If you could chose ONE moment...

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I wish I hadn't changed my college major from psychology to slavic languages. I could read and write Russian and Polish very well, but when it came to speaking the languages, my pronunciation was terrible. I thought if I stuck it out my pronunciation would improve, but it didn't. Now I have a masters degree that is of no use to me and $60,000 of student loan debt. I also have a low income job. I'm pretty sure that if I had stuck with psychology I would be better off than I am now.
 

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I would have taken a much more expensive and inconvenient flight home, so I could have had a chance to say goodbye to my Mom before she died
 
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Originally Posted by captiva

I can think of something. But like many of the rest, it probably would have sent me down a whole different path in life. Good? Bad? I will never know. I do know that since I can't change the past, my life as it is now is the way it was meant to be.
There have been such powerful responses, it can be an emotional thing to think about, on bad days it can come out of the blue & hit you hard if you let it.
I would go back to one minute when I was in the 7th grade, my Biology teacher pulled me aside to talk to me after class & thanked me for asking him such thought-provoking questions, that he wished he had a classful of students like me, I tested his own knowledge & made him think.
It doesn't seem to hit as hard as alot of these other replies, but I think it could have been such a major fork in my life. Biology was one of my talents, I should have been more serious about school, earned a scholarship, etc.
But that's o.k. Life is simple, sometimes boring, but I have some interesting memories to take with me when I go, good & bad. I never knew that when I was a kid singing "This land is your land" in school, that I would go to all of those beautiful places.
But I agree, these things in life have made me who I am, there are many things I wish I could change, but so many other things are like precious photographs, only better.
 

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I wouldn't want to change anything but I would love to go back to the Summer of 1979. That was the summer before my dad split to Nashville. I was 11 and living with my mom. My brother was living with dad. I spent the whole summer with them and it was an absolute blast. I don't recall ever having such a great time since then.
 

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I would love to go back and be with my great-grandmother for awhile again. I can remember when I was little being in bed with her and watching The Lawrence Welk Show. She was short and plump and had the softest skin I've ever felt. Her maccaroni & cheese ROCKED also! I'd give just about anything to spend some time with her again.
 

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My initial thought was that I wuold change June 13, 1999 so that my mom and I weren't in the horrible accident. If I could change that, I would change it so the lady in the other car didn't die and my mom wouldn't have such problems with her legs now. After thinking about it, though, that accident changed our life for the better. It brought our family so much closer and it got us back into church. Things are much better now...I just wish that lady was still alive.

So, since I wouldn't really change that, I would choose the day my uncle Randy was killed 2 years ago. He was too young to die, and was killed in a freak accident on a construction site. He was one of the greatest men I had ever known, and was certainly without a doubt the greatest father I had ever known (to my cousins). He was my aunt's one and only love, and they were the perfect couple. His life was taken too soon, and it has made life very complicated for my aunt and my cousins. Things are starting to get better now, but they will never be the same. He was such a wonderful man and I would do just about anything for him to be alive again. But, things happen for a reason, so we're still waiting to see.
 

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well, lets see....I would definitely go back to my wedding day and be more asertive about the way my hair was done
I still want to kick myself when I see the pictures


Sometimes I say that I would want to go back to when I started college and convince myself not to major in music, but I also know that the experiences I had in that major are what allowed me to believe and understand- without regret or resentment -that I would not be able to be successful in that field, no matter how much I loved it. So, on one level I want those years back to study something "productive" but on another level I know that they were some of the most productive years of my life.
 

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I would have taken my s/o's word that he was the only man for me the first time he told me, instead of waiting nearly seven years. I am always grateful that he still wanted me when I finally came to my senses. He shouldn't have, I had been really stupid, and was really mean to him sometimes. Through it all, during those seven years, he was always my friend, and always there for me, even when I married a guy he really hated because I was mad at him.

Then I wouldn't have to wish I had never married that jerk!


We have just celebrated 20 years of being happily unmarried!
 

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My first thought on reading this post was that I would love to go back to when my Mom was alive, and tell her one more time how much I love her. She died 3 years ago, and I will always miss her.

Diane, it sounds like you did all you knew to do for your friend Christine. I'm sorry some of the adults in her life did not see what was going on at the time. Remember that forgiveness is the way to peace. Maybe you can talk to your dh about that time in your lives, and find a way to forgive yourself for not knowing the unknowable. Purrs, and ((((hugs)))
 

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Although I am as Happy as I can be at this time, not being able to plan what will happen in your life. I would have to say I'd choose to go back to 1995 when I lost the biggest part of my life, my first hubby, we were married for 32 years at that point, I was 15 he was 18 when we married, when I lost him I lost a part of me also, we grew up together had 3 kids together, it was very tuff to wake up at 47 a widow. I can say that yes I am still standing and I got through it, but that's what I would choose... I have a Wonderful Hubby now but it will never be the same.
 

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I would love to met my FiancÃ[emoji]169[/emoji] all over again, I wouldn't change anything. Just to experience it, what a awesome feeling!!
 

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I am not sure I would change anything, but I have so much I would truly want to change, does that make sense? I had a terribly hard and traumatic childhood and what wouldn't I give to have a mom, a real home, lots of friends, lots of joy, parents who loved me, ....a normal life. I'd give anything to go back....but as Chris and Annebelle said, sometimes you dare to change the course of a life already lived and the outcome of where I'm at now --happy and at peace-- becomes mired in jeopardy because, well, I meddled. I've said it before and I will say it here, and that is, that God deals us our cards face down instead of up, because that's where real life comes from, all that living!
 

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Originally Posted by Beckiboo

My first thought on reading this post was that I would love to go back to when my Mom was alive, and tell her one more time how much I love her. She died 3 years ago, and I will always miss her.

Diane, it sounds like you did all you knew to do for your friend Christine. I'm sorry some of the adults in her life did not see what was going on at the time. Remember that forgiveness is the way to peace. Maybe you can talk to your dh about that time in your lives, and find a way to forgive yourself for not knowing the unknowable. Purrs, and ((((hugs)))
I am sorry about your Mom. But I am sure she knew how much you loved her.

And you are right about Christine, and I know it. I have forgiven myself, I had to. If I continued to live in the past, there was definitely no future for me. Understanding was the way to forgiving. And Charlie and I still talk about her. Still wonder why she did it. But we help eachother through it, and charlie is finally getting his life back on track, and has moved on a little himself.
But, I am a better person for it, and I now recognize the signs, and try to help. I guess things happen for a reason, and I heard a song, that kind of puts things in prospective if you think about.... "You cant jump the track, we're like cars on a cable, and life's like an hourglass glued to the table, no one can find the rewind button now..."
 

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Thanks, yes, my Mom was very loving, and knew how much she was loved. But one more moment with her would be very sweet.

That is true, that life only goes forward. And really, if I had known before some of the tough times, I don't think I could have handled it! But I have learned a lot.

Sounds like you have a great perspective on life. Wanna join my field? I'm a psych nurse, and we could always use a few more well grounded people to help out!
 

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October 13, 1986.

A day I can never forgive myself for.


I was emotionally, and every other way incapable of caring for my 5 yr. old son, and 3 &1/2 yr. old daughter and gave custody to their father.
Thought it was the right thing to do.
Looking back, I should've done whatEVER it took to pull myself out of the rubble and take control of things.
I lost 2-3 yrs. of their lives because of bitterness from him and his horrid family.
It was and still is a very painful memory forever burned into my heart.
 
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