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post #1 of 29
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On Sunday April 10th 2005 I found my cat Spydee, dead, inside our dryer. Why she was in the dryer, I will never know. That was not one of her places to play, hide, sulk, sleep or anything. She stayed away from our washer and dryer and for the life of me, I can't even think as to why she would even be in there. The washer and dryer are in our garage and there's tons of places for her to hide if she was scared or being chased by our other cat. Unfortunately, she was in the dryer while it was on for about an hour and when I pulled her out, the tops of her poor little ears were badly burnt and she was gone. I don't know if she was already gone before I turned the dryer on or not. I didn't even see her in there or jump in. There were no cries for help and there was no 'mess' in the dryer. I'm feeling extreamly guilty about this because she trusted me unconditionaly and I feel that I did not protect her by checking if she was in there or not. I've lost a dear companion that followed me everywhere I went and seemed to only want to be by my side.

She was only 10 and had just had her 10th birthday on March 17th. She showed no signs of being sick or anything and I can't believe I let this happen to her. My wife has tried to console me, but, I continue to cry for her every day. Especialy when I try to go to sleep for the night. She was a very vocal cat and very social as well. She always greeted me when I came home and would jump up in my arms and rest on my shoulder and whatever room I was in, she was in. I really miss my little friend.

Lighting the way toward the light
post #2 of 29
Oh how very sad, My heart goes out to you. There is nothing to say but you are in my Thoughts and many prayers go out to you.
post #3 of 29
Oh, many to you! How tragic, I wish I had the right words to help ease your pain. You will be in my thoughts. RIP Spydee
post #4 of 29
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Thank you Halfpint and Stormy, every little bit helps.

There is definately a huge hole in my heart now and I know now how others feel that have posted their loss on this board. My heart goes out to them big time.
post #5 of 29
How sad, I'm so sorry you are going through this, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
post #6 of 29
That's really sad. I'm am also sorry you are having to go through with it. I hope you feel more at peace with it soon.
post #7 of 29
Oh Brian, I didn't know that is how she died. I am so sorry. They just sometimes get into the most strangest places to sleep. My heart goes out to you-
post #8 of 29
Brian, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. My heart is with you in your time of grief.
post #9 of 29
Brian... Your post brought tears to my eyes. You obviously loved your kitty so very much -- I also lost my dear Comere in March and I know it is so painful to lose our furry loved-ones. You are not alone in how you feel.

You are in my thoughts and my heart truly goes out to you...
post #10 of 29
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you can later find some comfort in the fact that she has crossed RB. My Girls just crossed RB in the last couple months. I am sure they will help take care of her up there.
post #11 of 29
I'm so sorry for your loss. Please know that you and your sweet cat will be in my thoughts and prayers.
post #12 of 29
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babygirl, eatrawfish, hissy, valanhb, Amy-DHH, ciera23, eilcon, thank you so very much for your thoughts and prayers. It does help through this tough period. It's unfortunate that you all couldn't get to know Spydee when she was still here. I raised her from when she was a kitten not even weened from her mom yet and had to make sure she was eating and drinking enough so she could get strong and grow up healthy. I think that's why I feel so guilty is because she trusted me and I feel that I let her down by not being more careful because I didn't check the dryer to see if she was in there.


She was such a good cat, she wouldn't bite or scratch you, she would just kind of knaw on you and grab you with her claws but they would never sink in. She was also very well mannered, because she wouldn't beg for food when you ate and would not stick her nose in your food. As a matter of fact, the only people food she would eat was the white cake from doughnuts and milk if it had a sugary cereal in it. I loved her very very much and there is a big void in my life right now. I know in time it will pass, but, I hope on the other side she is with my grandma, grandpa and my aunt and I hope that Spydee and them will be waiting for me when I pass. I am very much looking forward to that reunion.......not right now, but in time.

Thank you again everyone for your kind words and prayers and thoughts.
post #13 of 29
Spydee is up there watching over you as we speak. I know that you are going through a difficult time and we all understand how you are feeling inside. I have had many long nights and days of crying and feeling depressed still even now and I am sure will for a long time. But, know in your heart that she loved you and she knows how much you loved her!! I am sure that she is up there with your grandma, grandpa and aunt and they are all going to take very good care of her. She is still with you just in a different way now.
If I may suggest, here are some sites that I went to when I lost my girls. I created tribute pages and read poems. It really helped.
http://www.youns.com/memoriam/addpal.asp
www.petloss.com

I have found alot of strength, encouragement and comforting words here on this board. I hope you do as well.
post #14 of 29
You are very much in my thoughts. I first came to this site the day I lost my Charley and it helps so much to have the folks here who understand and care. I still cry most days and Charley is never far from my thoughts as I'm sure Spydee will never be far from yours forever....

RIP Spydee
post #15 of 29
Oh I am so sorry to hear this!
post #16 of 29
I am so sorry about this Brian.
post #17 of 29
I am sorry to hear of your loss. I will pray that God grants you peace about your little Spydee. She will be waiting at the bridge to be reunited with you someday. Hugs.
post #18 of 29
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ciera23: Are your tributes for your girls still on the site the www.youns.com? I would love to read those. I've cried every day since she died (I know, not very manly of me) and I just promise myself that I will never forget her. There's just something special about about these cats that find their way into our hearts.

Alexa: I'm so sorry to hear about Charley, I dont think it matters if they are sick and you know they don't have much longer with us or it's an accident, it still hurts the same. I am very thankful that Spydee came into my life as I am that Charley was in yours. I will say a little something for Charley tonight before bed.

WellingtonCats: Thank you for your condolences. I am trying to make a web page for Spydee, so all can get to know her.

HopeHacker: Thank you very much. It's too bad we all meet under these circumstances.

carolcat: Thank you as well for your thoughts and prayers. I never imagined that this would be so hard.
post #19 of 29
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Originally Posted by brians
ciera23: Are your tributes for your girls still on the site the www.youns.com? I would love to read those. I've cried every day since she died (I know, not very manly of me) and I just promise myself that I will never forget her. There's just something special about about these cats that find their way into our hearts.

Alexa: I'm so sorry to hear about Charley, I dont think it matters if they are sick and you know they don't have much longer with us or it's an accident, it still hurts the same. I am very thankful that Spydee came into my life as I am that Charley was in yours. I will say a little something for Charley tonight before bed.

WellingtonCats: Thank you for your condolences. I am trying to make a web page for Spydee, so all can get to know her.

HopeHacker: Thank you very much. It's too bad we all meet under these circumstances.

carolcat: Thank you as well for your thoughts and prayers. I never imagined that this would be so hard.

Yes, they are posted there, here is the addresses:
http://www.youns.com/memoriam/memorial.asp?ID=1162
http://www.youns.com/memoriam/memorial.asp?ID=1189
Do not be ashamed that you cry. It's a natural emotion for everyone including men although most don't want to admit it. Your tears are a release and it is good for you to get it out.
Hugs your way in this difficult time...
post #20 of 29
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ciera23, oh my, you just lost them. Im so very sorry. Looking at their ages, I guess you can just never tell when they might be gone.

I'll make sure I'll say a little something for Jessie and Punkin.
post #21 of 29
Oh I am so sorry for you tragic loss. However of whenever we lose our well loved friends it is never easy. Remember Spydee with love and humour. As you say she was a very special and affectionate cat-she still is and is now playing happily together with all our much loved friends. No doubt Jessie, Punkin,Charley, Comare and my dear little Tulip who left me last Sunday are welcoming her and showing her the ropes at Rainbow Bridge.
You are in my thoughts at this sad time
post #22 of 29
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Originally Posted by brians
ciera23, oh my, you just lost them. Im so very sorry. Looking at their ages, I guess you can just never tell when they might be gone.

I'll make sure I'll say a little something for Jessie and Punkin.

Yes, I've had a bad couple of months. Cancer took my Jessie and I am not sure what took my Punkin but we suspect FIP.
Thank you for your kind words.
I prayed that my girls would take care of your Spydee up there.
post #23 of 29
oh brian how awful for you

I can't imagine how difficult that must have been for you, i only lost my cat sky last week, so i know how you feel, just take one day at a time
post #24 of 29
Brian,

I am so sorry to hear of this terrible loss. My heart and thoughts go out to you and to your precious baby. May time lessen the hurt and guilt you feel and remember the happy times until you are reunited again.
post #25 of 29
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tulip2454: Thank you. You are very correct, it is probably one of the hardest things we have to go through in life and that's saying goodbye to a loved one, whether or not they have 4 legs or 2. I'm at ease knowing that I gave her all my love and she knew that she was loved.

ciera23: That's so sad. I think if they are sick or healthy when they go, it's just a hard thing to deal with, period.

cazx01: Thank you for your condolences. I'm sorry to hear about your loss as well. Yes, one day at a time is about the only thing that seems to work.

gizmoe: Thank you as well for your condolences. Yes, I am sure with time, the hurt will lesson, thankfully. I'll never forget how good of a friend and companion she was and I am looking forward to being reunited with her in the future.

Thank you all for your kind responses and condolences and your thoughts and prayers. They have all helped tremendously.
post #26 of 29
I just want you to know how sorry I am about your loss of Spydee. I know the pain and guilt you must feel and it is so hard to bare . Our kitten got out and was killed on the hwy just the other day ..

Try not to blame yourself and remember that you loved her and cared for her so much and she knows that too. Just remember the good times and the happy memories you have of her. This will keep her forever in your heart and her spirit close to you always.
post #27 of 29
I'm so sorry, I've not been on the site for a few days and have only just read this. It's always very painful to lose an animal, but I just can't begin to imagine how you must feel. Our cats have never ever been known to climb into the washing machine, but because you have shared your experience with us, I will always check now, in memory of your precious Spydee.

She knew you loved her and would never intentionally hurt her. She had 10 years when she was warm and well fed in a loving and caring home and that's, sadly, 10 years more than many thousands of animals enjoy.
post #28 of 29
brians...
i'm kind of wondering if, since you didn't hear any cries, she might have been gone before the dryer started.
on another note,
i totally understand the guilt factor, because my first cat died right after being medicated. i have always questioned whether the stress of pilling brought it on (she was already ill), or if she choked, etc.
i finally, after several years, have somewhat come to terms with feeling like i caused her death.
it wasn't your fault - it was her time. rest assured - had she been in any pain, you WOULD have heard her.
i grieve with you...
post #29 of 29
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kittylady: Thank you for your condolences and mine go out to you for your kitten. I do try to not blame myself, it's hard sometimes though and I do have a lot of great memories of her and I try to think about them.

Jan: Thank you. Yes, Spydee never ever went in them or on top of them. She would go behind them because it was a good place to hide, but never IN them. Yes, I would suggest to everyone to take roll call before closing the washer or dryer door before turning them on. I don't want that to happen to anyone. 10 good years of love is a lot more than many many cats will ever know and I just hope she is ok wherever she may be.

laureen227: I'm hoping that she was already gone before I turned it on and that way I know for sure there was no suffering. It makes me sick to my stomach thinking if she had to suffer through it all. Im sorry to hear about your cat passing after taking a pill. I would feel bad too if something like that happened and you are right, time seems to be the few things that help us get through stuff like this.
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