Mostly yes. The one time that sticks in my mind where it didn't happen, was on a first date with a certain man. Needless to say he didn't make a good first impression and it was the first and last date!

i usually open the door all the time for my girlfriend. i do all the time walking into buildings in such and most of the time i open the car door for her. lately ive been forgetting to do that. i need to start remembering again.

i was raised to treat females well so thats why i do it.

I would say more men do than don't, but I would say for me it's more like 60/40. I give people mean looks though, especially guys.

I'm moving to wherever you guys are!

I hold open the door more times than it's ever held open for me. And that even includes hubby, when he's having me carry things out, for instance, when I have both hands full of drinks leaving a food joint. He'll just walk right out and leave me to catch the door and try not to send drinks flying...

Guys always hold the door open around these parts. For me, for anyone. I usually take a step back and just wait; the door will always be magically opened by whatever guy I'm with -- if it's a co-worker, a guy I'm dating, my daddy, whatever.

I think it's a Southern thing... who knows? I like it. I don't think it's a sign that the woman is weak cuz she cannot open her own door. I just like it cuz it's RESPECTFUL. I can open my own door, heck I can replace my own toilet, install a sink, baseboards, you name it I can do it. It's the Respect Factor I like when a guy opens a door for me.

So I always smile gleefully and say THANK YOU.

Most of the guys I know will hold the door open. My SO will make sure he is at the door first to open. I think its a generational thing tho. My nephews did it as kids, now that they're older (9 + 14) they don't do it for anyone.

I'll have to pay attention. I am a faster walker than my husband so I usually open my own door!! But lots of people around here depending on where you are and how busy the "door" is keep it open (mentioned already).

But how about this. Husband/wife?significant other open car door???

To a large extent, I think it's a generational thing. My Dad (my first boyfriend ) taught me to expect the boy/man to hold doors, walk on the outside, give me a hand up or down, etc. When customs started changing, and strange women started holding doors for HIM, he found it VERY difficult to adjust, and accept this as simply a matter of courtesy unrelated to gender.

My brother got his cues from Dad, and always holds doors, etc. Rob got his cues from a father of similar age and upbringing to Dad, and always holds doors, opens the passenger door first and stays to see me safely in, etc.

Rob Jr, having grown up in a more egalitarian generation, is just as courteous as his father, but less likely to hasten to a door, just because he's the guy. If he's there first, he holds it, for whoever. If someone else is, regardless of gender, he accepts the held door, and says thankyou.

Originally Posted by valanhb

I'm moving to wherever you guys are!

I hold open the door more times than it's ever held open for me. And that even includes hubby, when he's having me carry things out, for instance, when I have both hands full of drinks leaving a food joint.

He'll just walk right out and leave me to catch the door and try not to send drinks flying...

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Your hub sounds like mine, Heidi!!!

Originally Posted by KittenKrazy

Your hub sounds like mine, Heidi!!!

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At least he's not the only one!

I think it depends. I work at an association of doctors, and a number of them wouldn't think of holding a door for a staff person...even if I'm lugging around a really heavy box. The exception is the southern men. They'll not only hold a door open, but insist on carrying the box for me.

My feeling is that the working-class guys up north are actually more likely to do it than the professional men.

My hubby is another one, though, that holds the door for everyone, most especially for older women.

He doesn't usually open car doors for me. In fact, he's only just started pumping gas for me, after I told him that I couldn't believe he didn't. (In my experience, most guys insist on pumping gas for their significant other. Any opinions on that?)

Originally Posted by valanhb

I'm moving to wherever you guys are!

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Originally Posted by valanhb

I hold open the door more times than it's ever held open for me.

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... But here in MÃ[emoji]169[/emoji]rida the majority of the people in general are cordial and kind...

Originally Posted by RoseHawke

Perhaps it's regional/cultural? I know people hold open the doors for each other here, usually no matter the gender. If I'm going through a door for instance and there's somebody fairly close behind me I'll hold the door for them and from what I've seen most people do this. At least here.

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Same here! I'll hold the door open for someone that is fairly close behind me, but nobody goes 'out of their way' to open a door for someone.