Don't have to ask me twice! (Shameless mom here.)
My husband and I suffered the death of a child in 1976. After many years of being lonely for a child - but afraid to have another one by birth - we started thinking of adoption. I didn't realize how lonesome for the love of a child I was until I met Rog. He was soooooo cute - and melted our hearts.
Rog was adopted when he as 5 1/2 yrs old. He came from a house where love and compassion were not known to him. He was tied to a bed and left to drink water out of the toilet, when he could get loose. He was cold and hungry and unloved. He was beaten daily with a belt and other objects. His birth mom had surrendered him when he was 6 months old and was in and out of Foster Homes until his birth father and new woman took him in. It was at that time, that most of the neglect and abuse took place. Child Protective Serivces finally stepped in and removed him. He spent 1 month in the hospital before he was well enough to go to a foster home. We started visits 2 months after that. Rog was so malnurished that when we had a 'adoption party' at the office, he wore size 2T. That is small for a kid almost 6 years old. After a summer of adjusting to a new family, he started school - something the 'professionals' said he would not do well at. We now have a Sr in highschool and one of the smartest kids I know. He has a charming girlfriend and works part time after school. He is popular with his friends and kind to all our animals. Rog is going on to college in the Fall to study computer skills - he is a WIZ! Told you I am a shameless mom!
Adoption gave us a sense of being complete. Is he my own child? YES HE IS! The courts made the decision to place Roger with another family - and I am grateful that they did. I think that Adoption is a great gift - one to be cherished and not taken for granted. Life is too short to wonder what if I ........ etc.
We celebrate "Family Day" - that is June 2nd - the day we became a family. We also celebrate "Adoption Day" which is October 30th - that was the day our adoption was final so long ago.
Life is good when you love a child and BETTER whe one loves you back.