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post #1 of 34
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has been made. Fred took a turn for the worse while I was gone, and we have decided the only humane thing to do is put him out of his pain. He is 18 years old and has been a good friend to me when I didn't have anyone else. He is having seizures, he gets lost in the house, hides in the closet,(something he has never done) and is having trouble getting around. I think he may be having kidney problems, too. He cries sometimes, and it is the most heartbreaking sound I have ever heard. I have seen a huge difference in him between the time I left on my trip and the time I came home. We have given up on him several times before, and he has snapped back, but I don't think this is going to happen this time. I hope for his sake that I can bring myself to go through with it, because I really think he is suffering. He is clinging to me like my poor Leo did just before he succumbed to feline leukemia. Please send me some vibes to have the strength to do the right thing. I am devestated. We are going in first thing Monday morning.
post #2 of 34
Rebecca, I'm so very sorry to hear this.

My thoughts are with you. It sounds like you are doing the best thing for Fred, even though it will be the hardest thing for you. He's lived a long and wonderful life in your care. Treasure this brief time you have with him still.
post #3 of 34
oh my, i am so very sorry, it is very difficult, but it is for the best, i send my strongest vibes to you and hope you make it through this alright knowing that he will be out of his pain, everyone is here for you, God bless you
post #4 of 34
Rebecca, I am sorry for this. Mike and I are facing this now with Kenai- I guess we will know on Monday or thereabouts what we will do. She is going downhill quick-

Take care of yourself-
post #5 of 34
I am so very sorry...I know some of how you are feeling, and I wish there were anything I could say to make it better.
post #6 of 34
Rebecca, and MA too, I'll be thinking of you both, and praying too not just Monday morning, but for strength both before and after.....{{{{HUGS}}}} to both of you.
post #7 of 34
Originally Posted by hissy
Rebecca, I am sorry for this. Mike and I are facing this now with Kenai- I guess we will know on Monday or thereabouts what we will do. She is going downhill quick-

Take care of yourself-
I am so sorry...sweet Kenai
post #8 of 34
Rebecca and MA.... Fred and Kenai are both in my thoughts and prayers.. I hope that their transition to the bridge will be easy and painfree
post #9 of 34
I am so sorry to hear this. It is such a heartwrenching decision. Having been where you are I can empathize with the pain. My prayers go out to you.
post #10 of 34
My thoughts and best wishes go out to Fred and Kenai. I hope they both pull through this. Extra hugs for Rebecca & MA!
post #11 of 34
I'm so sorry you are having to go through this You both will be in my thoughts.
post #12 of 34
I think you as HIS best friend will make the best choice for him. It is hard to let go of the ones we love (even if they are our pets) really even more when their life rests in our hands. But if you know he has lived a long, loving, happy life.... and you know he is no longer enjoying it .... then maybe it is time for you to help him out of his pain.
I do know it is easier for me to type these words to you than it is to even read them much less take my advice into consideration.... but remember no matter what anyone tells you ... IT IS NOW YOUR CHOICE.... but he will ALWAYS BE YOUR BEST BUDDY!!!! And he will take all the love you gave him with him. Tucked away in his little paws.
I will pray for you and FRED tonight before bed. As I will my 2 furbabies that are only slightly ill.
post #13 of 34
I am so sorry to hear this. It is a hard decision to make and I sending positive vibes to you all. He will always be with you.
post #14 of 34
I'm so sorry to hear this Rebecca. My thoughts will be with you and Fred on Monday morning.
post #15 of 34
My prayers for you for strength and for peace, knowing that you have given Fred the proof of your love, release from his suffering. In doing this you take his suffering on yourself because he will be free and happy, playing at the bridge, while you will be suffering the loss of your precious baby. He will be waiting for you when it is time to be reunited again. I am thinking of you and sending cyber hugs.
post #16 of 34
I am so sorry, it is so hard, but you are doing the right thing by one who loves you.
post #17 of 34
Oh, Rebecca, what an incredibly painful decision you are being forced to make. I know you love Fred so much and want only the best for him. If he is telling you it is his time to go, this will be the ultimate show of your unselfishness and love for him. Treasure these special days with your dear friend. You and he are in my prayers.
post #18 of 34
I'm sorry to hear you have to make such a heartbreaking decision, but you will do what's best for Fred. I fear that time is coming all too soon for my 15 year old girl Roo as well.
post #19 of 34
Rebecca, I am so sorry to hear that you are going thru this. It is so agonizing to make that decision for an older cat who is on the slow decline. Be at peace with your decision.
My thoughts are with you.
post #20 of 34
I'm so sorry you are going through this tough time. My thought are with you.
post #21 of 34
Thread Starter 
Thanks so much for all the support. It really helps a lot. MA, I am so sorry you are going through this, too.
post #22 of 34
My heart goes out to you. I had to make that same painful decision in February with my precious Snoopy who was 20. I didn't think I could do it. He was my best friend in the world. The night before I took him in, he looked at me, and it seemed to me like he was telling me , it was time to let him go.

It's so hard to say "good-bye" to a special friend who has been with you that many years. I will send you Vibes to do what is right for Fred.
post #23 of 34
Rebecca, Fred is special and you are allowing him a way to escape that would not be available to him were he living outside, or even living with someone else. It is a very hard decision to make, because it requires us to go outside our own personal needs and try and figure out the best route for the cat. Many, are unable to do this. You are not one of the many, you are one of the few-
post #24 of 34
Rebecca and Mary Anne, I'm so sorry that you're both going through the pain of this, in order to spare your precious fur babies pain and suffering.
They never really leave us. I was cleaning Friday, and picked up my childhood teddy bear to dust off a shelf. His ear was chewed off by Teddy, the beagle we had when I was little. I found myself remembering Teddy so clearly, down to the way it felt to cuddle him, his howl, the way he used to steal food (several roasts right off the table), and even the way he smelled when he rolled in things.
post #25 of 34
I'm very sorry you are going thru this difficult time. My prayers are certainly with you and Fred.
post #26 of 34
I am so sorry to her about your kitty. I hope everything goes okay. Sorry for your loss.
post #27 of 34
aww Rebecca~ I am sorry for poor Fred...he looks like such a sweet kitty poo...((hugs))
post #28 of 34
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I fully expected to come here today and tell you all the deed had been done. I got up this morning, and Fred seemed to be back to his old self. He was even playing and chasing Scooter around. He has not played for months! He ate like a horse, then dragged the bone from a T-bone steak from the trash and was gnawing on it. He smacked Pepper out of his spot, and has not been back in his closet. He slept on my chest during his nap time this morning, and seemed to be breathing fine, not crying when I petted him. We discussed it, and have decided to monitor him closely for a week and see what happens. We have given him up for gone several times over the years, and he has snapped back. Maybe he just missed me while I was gone. He seems better than he has for months. He has developed some very bad habits in his old age, but I will not put him down just because he has become inconvenient. We will see what happens. Right now I just happy to be able to keep him for at least a few more days.
post #29 of 34
Rebecca, I'm very glad Fred has rallied for the time being. Enjoy this time with him to the fullest. I am so sorry for what both you AND MA are going through. Like MA said, though- you are not one of the many, you are one of the few. I know you will make the right decision for Fred.
My heart goes out to you and MA right now during this time of difficult decisions.
post #30 of 34
From everything you've ever said about Fred, it sounds like you two have a very special connection. I think it's entirely possible that he missed you so much that it affected his health. And now that he has his beloved Meowmy back, he can be back to normal too.
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