Originally Posted by Mom of Franz
The old blame the victim game. When you are brought up powerless it becomes ingrained in you. Just like women who are victims of domestic violence here. If suddenly the women there were to rise up in protest, what do you think would happen to them. Sadly, it's about survival of self.
I was going to say the same thing. Many people blame the victim without even realizing how detrimental that is. Unfortunately, the majority of the people right here in the US who do not understand (or who refuse to become educated on) domestic violence tend to blame the victim. The most common response: She should have just left. Don't get me started on how angry that makes me!
That said, I definitely do not believe that a government will ever be able to do anything to curb domestic violence (other than to put more money into social services and less into this idiotic war, but that's just MHO). The only want things such as this tragic stoning and the beatings and murders we hear about every day are ever going to change is by SOCIETY changing their thinking. Unfortunately, in those countries where women have been treated like this for CENTURIES, I have no idea how a change is going to happen
It's going to take the CITIZENS (women AND men) of Iraq, Saudi Arabia, Afghanistan, etc. to stand up and say: This is NOT right. A loving Allah would NEVER advocate the beating of a woman. We as a people will not stand for this!
To that effect, we need such actions taken in our own country. Sure, there are hundreds of advocates like me that will speak up on behalf of the victims, lobby congress for changes, etc. But until our own people stop blaming the victim, quit referring to incidences of domestic violence as "mistake", and quit turning a blind eye to DV in general, things are not likely to change a whole hell of a lot. I'd like to think positive and hope that things will change- and they CAN. It just takes the efforts of billions, not just a handful of dedicated folks.