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post #31 of 37
diffucult choice.. plus, what would i be doing there? enjoying myself again, changing something?
post #32 of 37
Although I am as Happy as I can be at this time, not being able to plan what will happen in your life. I would have to say I'd choose to go back to 1995 when I lost the biggest part of my life, my first hubby, we were married for 32 years at that point, I was 15 he was 18 when we married, when I lost him I lost a part of me also, we grew up together had 3 kids together, it was very tuff to wake up at 47 a widow. I can say that yes I am still standing and I got through it, but that's what I would choose... I have a Wonderful Hubby now but it will never be the same.
post #33 of 37
I would love to met my Fiancé all over again, I wouldn't change anything. Just to experience it, what a awesome feeling!!
post #34 of 37
I am not sure I would change anything, but I have so much I would truly want to change, does that make sense? I had a terribly hard and traumatic childhood and what wouldn't I give to have a mom, a real home, lots of friends, lots of joy, parents who loved me, ....a normal life. I'd give anything to go back....but as Chris and Annebelle said, sometimes you dare to change the course of a life already lived and the outcome of where I'm at now --happy and at peace-- becomes mired in jeopardy because, well, I meddled. I've said it before and I will say it here, and that is, that God deals us our cards face down instead of up, because that's where real life comes from, all that living!
post #35 of 37
Originally Posted by Beckiboo
My first thought on reading this post was that I would love to go back to when my Mom was alive, and tell her one more time how much I love her. She died 3 years ago, and I will always miss her.

Diane, it sounds like you did all you knew to do for your friend Christine. I'm sorry some of the adults in her life did not see what was going on at the time. Remember that forgiveness is the way to peace. Maybe you can talk to your dh about that time in your lives, and find a way to forgive yourself for not knowing the unknowable. Purrs, and ((((hugs)))
I am sorry about your Mom. But I am sure she knew how much you loved her.
And you are right about Christine, and I know it. I have forgiven myself, I had to. If I continued to live in the past, there was definitely no future for me. Understanding was the way to forgiving. And Charlie and I still talk about her. Still wonder why she did it. But we help eachother through it, and charlie is finally getting his life back on track, and has moved on a little himself.
But, I am a better person for it, and I now recognize the signs, and try to help. I guess things happen for a reason, and I heard a song, that kind of puts things in prospective if you think about.... "You cant jump the track, we're like cars on a cable, and life's like an hourglass glued to the table, no one can find the rewind button now..."
post #36 of 37
Thanks, yes, my Mom was very loving, and knew how much she was loved. But one more moment with her would be very sweet.

That is true, that life only goes forward. And really, if I had known before some of the tough times, I don't think I could have handled it! But I have learned a lot.

Sounds like you have a great perspective on life. Wanna join my field? I'm a psych nurse, and we could always use a few more well grounded people to help out!
post #37 of 37
October 13, 1986.

A day I can never forgive myself for.

I was emotionally, and every other way incapable of caring for my 5 yr. old son, and 3 &1/2 yr. old daughter and gave custody to their father.
Thought it was the right thing to do.
Looking back, I should've done whatEVER it took to pull myself out of the rubble and take control of things.
I lost 2-3 yrs. of their lives because of bitterness from him and his horrid family.
It was and still is a very painful memory forever burned into my heart.
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