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Hope,

I'm glad you found her. I'm sure she will do just fine. If you need to feel some reassurance, just look at the Pengy thread and see what wonderful progress Noni has made with Pengy. It's taken time, but Pengy is loved and is feeling the love and security now, too. Evie will come around a lot sooner than Pengy because she has been around people all her life and other cats. Hang in there!
 

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I am glad you found where she is at...sensible little girl, she found a place that feels safe but is also a bit more out there than the cupboard.

I hope you know that I don't (and I doubt anyone else), feel you need to apologize one bit...of all places, this is a safe one to share how you feel, what your worries are, all the ups and downs of living with cats. I just wanted you to not be so hard on yourself
 

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Hope, I'm going to send some calming vibes your way. This is good news that Evie has found a nice place to relax in! She will be fine.
 

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Thank goodness you've found her!


Now!, start to relax because you were stressing on the other page and i was stressing because i was imagining poor Evie stressing because of it


See she's not going to die, she just needs time thats all, and in months to come when she's all loving you'll wonder why wou stressed yourself so much
 

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Yay! I'm so glad that you found her, and it's a great place for her to be, probably feels comfortable.
I guess it would be traumatic for her if you were to take pictures, huh? I'm curious to see what she looks like!
What kind of a cat is she? You said she came from a breeder, so I'm assuming she is purebred?
 

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Hi Hope, sometimes i find it helpful to give a little rescue remedy (they sell it for both pets and humans, the anxiety homeopathy--a couple of drops) and i take some myself too. The most important thing is if you take good care of yourself right now--sleep enuf, eat right, take your vitamins, whatever you need to be physically healthy--even though it can be hard to do--it will help you to feel so much better and help you help her too. i am sending good thoughts to you down there, i KNOW it will work out just fine.
 

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Yay I'm glad you've found her! Fabulous! And what a good hiding place... makes her feel safe but it isn't unsafe for her, you konw?

By the way, I give my cats Rescue Remedy also, if you're interested. I put 4 drops in each bowl of water every time I refill their bowls. I also have Feliway. Whether they help, I think so but ya never know.

Good luck with what comes next... I hope she keeps making steps forward!
 

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You mean she didn't turn feral???


I knew that she was going to be okay. Just don't push her Hope, let her find you and she will in time. Keep her on a feeding schedule, always feed her the same place, in the same bowls and don't deviate. Once she knows she can count on you, she will relax and come out and be mobbed by your crew!
 

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I'm glad you found her - Evie sounds like a very sensible little girl, picking a carrier to hide in.
It's extremely rare for a cat to be too scared to eat. We occasionally have used our spare bedroom as a "quarantine room" when the shelter has been too full. About three years ago we had one cat in there who "disappeared", but her food and water bowls were being used, as was the litter box. We finally figured out that she was on top of a seven-foot wardrobe in the room. I would go in there and sit on the bed and talk to her softly or read aloud, and my husband would go in and play piano. The third week she was in there, she jumped down and went over and sat beside him on the piano bench. He just about fell over in shock. When she found a "forever home", she repeated the process - hid out for a few weeks, ate when nobody was looking, and picked her own point to emerge from seclusion.
I think Evie will be fine.
 
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Friday update:

Well today Evie is doing much much better than I thought she'd be doing. I had to pack up all of my cats and remove them from my apartment for 4 hours, because it was Pest Control. I thought for sure it was going to re-traumatize her, but to my surprise she took it like a trouper. When I got the cats back into the apartment she was meowing in that cute little unique meow she has, and letting me know that she wanted out of that carrier. She wasn't shying away or cowering from me at all. I am beginning to think this is going to work out, but I know it's going to take some time. I think once she gets more comfortable here, I'm going to rename her, Sun-Lee because the name sounds Asian, and to me she looks like a delicate little Asian flower.
 

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She's a smart little flower, and I predict she'll be running the house and wrapping your other two cats around her delicate paws faster than you think
 

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Aw she sounds sweet and that name sounds perfect. I can't wait til you're telling us more stories about how well she's settling and then she can join Shane and Simba on your signature.
 

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YOu know I was thinking about it, this just means she isn't a ****. Ok, weird choice of words, but you know what I mean...it means she isn't easy! She needs to develop trust and bond with you in her own way. She needs to develop a real relationship first.

I know it's going to go great, she is getting to know you and knows you are someone she can trust.
 
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Saturday update.

My lovely little girl has been here one week. I now have her isolated in her own room. Tonight I spent some time with her and we really got close. She was walking all over me, and really enjoying getting lots of lovings. She ate and drank in front of me. One thing I see is that she is a picky eater. However, she was eating dry Iams while I petted her. I am SO relieved. She crawled on me and was laying down on my chest, then she was laying on my legs, then she was licking me, and was just a total love. The entire time, Simba and Shane were on the other side of the door, crying and trying to break in. SunLee (her new name), went to the door and sniffed them through the door and didn't seem frightened or scared, but actually interested. I don't think she's quite ready to come out because she still likes to find her little hiding area's, but I do think things are going to work out.

She still seems a bit nervous about the noise of people going in and out in the apartment building. I'm pretty sure she lived in a quiet suburban home before. So, there is a lot more noise going on in the apartment complex. She'll get used to it. She is such a lovely girl, and really she is so affectionate.
 
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