Hugs please... I had some bad news...

My uncle had a heart attack in his sleep at 3am this morning and died instantly. He was only 57. I only found out a few hours ago (yet my mum and sister were at my aunts house at 6am this morning). They didn't want to tell me until I got home from work because I am crap with this sort of thing! My dad does not know yet as he is on holiday and we have decided not to tell him until he gets back on Friday night My uncle was my dads, sisters husband but also, my dads best friend from school etc. For the past 10 years or so my dad and my uncle have gone out nearly every Friday night for a drink and chat. That's how close they were. I don't know how my dad will take this....

The funeral is on Wednesday next week. I am scared. I have never been to a funeral in my life and I really don't know what to expect. There will be loads of ppl there though (I know that my cousins had to ring around 250 ppl today to tell them the news - that is how big the family & friends circle is)... blah I know this happens everyday but I just wanted to let off a bit here....

Thanks for reading

{{HUGS}} from me hon, and lots of headbutts from my herd!

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

Gilly i'm so sorry! If your dad was as close as you say with your uncle, do you not think he might be a bit annoyed at not being told

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers. (((((hugs))))).

Originally Posted by rosiemac

Gilly i'm so sorry!

If your dad was as close as you say with your uncle, do you not think he might be a bit annoyed at not being told, let alone missing his funeral?!

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Well... the funeral is next week on Wednesday. My dad comes back this Friday night so he won't miss it. He is on hols on his own - we don't want to worry him whilst he is on his own. His health is not too great either, he recovered from bladder and prostate cancer a few years ago. He now has arthiritis (and is having a double knee replacement in July), plus his blood pressure.... we thought it's best to tell him when he is back on UK soil with family around to support him etc... It's been a hard decision... I am going with my mum to the airport... and I think I am going to have to break the news to him too

I'm sorry for your loss Gilly. I know how it feels to lose someone you love so suddenly. If you need someone to talk to please feel free to PM me or contact me on yahoo pager if you have an id. My sn is the same there.

So sorry. Here is a big TCS hug:

Oh, Gilly I'm so sorry about your uncle. Lots of hugs from me and purrs and headbutts from my crew.

I am really sorry to hear about this. You and your family are in our prayers. Don't worry about the funeral, you'll get through it with the support of others around you. It is an emotionally time, but also a healing time

Oh well if your dads having health issues also, then yes, it's best to let him have his holiday.

I'm so sorry Gilly, I have been to many funerals. Head up and stay strong, you will get through it.

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I'm sorry for your loss Gilly. I know how it feels to lose someone you love so suddenly. If you need someone to talk to please feel free to PM me or contact me on yahoo pager if you have an id. My sn is the same there.

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Thanks

It's all a bit of a shock. This is the first person in my family to die.... It has not really sunk in yet, but I did try to go to sleep cos I am so tired but I can't... I am sitting here in my pyjamas wrapped up as though it's winter with the heating on, I can't stop shivering! I had some tea with sugar (even though I never have sugar) and I feel a bit better for it....

Sorry to go on... but my sister called me at work earlier on today and said that she was going to pop in to see me this evening. So she got here at about 6.30 and there I was, rabbiting on about what I got from Ikea, showing her my new stuff etc. Then I was making her a drink and she said, "I have some bad news" .. and she told me what had happened. I then called my mum, she just didn't know how to tell me and stuff. She's really upset because my aunt and uncle used to double date with my mum and dad when they were younger.... blah it's just sad, one minute you are fine then the next - you just don't know do you?

And thanks everyone!

Gilly, I'm so sorry to hear this. It's never easy, and it's a hard decision you've had to make regarding telling your Dad. He probably will splutter some at not being told sooner, but given his own health challenges you are probably wise to wait and do it in person. It will be tough for him. The funeral will be fine. You'll all be there to support each other.

Please take care of yourself, Gilly. Hold each other together. I'll be thinking of you and your family.

oh Gilly! I am so so very sorry. Our hearts are with you and your family. Please don't feel weird about the funeral. Sadly, I have been to many and even the most seasoned funeral-goer such as myself, feel awkward and introverted. You will gain strength from people aorund you. Nobody expects anything. Just your presence is enough.

I'm so sorry to hear this Gilly!

*hugs gilly*
we are all here to support you, i have been to two funerals, one was my uncles and the other was my cousin. I dont know if my other cousin has recovered yet but im sure if something was wrong i would have found out by now.

if you wanna chat gilly you know im here

I'm sorry, deaths are never easy are they? I wish the best of luck to you and your family, especially your father. As for the funeral, don't worry about never having gone to one. Even though I'm only 14, I've been to at least 7 or 8... its hard, but just remember the good things about your uncle. I'm sure he wouldn't want you to be sad for his passing, considering you need to be especially strong for your father.
Once again, best of luck for you and your family!
Laurel

Thanks again everyone for the support - it really means a lot!

Guin has just plonked himself on the bed now so I think I should go and join him for some cuddles! I might lull myself to sleep with some Katie Melua or something similar in the hope that I will get to sleep. I am going into work tomorrow, but I am not setting the alarm clock. I will get there when I get there.