Here's a little background. I've had my oldest cat, Spot, since she was 8 weeks old. She's 6 years old now. Buddy, our new cat, is maybe about a year, year and a half. He was a stray, so we're not very sure on his age. Vet guessed he was about 8 months old last november. Anyways, Spot has always been an only kitty. She wasn't very sociable with most people (except me. she's always loved me), but she tolerated them. When we adopted Buddy, we didn't know how to introduce him properly, so it went very bad. It's now about 6 months later and it's as bad as the first day.
Buddy is pretty laid back, but after Spot hisses, growls, and meows for a while, it's like he's had enough and he starts to chase her. It's like she has a 3 foot perimeter. If he gets closer than that, she gets very upset. Every morning and night, they start fighting. He chases her, she hisses to the point where she starts to hyperventilate, then she starts screaming at the top of her lungs. So far, they haven't hurt each other. It's not usually physical. Just very vocal. And it's literally every day and night. Another strange thing is she'll walk up to him, and when she gets close she hisses and runs off. Sometimes she'll charge him, and as soon as he reacts, she runs away with him chasing, her screaming. They're definitely not playing. I've tried letting them work it out for themselves and also breaking them up. I'm not sure which is the right thing, though.
Spot is now pulling her hair out. She's bald at the base of her tail, back legs, tummy, and is starting in on her front legs. I've been very upset and don't know what to do. The vet says it's an allergy, but she started this behavior soon after we got Buddy.
Spot also has become much more antisocial with people. I'm pretty much the only person she'll let near her now, without yelling, hissing, and growling. When we first got Buddy, Spot started to eat less and lost weight, but we now feed her in a different room and she's gained the weight back. That's the only positive difference she's shown.
Please help, I don't know what to do. I thought it would just take time for Spot to accept Buddy, but it's been 6 months. I'm starting to think she'll be like this forever. She's becoming neurotic, and I feel so badly for her. I know we handled the introduction badly, but is there any hope for a good outcome?
Buddy is pretty laid back, but after Spot hisses, growls, and meows for a while, it's like he's had enough and he starts to chase her. It's like she has a 3 foot perimeter. If he gets closer than that, she gets very upset. Every morning and night, they start fighting. He chases her, she hisses to the point where she starts to hyperventilate, then she starts screaming at the top of her lungs. So far, they haven't hurt each other. It's not usually physical. Just very vocal. And it's literally every day and night. Another strange thing is she'll walk up to him, and when she gets close she hisses and runs off. Sometimes she'll charge him, and as soon as he reacts, she runs away with him chasing, her screaming. They're definitely not playing. I've tried letting them work it out for themselves and also breaking them up. I'm not sure which is the right thing, though.
Spot is now pulling her hair out. She's bald at the base of her tail, back legs, tummy, and is starting in on her front legs. I've been very upset and don't know what to do. The vet says it's an allergy, but she started this behavior soon after we got Buddy.
Spot also has become much more antisocial with people. I'm pretty much the only person she'll let near her now, without yelling, hissing, and growling. When we first got Buddy, Spot started to eat less and lost weight, but we now feed her in a different room and she's gained the weight back. That's the only positive difference she's shown.
Please help, I don't know what to do. I thought it would just take time for Spot to accept Buddy, but it's been 6 months. I'm starting to think she'll be like this forever. She's becoming neurotic, and I feel so badly for her. I know we handled the introduction badly, but is there any hope for a good outcome?