Hi, ya'll. I havent been around in a few days for a few reasons. The first being that I have been dealing with my sisters drama, which I will tell you about, and then I re-did my spare bathroom by laying linoleum and painting the walls and that took up all of my weekend off!
Heres the background...I have posted on him before, but it was a while ago. My sister has been dating this guy...we'll call him Dipstick, for 3 years. The entire 3 years that they have been together, he has mananged to manipulate and lie his way into our family. She is the epitome of love being blind. He talks to her like shes stupid, hes emotionally abusive, he has ruined her self esteem and he has tried recently to pressure her into moving into an apartment with him that he can't even afford. I don't like him, I have tried to like him, but his attitude that everyone owes him something and he knows it all has driven me to the point of I cant even tolerate him. I live 5 minutes from my parents, with my father being ill, and my sister, and Dipstick tend to stay on Saturday nights because he is sooooo into playing paintball, and she spends Sundays with me.
About a month ago, she mentioned that she had been having dreams that included my husbands best friend, lets call him Knightinshiningarmor. So, I asked her point blank if she liked him. Shes known him for 5 years, and they have always been friends. Lately, I have started to think that maybe theres more there than just friendship, and maybe they just didnt know how to tell one another. So, about 3 weeks ago, I jokingly told knightinshiningarmor, that he should marry my sister. BAM. The deed was done. He starts thinking about her, he hugs her, and they start talking through text messages and at my house. She realizes, Wait a minute. I am worth something. So, she tries to talk to Dipstick, and he turns everything around on her, says she treats him like crap (yeah right) and then continues to guilt trip her. Now, she already feels bad because shes invested 3 years in this hopeless relationship. I have told her, and she has admitted to me that he will never change. Never. Secondly, he lives with her and my parents, and shes worried he wont have anywhere to go. Again, not her problem. He burned his bridges with his family because hes a jerk and he had it made and a free ride at my parents. He does nothing around the house. He tries to make everyone else out to be a liar, and I know I shouldnt say this, but I truly think I hate him. I cant stand to be in the same room with him.
So this past weekend, it escalated, and she stayed at my house without him. She told him she would call him the morning when she woke up. She talked to knightinshiningarmor until 6 in the morning. Around noon, we get this ticked off phone call from him "I have been out here pounding on the door for a half an hour. Let me in." So, my husband says "whatever" and hangs up with him. He tells my sister hes out there, and she goes out to talk to him. HE BROKE MY SCREENED DOOR TO MY SCREENED IN PORCH!! He didnt care.She made him leave.
He blames me and my mother, saying that he knew that we would push her to this. We never have tried to accept him. And he doesnt want to have anything to do with us.
My gosh, I am getting angry just typing this. Shes admitted to me that shes afraid of him physically harming her if she ever moved in with him....
But shes hanging on. I know its not easy, but she has what could be the best thing for her in front of her, and hes waiting. Hes loved her for so long. And she just doesnt get it. And he knows shes in a relationship and he doesnt want to confuse her, and he told her she could take all the time she needed.
I dont know. She was so miserable yesterday with him.
I feel bad, because I truly believe that he is the only person I have ever hated in my entire life. I truly do. I guess I'll have to answer to that later.
I dont know how to help her. I have tried. I have done everything that I know to do.
Thanks for letting me vent. I am just really down in the dumps, and there is not enough internet space for me to fill you in on all of the abuse I have witnessed over the past 3 years. I guess I am just overwhelmed with this down feeling about it. He broke my door to get to her. And he keeps asking her: "Is there something you need to confess to me? Something I need to forgive you for??" She hasnt done anything. But she thinks he either doesnt care about her (which he doesnt) or hes cheating on her (which is likely.)
Just please send good vibes that she makes the right decision, the decision that is right for her.
Thanks again.
Heres the background...I have posted on him before, but it was a while ago. My sister has been dating this guy...we'll call him Dipstick, for 3 years. The entire 3 years that they have been together, he has mananged to manipulate and lie his way into our family. She is the epitome of love being blind. He talks to her like shes stupid, hes emotionally abusive, he has ruined her self esteem and he has tried recently to pressure her into moving into an apartment with him that he can't even afford. I don't like him, I have tried to like him, but his attitude that everyone owes him something and he knows it all has driven me to the point of I cant even tolerate him. I live 5 minutes from my parents, with my father being ill, and my sister, and Dipstick tend to stay on Saturday nights because he is sooooo into playing paintball, and she spends Sundays with me.
About a month ago, she mentioned that she had been having dreams that included my husbands best friend, lets call him Knightinshiningarmor. So, I asked her point blank if she liked him. Shes known him for 5 years, and they have always been friends. Lately, I have started to think that maybe theres more there than just friendship, and maybe they just didnt know how to tell one another. So, about 3 weeks ago, I jokingly told knightinshiningarmor, that he should marry my sister. BAM. The deed was done. He starts thinking about her, he hugs her, and they start talking through text messages and at my house. She realizes, Wait a minute. I am worth something. So, she tries to talk to Dipstick, and he turns everything around on her, says she treats him like crap (yeah right) and then continues to guilt trip her. Now, she already feels bad because shes invested 3 years in this hopeless relationship. I have told her, and she has admitted to me that he will never change. Never. Secondly, he lives with her and my parents, and shes worried he wont have anywhere to go. Again, not her problem. He burned his bridges with his family because hes a jerk and he had it made and a free ride at my parents. He does nothing around the house. He tries to make everyone else out to be a liar, and I know I shouldnt say this, but I truly think I hate him. I cant stand to be in the same room with him.
So this past weekend, it escalated, and she stayed at my house without him. She told him she would call him the morning when she woke up. She talked to knightinshiningarmor until 6 in the morning. Around noon, we get this ticked off phone call from him "I have been out here pounding on the door for a half an hour. Let me in." So, my husband says "whatever" and hangs up with him. He tells my sister hes out there, and she goes out to talk to him. HE BROKE MY SCREENED DOOR TO MY SCREENED IN PORCH!! He didnt care.She made him leave.
He blames me and my mother, saying that he knew that we would push her to this. We never have tried to accept him. And he doesnt want to have anything to do with us.
My gosh, I am getting angry just typing this. Shes admitted to me that shes afraid of him physically harming her if she ever moved in with him....
But shes hanging on. I know its not easy, but she has what could be the best thing for her in front of her, and hes waiting. Hes loved her for so long. And she just doesnt get it. And he knows shes in a relationship and he doesnt want to confuse her, and he told her she could take all the time she needed.
I dont know. She was so miserable yesterday with him.
I feel bad, because I truly believe that he is the only person I have ever hated in my entire life. I truly do. I guess I'll have to answer to that later.
I dont know how to help her. I have tried. I have done everything that I know to do.
Thanks for letting me vent. I am just really down in the dumps, and there is not enough internet space for me to fill you in on all of the abuse I have witnessed over the past 3 years. I guess I am just overwhelmed with this down feeling about it. He broke my door to get to her. And he keeps asking her: "Is there something you need to confess to me? Something I need to forgive you for??" She hasnt done anything. But she thinks he either doesnt care about her (which he doesnt) or hes cheating on her (which is likely.)
Just please send good vibes that she makes the right decision, the decision that is right for her.
Thanks again.