Fur babies replacing Real babies?

I've said since I was about 19 that I didn't want to have children. I know I am not emotionally suited to raising a child, and it seemed to be grossly unfair to bring one into the world if I wasn't capable of giving him or her everything (emotionally) that they'd need. I helped raise two of my cousins from toddlerhood (the eldest, who was 4 when she came to live with us, is getting married tomorrow at 25 yrs old. I feel old now.), I always say that by helping to raise them "I've done my tour of duty".
My cats are my kids, the orphaned kits even more so. So, you are NOT alone, and there is no reason to feel guilty about it!!!

I am in my early 30's, and the only baby's I have are my 2 furbabies.

I don't see myself wanting to have any of the 2 legged variety in the future either.

I don't think I'm selfish. I think I am being responsable.

Julianne.

i will go in the shower and cry

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awww fwan, don't cry, your comment made me sad, i'm sure deep down he doesn't mean it, he may just have trouble undertsanding your feelings, maybe try to have a talk to him about how you feel, in the meantime, keep smiling okay?

(((((hugs)))))

And has anyone had the old line of "but it's different when it's your own!".

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Oh yes and i too can't imagine putting up with screaming kids when i'm tired or any other time either, whether they were mine or not. at least with cats you can give them a bowl of cream of some catnip and it's all over

My cats are my kids, the orphaned kits even more so. So, you are NOT alone, and there is no reason to feel guilty about it!!!

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that is how i feel and even though i know they will never be like human kids exactly, the differences are what makes me want them more, cats love you, are there for you and you can spoil them, what more could you want? they also make pretty amazing friends especially when your sad.





love,

felicia

Originally Posted by rosiemac

And has anyone had the old line of "but it's different when it's your own!".

Please!, when i know what i want and what i don't want, i know!.

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oooh yes!! how many times have i heard that comment said to me

I only start "thinking" I want human babies when I'm at a baby shower or holding a small infant.......then they wake up and mess thier diaper and start to cry and I snap out of it!

I love kids, but I'm perfectly content with the three i have!

well i didnt cry in the shower. i cried at my desk, and gave him the silent treatment, then 30 mins later he came and said.. aww whats wrong?? and covered me in kisses then he cooked a very lovely carbonara but wow we are full!

anyway regarding kids.
I hate the kids on the "supermama show"
i was a very quiet spoilt child, and so was my bf so maybe our kids would be the same?

I also think that the kids these days dotn have discipline thats why they scream and rack on soo much

Originally Posted by fwan

i was a very quiet spoilt child

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You were quiet?!

No human children here, I have my furred and feathered kids - and I am happy as a clam!

When I first got Gandalf I told my Mom and Dad they better be happy cause this was the only grandchild they were going to have for a while. My Mom when out and bought cat toys for him to play with at their house. She fell pretty hard in love with him. Of course a month later, I got Samwise so now she has two grandkitties. I think she'd be thrilled if I let her have them honestly. They stayed with her on vacation and now she keeps talking about how great it was to have them stay there.

My Dad still hints around about people grandchildren but that's a few years off. He loves the boys though and pouts when I come over and bring them with them.

Originally Posted by kittylover4ever

I only start "thinking" I want human babies when I'm at a baby shower or holding a small infant.......then they wake up and mess thier diaper and start to cry and I snap out of it!

I love kids, but I'm perfectly content with the three i have!

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Same here! I don't think I have the patience for human kids. I can't stand it if I'm out somewhere and there's a baby crying or kid whining; it grates on my nerves!!

I'm happy having the furry, four-legged kids!

Originally Posted by pandybear

i guess sometimes i feel pressured because my family wants me to have them but at the end of the day it's me who has to look after them and i know you should never have kids because someone else wants you to.

felicia

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i have 3 kids...and i wouldn't make it through the day if i didn't really want them, it's a hard job, and there are enough kids in the world already...i know a lot of people that don't want kids and have pets instead...i think it's wonderful

As I'm in my late 40's now I do not regret my decision not to have children. Oh there was family pressure early on (his side). But its my life not their's. I enjoy my freedom.
My sis (twin) never had children either. Sometimes I really wonder what my mom & dad think but they have never questioned my (our) decision. That's my 2 cents worth.

Originally Posted by rosiemac

I've said it before, brains in their pants!!.

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my mom and i have always said that...and when they do something stupid, we say their pants must be too tight and they're not getting any oxygen to their brains

Well I have 3 grown daughters, and 5 grandkids, 4 that are teenagers. I don't think all women need children to feel complete, that's a personal choice. I just know alot of women are waiting longer to have children and I know why god made mothers under 40, I would not stay sain if I had a kid today, I wouldn't want it to go out the door.

I go back and forth about the kids thing. Right now I think I would rather not.. When I'm not around kids for a while I thnk of how great it would be, but when I see them, ever for a few minutes, I just completely change my mind. I don't think it's wrong. My bf on the other hand wants 2 kids, but luckily he's younger than me so by the time he wants to start I may change my mind..

Originally Posted by rosiemac

You were quiet?!

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umm yes untill i got to 7 years old! lol!!!!
everyoen got angry at me because i asked so many questions!
anyway once a "friend got really mad at me so ive stopped asking so many questions lol

Originally Posted by pandybear

i can just imagine the look of shock on mums face when i bring pandy and bonnie over for a visit and say 'hey mum, meet your grandchildren'

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That what my cousins did for the longest time. My cousins Mike got a dog. Mike told my aunt that she had a grand-daughter, a 6 month old shepard. She was alittle upset, she felt tricked but she loves the her.

I think that if a person doesn't want children they shouldn't have any. It's not for everyone.

I have a 5 yr old son and a baby girl on the way. When I was younger and up until recently, I always said that I wanted 5 children total. Well, that's changed - the older they get the harder it is. I think the easist time to care for a child is from birth til about 6 months - after that, all hell breaks loose. This will be my last one although deep down I wish that I could handle 5 and feel a little dissapointed that I know I can't.

As for as people telling "childless" people that "It's differnt when it's yours." My reply would be, "yes it is....that's why I don't have any, I'm comfortable with my life the way it is."

Nobody should ever feel pressured to have children. Only you can make the right decision for yourself.

I never want children. I just don't think I could handle them. Alot of people have said to me, don't worry Sam you will change your mind. Honestly, I never want any children. Just lots of beautiful furbabies!