if you were me what would you do?

I have one question that may or may not shed some light onto the situation. Is it possible that he heard about this site from someone, a guy friend perhaps, and just wanted to poke around there for laughs? Also, does one have to register an account before being able to view the ads that are there?

Nicky, honestly, in my opinion, this guy is dirt, and you can do better. But, I understand love is a complicated thing, and you have your feelings. All I can say, is go with your heart, but keep in mind your values, morals, and feelings you may have down the road.

Originally Posted by Kellyyfaber

The only thing I know is "once a liar, always a liar". Trust me, I've been with my share of liars and they never change.

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Amen to that Kelly! I'm dealing with one right now - my neighbor's (very soon-to-be-ex) husband of 6 mo. I knew he was a liar from the get-go but no, SHE thought he was changing, maturing, he's different now, yadda, yadda, yadda.

The urge to say "I told you so!" is killing me. Total material, those two.

Nicky, I trust you know from reading this post that you have a TON of support here!! regardless the outcome, we're here for ya, girl. Hang tough.

Originally Posted by Deb25

IAlso, does one have to register an account before being able to view the ads that are there?

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no you dont.

and you certainlly dont have to subscribe to the newsletter.

thanks for all your support and advice. he's not talking to me now which really says a lot about him.

the thing is i genuinly dont care that he subscribed to this site. i was a little shocked at first but if he wants to meet weird ugly people for sex thats his problem. he's a good looking guy, i think him going to university or out to bars is more of a threat than this site! if you wanted to cheat on someone there are oppotunities everywhere.

i'm just angry that he lied to me. if he said he joined it because he was bored or for a laugh then i wouldnt mind. the fact that he is denying the whole thing (he says he joined it before he met me which from the look of the email is untrue) makes me think that he was planning to do something- why else join a dating site?

another thing is his reasoning behind it is that if its ok for me to have a face-pic site its ok for him to join this site.

face-pic for those of you who dont know is a site where you put your picture and a fill in a form about yourself. i used to use it on forums if someone asked for a photo before i knew about photobucket.

you can messege other users and have to be registered to look at other pictures. he wanted me to take my picture down but i refused.

maybe this is him getting back at me? (brianlojack- is that another girl way to look at it? do boys do that?)

Originally Posted by RicaLynn

Nicky, I trust you know from reading this post that you have a TON of support here!!

regardless the outcome, we're here for ya, girl. Hang tough.

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thanks and thanks everyone for your kind words and support.

now i've calmed down things dont look so bad. whats gonna happen is gonna happen and i'm not going to waste my time worrying over him.

Is face-pic like Hot or Not or something?

Glad you have calmed down a bit now - you will be able to look at the situation from the outside now and decide a way forward!

It might be good that you are not chatting at the moment, it will give you both time to think!

I hope it goes the way you want it to and as everyone has shown, we're all here for you no matter what!

Ignore my question, I remember what face-pic is now! And no, it's nothing like Hot or Not!!

heres the link to my one:http://www.face-pic.com/darling_nicky

maybe i should have just taken it down if it was such a big deal to him? personally i dont see anything wrong with it but maybe thats just me? it was like a craze amongst all my friends to make one and i didnt want to feel left out.

we need Fwan's opinion, she has a face-pic site too!!

Why did you do it so you didn't feel left out? I was just wondering as I don't think your friends would have looked down on you if you hadn't had one?!

Were you with your fella when you put it up, as I noticed you mad it in January this year? Do you think he's done all this to get back at you?

maybe but it was just a fad thing that started and ended in january.

i'd had a profile before but had forgot all about it so i dug it ot and changed the name to darling_nicky (after the prince song) in jan.

it was just easier to have a profile coz then i could view the links my friends sent me easier and we messeged each other and stuff. (my female friends who i know in real life, not people i'd met through the site). no one ever messeged me from the site anyway so he had nothing to worry about!

i havent thoght about it in months. if thats the reason he did it its my own fault but we havent spoken about it since january.

for those of you who have yahoo, my bf occasionally checks and always takes down my picture. so for over a year i havent put one back up.

I joined face pic long before i found bf so he doesnt care about it.

But its unfair because in my profile i have to say that i am taken and with no pic
where as his is no comment and with a pic it just peeves me.

anyway my bf has a big fear of me leaving him.
he always says he isnt scared but if the topic comes up you can see by the look on his face and he does tell me that he doesnt want me to leave.
Not because i clean the house or what ever. When i had left for 2 days to frankfurt he said he didnt like being by him self, the house was too empty, and he felt sick not seeing me be home when he came back.

anyway my face pic thing is

www.face-pic.com/princess_fwan

I joined up to find germans on it but all i get is weirdos so i never look on it anymore.

I know that my bf has lied many times, in the past, and i forgave him so much which he doesnt deserve, we have our ups and downs, we have learned alot from each other and i think thats what keeps us together.
Also this is the longest relationship we have both had, and he always says that its hard to find people that he can get along with. When we go to places we stick out and are different from others, and we get sick of certain people pretty quickly.

But i have to admit, that my bf doesnt write that *ucked up he actually looks at me in the face to argue and we argue untill we make peace or else we both feel so horrible the next day

Originally Posted by maverick_kitten

heres the link to my one:http://www.face-pic.com/darling_nicky

maybe i should have just taken it down if it was such a big deal to him? personally i dont see anything wrong with it but maybe thats just me? it was like a craze amongst all my friends to make one and i didnt want to feel left out.

we need Fwan's opinion, she has a face-pic site too!!

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Wow Nicky - you're GORGEOUS!! So what if he's a good looking guy. You could get anyone you wanted - and you should, too!

All the website issues don't amount to diddley-squat compared to this: A relationship is like a 3 legged table. One leg represents love, one trust, one respect. If a leg is missing your relationship falls down.

You can get over the arguments you've been having, but look at the big picture. How does your relationship measure up? (You don't have to answer here - just food for thought).

Originally Posted by maverick_kitten

maybe this is him getting back at me? (brianlojack- is that another girl way to look at it? do boys do that?)

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of course, we're still human. ;-)

I dont' know either of you at all, so I've tried not to give any life-changing advice. However, as normal as this website incident may be, he still sounds like a loser...

its just hit me today that he's not at all sorry and really doesnt care.

this is the longest we havent talked in 2years and i miss him so much.

i cant believe its ended like this.

What does that tell you then Nicky?!

No one likes a breakup, but you have to think if this is what you want in years to come with him?!

i know but its like he couldnt even be bothered to lie his way out of this.

Maverick ran away last night again bt luckily i found her after an hour. i txt him to tell him and he hasnt even txt me back.

monday when i was with him he was saying that he wanted to marry me and we were talking about our future then its gets to friday and he completley doesnt care.

I've said this before... I'll say it again here, just so you can see it all the time.

"No man is ever worth your tears... and the one who is, will never make you cry"

Neither will he break your trust, your respect, or your heart. By the way I like the three legged stool analogy. It's very true. You know where I am sweetie, all you gotta do is holler

Originally Posted by LilleKat

I've said this before... I'll say it again here, just so you can see it all the time.

"No man is ever worth your tears... and the one who is, will never make you cry"

Neither will he break your trust, your respect, or your heart. By the way I like the three legged stool analogy. It's very true.

You know where I am sweetie, all you gotta do is holler

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Emma - I had not heard that. It pertains to all relationships not just about "men" . What a great saying.