I was talking with a fellow from Hawaii a few years ago, and I commented, "Hey, Bill, it just occured to me that your skin is darker than most Afro-Americans, and yet I never gave it a thought, and I was born and raised in the South". He replied, "Well, it is likely because our cultural values, ethics and actions are similar, so there is nothing between us to dislike".
That caused me to do a lot of thinking about being "racist" and I have reached the conclusion, that it is not the color of a particular person that I find objectionable, but the general actions and attitudes manifested by that particular person, and when such actions are cultural in nature, and in conflict with those I grew up with, then I have a problem with that particular person.
I would not, nor, I would think, would anyone else, like, or even choose to associate with anyone who is abusive, aggressive, antagonistic and has a religious belief that is counter to my own and by my way of thinking, does not know the meaning of the word "ethics", and yet when a particular ethnic group or "race" of people manifest these same qualities, I am not allowed to "dislike" them because it would be "racist".
Another thing I have a problem with are the stupid, specious slogans that are bandied about as if they have value to go along with their currency, such as the worst, "Our strengths are in our diversity".
What pure, unbridled hogwash that is, as anyone knows that strength comes from UNITY, not diversity, but we aren't allowed to question it, just accept it, and if you don't, then you are (yeah, you guessed it,) RACIST ! !
I am not in the least trying to be offensive, simply trying, as sometimes works for me, to put my thoughts into words that I can study, and perhaps reach a better understanding of why I am a certain way, and why others are the way they are, and since we are going to be forced to live together, perhaps develop a common ground for understanding.