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sammywonder

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Im in a bit of bother theres this girl i really really like and shes going out with a boy 1 yearyounger than her. but she ses she wants to be with me but wont dump her boyfriend what should i do
 

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Hi! Welcome to TCS!


Do you want to be with this girl? What does she say about her current situation, why won't she leave the guy if she want to be with you? Do you 'see' eachother even though she has a boyfriend?

From the outlook, I would say that unless you truly and honestly like her, then I would leave it as just friends. If she is seeing you behind this guy's back then she could do just the same to you.

Sorry I can't be of more help!
 

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Hey sweetie and welcome to TCS!
I'm sorry to hear you're feeling like this, but what this girl is doing to BOTH of you, really is not fair. She's keeping you strung along, AND dating a boy she really doesn't want to be with. Being the character that I am, I'd be sorely tempted to offer her an ultimatum... it's you, or him. She can't have both. Like they say, you can't have your cake AND eat it beb. Perhaps she has issues about being alone, being scared that things won't work with you and so she'd want to run back to the ex... it's a pattern I've seen so often with people around me and I really fear that things might not go the way you'd like them to either. Such is the way of life, I'm afraid. All you can do is give it your very best shot and hope that she can see the error of her ways. One thing is for certain and that is that she's being incredibly cruel - if not knowingly so - to both you guys. If she carries on like this, she's in severe danger of losing both of you. But chin up, fingers crossed and keep smiling - and hopefully things go your way
 
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Thanks all she has now ... dumped the other one BUT whenever i ask her out she says... DUNNO no thats even more frustratin anyone got any tips on how to make my move :p
 

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This is good advice! I am sorry this is hurting you. You cound like a sweet guy!

Originally Posted by Sar

Hi! Welcome to TCS!


Do you want to be with this girl? What does she say about her current situation, why won't she leave the guy if she want to be with you? Do you 'see' eachother even though she has a boyfriend?

From the outlook, I would say that unless you truly and honestly like her, then I would leave it as just friends. If she is seeing you behind this guy's back then she could do just the same to you.

Sorry I can't be of more help!
 
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