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post #1 of 25
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Last week, those of us that work in the Family Advocacy Program here on post stood at the front gates to hand out blue ribbons. The purpose was to raise awareness of the fact that April is Child Abuse Prevention Month.
Well, not one but 2 people told me that they fully support child abuse. Another person said (and I quote), "I don't have any children, but if you gave me some I'd abuse them." These were all uniformed soldiers, people that I try my darndest to respect. But how on EARTH can you respect someone that would say such things????
post #2 of 25
Respect them, hell no I couldn't! I don't, and can't, have children, but there is no way that I'd abuse them, or let anyone else, for that matter!
post #3 of 25
I can't understand why they would say that - perhaps they were looking for a reaction.
post #4 of 25
you can respect people in uniform, but I'm with you, it's hard when someone says that. My fiance was sexually abused once when he was a child...If I would've been there, I'd gave those guys a tounge lashing or worse...that's just wrong. Lets hope that they NEVER have children...
post #5 of 25
Some people just cannot resist the urge to be a smart *ss, and are just trying to get a rise out of you. These are the same people that think sick jokes and bullying are fun. Please don't let a few mean people take away from the good work you are doing.
post #6 of 25
I agree with krazy kat, keep up the good work!
post #7 of 25
idiots with nothing better to say. report them to their superiors to teach them a lesson
post #8 of 25
^she's got a point
post #9 of 25
Thread Starter 
Thanks y'all
Believe me, it was REAL hard to keep my cool. I was so tempted to flick off or tell of each guy that made a remark like that....but they knew from my name tag where I worked, so I figured discretion was the better part of valor.
It wasn't just me that experienced this either- we had folks at all 3 gates and everyone had similar stories to tell.
And Cindy, you're right. Yes, these guys are soldiers, but these particular individuals have lost all of my respect!
post #10 of 25
people who act like that deserve no respect.
post #11 of 25
The fact that someone wears a uniform and can handle a firearm does not make them automatically worthy of respect.

For all of our "support the troops" ideology, the fact is a huge percentage of the people who join the armed forces do so because they are otherwise unemployable, and often poorly educated. Add to that the machismo attitude that invariably comes up when large groups of men live together for long periods of time, and you aren't going to get much sensitivity...
post #12 of 25
They were trying to get a rise out of you. And just because they're wearing a uniform doesn't mean diddly. They can be the most upstanding soldier on earth and still come home and beat the crud out of their kid every night (or, their wife, cat, dog, etc.). Poo on people like that.
post #13 of 25
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Originally Posted by darkeyedgirl
They were trying to get a rise out of you. And just because they're wearing a uniform doesn't mean diddly. They can be the most upstanding soldier on earth and still come home and beat the crud out of their kid every night (or, their wife, cat, dog, etc.). Poo on people like that.
That's the truth. In fact, people that seek jobs where they are in a position of authority or power, such as military or police, have higher rates of being abusive to children and/or spouses/partners....I know, I work with their victims!!!
post #14 of 25
I start off giving people the same amt of respect (or I try to) and their words/actions cause me to increase or decrease that level accordingly. I wouldn't respect someone more or less just because they are a soldier...
post #15 of 25
Thread Starter 
Thanks everyone for backing me up on this
post #16 of 25
Soldiers dont have my respect unless they were forced to go there.
In my opinion why respect someone who goes out there to kill others?

Anyway i love kids and i cant wait to have my own!
post #17 of 25
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Originally Posted by fwan
Soldiers dont have my respect unless they were forced to go there.
In my opinion why respect someone who goes out there to kill others?

Anyway i love kids and i cant wait to have my own!
I wish you had been here to take one of my blue ribbons Fran!!
post #18 of 25
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Originally Posted by ugaimes
Last week, those of us that work in the Family Advocacy Program here on post stood at the front gates to hand out blue ribbons. The purpose was to raise awareness of the fact that April is Child Abuse Prevention Month.
Well, not one but 2 people told me that they fully support child abuse. Another person said (and I quote), "I don't have any children, but if you gave me some I'd abuse them." These were all uniformed soldiers, people that I try my darndest to respect. But how on EARTH can you respect someone that would say such things????
That is wrong. It sounds to me like maybe there was some showing off going on. My dad used to joke with me and my sister and say "well, remind me to slap you when you get home" or "do you need abuse?" But it wasnt serious, and the man never laid a hand on us, sure we got a spanking every now and then when kids, but never actually beat. And what he said (and still says) are just a sign of affection. And usually we come back with "no, but I can slap you if you want!" or "no, but you need abuse!" And so forth. I have never taken him seriously. But hes my dad!
For someone to just say...gimme a kid, and I'll abuse it, is not only distasteful, but it shows shallow and coldness towards the children in this world that do get abused. Not everyone is as fortunate as I was to have a father that cared. And you are out there pounding pavement to make others aware that there are children out there who dont have parents that care. And shame on those uniformed shoulders! I am disappointed that they get to represent our country, and I cant even respect them either. I am sure that those two are in a class by themselves, but its those two soldiers who would get the attention because they are bad apples.
Dont let it get to you too much, because you are doing a good job, and they are just a waste of your time.
I am proud to know that someone like you is speaking up for children who cant do it themselves!
post #19 of 25
Quote:
Originally Posted by ugaimes
I wish you had been here to take one of my blue ribbons Fran!!
I would have taken all of them and stuck them up on my wall
post #20 of 25
Oh my Ga , I'm not sure I would have been able to keep my temper in check. But I guess it just goes to show that there are trashy people in every walk of life.
post #21 of 25
I will always respect the uniform and the job that they volunteer to do, that of defending our country. But there are certainly those individuals who wear those uniforms who do not deserve any respect or even tact. Those idiots, joking or not, certainly do not deserve respect whether they are soldiers or elephant poop collectors!
post #22 of 25
Those soldiers sound like they were privates or low ranked enlisted showing off for their buddies. My husband has the unfortunate duty of counceling the scum from time to time. He's told me some doosies of stories about some soldiers. Try not to let those twerps get on your nerves because it sounds like that is exactly what they want to do. Send me a blue ribbon and I'll proudly wear in here on post. I haven't seen anyone handing out ribbons here... there are just signs all over the post saying "have you hugged your child today" and other things about how abuse is wrong.
post #23 of 25
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Originally Posted by valanhb
I will always respect the uniform and the job that they volunteer to do, that of defending our country. But there are certainly those individuals who wear those uniforms who do not deserve any respect or even tact. Those idiots, joking or not, certainly do not deserve respect whether they are soldiers or elephant poop collectors!

Big ol' hugs to you right now!!! You make SUCH a good point about being a soldier or an elephant poop collector. Sadly it just looks worse for a soldier to say something like that. They are supposed to reresent our country and then they comment about beating a child. It just makes the united states look bad. Some soldiers don't understand that when in uniform they each represent the united states of america. When a soldier does something bad many many people hear about it and thus, refelct poorly on the usofa.
post #24 of 25
There are good and bad in every area of life. The police are another example - some guys join because they truly want to make a difference and others do it for the power it gives them. It's hard to always weed out the bad ones so the best we can do is support the good ones.

I recently attended a seminar and it really brought home to me how we alone are responsible for how we feel. That nobody MAKES us mad - we CHOOSE to react that way.
post #25 of 25
Good on you for giving those ribbons out and I am sorry to hear you got some nasty comments like that. They are arseholes....I can never trust any bloke, whether they are from the army, police etc just because of there Job. A lot opf abusers hide behind that and whether someone is in uniform or not does not change who they are.

I was abused a lot of my lfe and I know from experiance not to trust anyone. Keep giving out those ribboons and ignore those arseholes who comment badly on it. I just wish them saying that was enough to do something.

Take care Eva x
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