If you could chose ONE moment...

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Hi, everyone!

Here is some food for thought..
If time travel were possible, and you were given the choice of ONE moment to return to, something important, or precious, or something pivotal that would change the course of your entire life..
What would it be?
 

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Hmmm... one moment makes it too difficult of a choice. I can't think of anything so monumental that it stands out as a pivotal point. My life changed little bits at a time.
 

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Lol, depending on the day and the hour that I'm in currently, if I could go back to a point in time, I might just not have gotten married!
 

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Again, a serious response, so skip this if you don't want serious...

I would go back to early November 1989, and when my dad sent my brother and I away to stay with my mom. INSTEAD, I would have insisted on staying with him, get him proper treatment and watch him like a hawk, and I know he would still be alive today. In fact, he would only be 53 years old now.
 

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My answer is no fun


I wouldn't go back and change a darn thing because there's too much a chance it would change exactly where I am right now -- and I wouldn't risk giving up one minute of it!
 

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Originally Posted by Amy-DHH

My answer is no fun


I wouldn't go back and change a darn thing because there's too much a chance it would change exactly where I am right now -- and I wouldn't risk giving up one minute of it!
For all that hindsight offers in terms of what I wish had happened differently, that would still be too much of a risk.
 

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easy - it would be the minutes before my wife decided that the marriage was not working, then I would kiss her and hold her so strongly and let he know that I loved her and allow the thought to drift away from her mind. Oh - shes not coming back either and the marriage will be over in a few weeks. WishI had that time again. K
 

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Sorry, but I think it's so cliche when people say they wouldn't want to change a thing... I mean, are people truly THAT happy about every single decision they've made? I highly doubt it.
But it's a completely independent decision to share that here or not.
 

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Thanks for sharing, Kev.
Originally Posted by kev

easy - it would be the minutes before my wife decided that the marriage was not working, then I would kiss her and hold her so strongly and let he know that I loved her and allow the thought to drift away from her mind. Oh - shes not coming back either and the marriage will be over in a few weeks. WishI had that time again. K
 

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There are several decisions and events that I sometimes wish I could go back and redo, things that would likely have changed the course of my life in some manner. It really is a good point, though, if actually given the opportunity, would I? Every experience in my life, both good and bad, has brought me here and shaped me into the person I am today, for better or worse.
 

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Originally Posted by dawnofsierra

There are several decisions and events that I sometimes wish I could go back and redo, things that would likely have changed the course of my life in some manner. It really is a good point, though, if actually given the opportunity, would I? Every experience in my life, both good and bad, has brought me here and shaped me into the person I am today, for better or worse.
Good post - that's how I feel. It's not my decisions that I wish I would change but there have been a couple of decisions that I made that I might handle more sensitively, whilst keeping the decision the same. But then again I was a youngster - I grew from those experiences.
 

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If I knew then what I knew now, I'd go back to the second I slapped eyes on my ex partner. I'd never have given him a second glance, I'd be in uni, I'd have a decent job, I'd not have been put through the mental and physical torture he caused me... but then by the same token, I woudln't have my son and I would never have met my new partner. At least I can thank my ex for my son. I can look back and thank him for leaving when I told him to and I can thank him for the wonderful man I have in my life now. If I'd not had that man in my life, I don't think I'd be as strong as I am now, because I woudln't have had to have put up with so much. So I guess in a way I've leanred a strength, forgiveness, gratefulness..... I've learned so much in so little time and I coudln't have done it without my experiences. But for the sake of contrariness, I'd go back to THAT particular moment and I'd have smacked him in the teeth good and hard!
 

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In May 1969 we moved area and I had to change schools, I was 13, and in my old school we'd done cookery with no choice. On the day I started my new school I was asked if I wanted to do cookery or office practice, I had no time to ponder on it, so chose office practice as it was different to what I'd done before. Although in reality the domestic science route would have suited me better.

Due to that choice then I went on to work in an office, and it was with that group of friends I met my husband, and went on to have 2 children (now all grown up). After 30 yrs of marriage I have no regrets, but often think that that one point in my life was a branch, and in an alternative reality where I would be today.
 

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I do agree with the posts that say that they wouldnt change anything, for those experiences, good and bad, got them where they are now. And I do feel that way. I made lots of mistakes, but I lived through it, and I am happy where I am today.
I think the one thing that I would go back and change was when my brother-in-laws girlfriend committed suicide. (Gosh, this is really hard to write...I have never admitted to anyone the overwhelming sense of guilt I have felt since that day) Her name was Christine, and I had just started dating Jeremy, and Charlie was our good friend, and we hung out with them all of the time. Apparently, christine was on a watch with her high school because she missed so much school having to stay home and watch her younger siblings. I remember the Sunday before she did it, she had called me and said she didnt know what to do, her and charlie were fighting, the kids had eaten all of the food already, and she had no money. I talked to her, and told her it would be okay. It was May 15, 2001, and I think it was a tuesday, jeremy had headed home, and I got online to check my email, and charlie had emailed me and told me that she was gone. I thought she had run away again, so I called him. She had killed herself, by swallowing anti-depressants. Her 8 year old sister found her and then a police officer showed up at the schools request and called the paramedics, but it was too late. Her sister kept telling the police officer that she was cold. I just remember thinking that maybe...just maybe if I had talked to her...had been able to get in touch with her that monday night, that maybe I could have saved her. She was a punk who rarely took any advice, anyways, but maybe I could have warned her mother. Looking back, all the signs were there, I guess I just didnt know how to look for them. I was so angry looking into her casket, that I wanted to shake her and scream at her. It got worse when her 8 year old sister looked up at me and asked me "does she not love us anymore? was she mad at me?" I see that innocent face looking up at me sometimes in my dreams. I told her no, it wasnt her. And then her 3 year old brother wanted to know why christine hadnt woken up yet. It was the hardest thing.
That would be what I would change. Especially after charlie found out she was pregnant, and he knew it was his. We were seniors in high school, and that just shattered the whole experience. She did leave a note for Charlie saying she was sorry and she did love him. He ended up getting his GED because everyone accused him of making christine kill herself. If i had only known that that was such a pivotal moment, if I had known she was reaching out, if her phone hadnt been busy all night, if I had gotten over there. If, if, if, if....all of these if's. But now I know what to look for, and I can see from a mile away. And charlie has moved on, and is with a wonderful woman who makes him happy. Maybe things happen for a reason, I dont know. I just know that that is the one thing I want to go back and do over.
 

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Well I probably wouldn't ever want to change anything because I believe that this is the way things are meant to be.. but the things I was most curious about, like if I had done this or that I wonder what would have happened are many.

When I was applying to colleges I kind of had this freak attack about wanting to stay at home because I had really low self esteem. So I went to this crappy local college and I always wondered what would have happened if I would have went to OSU or Temple or NYU or something..

There was also this guy I sorta talked to in highschool but we never really went out or anything. I had a huge crush on him and he was a friend and we almost got together once.. But I wasn't really pushing it and it kind of fell apart and then a couple months later he started dating someone else. Well she broke up with him and he shot and killed himself. I always wondered what would have happened had we went out. I'm verrrry happy with bf and would NEVER want anyone else, but I always wondered about it.

And there are several other instances I wish I could have seen the outcome of but nothing I would want changed..
 

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I think about this often. There's tons of pivitol moments in my life in the past, big stuff that happened, big choices, big leaps & big changes.

BUT if I were to go back and change things, then it'd be like the butterfly effect... other things would change, and I might not have the things I have today that I just cannot live without. I love my life JUST the way it is and don't want a dang thing changed.

Even tho there were a few bad things that happened (my choices), those bad things made me learn A LOT and I'd not give up that knowledge or experience or lessons which made me who I am today. And, if I changed the bad things, I'd not have the good things: my daughter, my 6 cats (first cat led to 2nd cat, 3rd cat led to 4th, and so on), the house I'm so attached to, and even my car.

I am a happy gal and I love my life the day it is.
 

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Originally Posted by vespacat

Again, a serious response, so skip this if you don't want serious...
I would go back to early November 1989, and when my dad sent my brother and I away to stay with my mom. INSTEAD, I would have insisted on staying with him, get him proper treatment and watch him like a hawk, and I know he would still be alive today. In fact, he would only be 53 years old now.



For me, it'd be the day I met Bradley. I know in an instant that he was the one I was meant to spend my life with and the feeling I had at that moment was second to none
 

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I can think of something. But like many of the rest, it probably would have sent me down a whole different path in life. Good? Bad? I will never know. I do know that since I can't change the past, my life as it is now is the way it was meant to be.
 
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