Please give me your honest opinion

Originally Posted by darkeyedgirl

Anyone who chastises another human being for not doing as the Joneses do and procreating and having 2.5 kids with the picket fence and all that crud, needs to shut their holes.

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I love it!!! You should have been my backup after what my neighbour said to me!.

I chose not to have children. I felt like you did. Kind of a crazy world to raise them in. I never had that maternal instinct kick in, either. I think there are some woman who just know that they want children and other woman who know they don't.

Originally Posted by maverick_kitten

even as a child when my sister played with baby dolls i had a collection of mangy toy cats and kittens and played 'lone career woman who lives in her flat with just her books and cats for company'.

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That's too funny! I did pretty much the same thing as a kid, and actually managed to obtain that life. I never played with dolls, but seeing most of the other girls obsessing over their barbies, I thought there was something wrong with me. Guess I was just into cats and books, and still am.

Thank you all for your thoughts. I have read each and every response here and appreciate them very much! **HUGS!**

For the longest time I wanted kids. Even as a kid myself, when I grew up I wanted to get married and raise a family. But when Chester, Piper and Ariel came into my life, I became content with them being my children. And I couldn't be happier. I don't think I'm cut out to be a mother, being a meowmy is so much easier and it makes me so happy.

Originally Posted by Chester&Piper

For the longest time I wanted kids. Even as a kid myself, when I grew up I wanted to get married and raise a family. But when Chester, Piper and Ariel came into my life, I became content with them being my children. And I couldn't be happier. I don't think I'm cut out to be a mother, being a meowmy is so much easier and it makes me so happy.

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I love how you worded that! I can SO relate.

Just a tiny bit of advice. If one is VERY certain that they do not want children then this does not apply. But if one thinks that there is a possibility of wanting a child in the future then it is advisable to freeze one's eggs. This is because by age 35, the eggs are considered as quite old and any birth using such eggs could have the potential for greater complications. So at least in the future if one wants a baby, it would be easier.

I used to want to have kids before I found out I had endometriosis. My OB/GYN mentioned that there was a strong possibility that, like several other women in my family, I wouldn't be able to concieve or carry to term. At that point I became ok with not wanting kids and now I really have no desire to get pregnant. I'm 25, so I don't think that that will change. My fiancee doesn't want kids either, mostly because of his job (EMT) and the fact that he wants to be a flight medic- which has its risks. He's already had a gun pulled on him while on a call! My dad and grandpa were firefighters, so that concern is valid, although it isn't the only reason. He just doesn't want kids.

We've both agreed that should I become pregnant we would count it as a blessing and have the baby. But I'm definitely staying on the pill!

I don't think that its selfish or unnatural to not want children. I think we all have our purpose in this world and that it isn't necessary for every human being to procreate. I think that you know what is best for you. I'd hate to think of anyone bringing a child into the world because they felt they had to.

My two kitties provide me with a great opportunity to express my maternal instincts.

I don't ever remembering a time when I wanted children, but when I was younger, I just always assumed I'd have a few. Just never happened and I'm totally ok with it. My animals are my babies!

Originally Posted by Wenzee

Is is awful to be SO enamored and content with kitties that you feel little to no desire to have human children?

I'm 30. My husband's 34. We've been married for five years and still have very little desire to have kids. That could change, I know. But it might not. We ADORE our two kitties and enjoy them SO much and.....well, is it bad of us to maybe decide we don't want kids??

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If you don't want children, don't./ I highly respect that aspect of people whent hey can honestly say they don't want any.

The worst thing anyone can do is have a child just because..if your desires change, fantastic, but you are perfectly all right to say no to having kids.

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HaHaHA! I jumped straight from this thread to the question post linked above. Enough said about kits as kids! Wenzee, keep enjoying your kids!

My honest opinion is this: do what feels right for you. If that's no kids, great. Just don't let someone else try to make the decision for you, and don't let people make you feel guilty about your choice.
Personally, I'm with you...the only kids I need/want are my kitties. I'm going on 27 and I have no desire for kids.

Originally Posted by Hydroaxe

On top of that, it really bugs me when someone talks down about people who have chosen not to have children. That's like expecting everyone on earth to have the exact same job description. Impossible!

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Or worse, they try to convince you that you'll change your mind one day, and want a whole litter of 'em....

Originally Posted by vespacat

That's too funny! I did pretty much the same thing as a kid, and actually managed to obtain that life. I never played with dolls, but seeing most of the other girls obsessing over their barbies, I thought there was something wrong with me. Guess I was just into cats and books, and still am.

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The only Barbies I had were given to me by my grandmothers, who thought I should be a proper little girl. The Barbies ended up as caretakers to my toy horses, or toys for my kitties, or covered in dirt....

I have people that just can't believe my husband and I aren't having kids (yet). For me it's like...excuse me but I'm only 22! No one can tell us when or if to have children. I personally know that I will want them someday. When it's time, I'll know. The plan for now is 2010. I don't think there is anything wrong with not having children. Someday you could change your mind or find someone who needs adopting or you could stay content this way. Either way I don't see a problem!

Nothing wrong with that at all. My husband and I can't have kids so we have four furbabies instead, make that five with the rabbit.