Daren & I are over.

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If he did that to me I'd have siad sure hand her the phone and then made up some crazy lie like he's fresh out of jail for rape and she needs to get away as fast as she can from him and then calmly hang up the phone. Then I'd like to be a fly on the wall after that happens!!!!
Some men are such pigs! everyone here is right, get a fresh start, dump the jerk and move on, you're to good for him and he knows that. He's just doing that crap to see how far you'll let him use you and that's horrible. Don't take it, tell him to shove off and find a guy worth your time and patience. You deserve it!
 
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He WAS drunk when he called me. The thing about that is.. he's drunk every weekend. Thank god I dont live with him to see that crap. And even better.. my son doesnt see it either.

And the girl... He'd just met her about an hour earlier. Can you believe that crap?? He's a TOTAL chick magnet because he is fine, friendly and very charming. He seems very attentive. Girls fall for that stuff.

I tell you what though..it's alot easier to deal with being that he lives in Las Vegas, and I live in Oregon. It's easier to cut things off.

I've seen the red flags for a while now, and I chose to ignore them just because I love him... I guess it just took something to shake me to my senses.

I could never trust him, and I never will be able to trust him. He isnt done growing up yet. He still feels the need to party, and he's almost 32 years old. He doesnt know what it takes to be a full-time parent (because he never has been), a good partner (he's cheated in all of his relationships, and admits it with no qualms whatsoever), or what it's like to put anyone else in front of him.

My god! Why on earth did I even love this man????


Ah well.... here is to meeting someone someday that will cherish & adore me the way I deserve.


OH!! BTW... I havent shed a single tear! (which is not normal for me.) it must mean that I'm ready to move on.
 

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I just wanted to check in on you today and I'm so glad you're moving forward. I can feel it. It must be so very hard. We can't always pick the ones we fall in love with. That was dealt to your heart 10 years ago and now it's like the alarm just rang, right? and people come into our lives for very good reasons.....you are wiser, older, thinking clearer - reward yourself with a man who cherishes you and I KNOW you must be worth it from all your posts. Just know it!!!
 
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Originally Posted by sashacat421

I just wanted to check in on you today and I'm so glad you're moving forward. I can feel it. It must be so very hard. We can't always pick the ones we fall in love with. That was dealt to your heart 10 years ago and now it's like the alarm just rang, right? and people come into our lives for very good reasons.....you are wiser, older, thinking clearer - reward yourself with a man who cherishes you and I KNOW you must be worth it from all your posts. Just know it!!!
I just want to thank you for your kind words. Everyone's words & thoughts have meant a great deal to me, and have helped me get through this. I am very suprised at how easy this has been for me to let go. I always thought that I would be a complete mess if our relationship went wrong. Maybe it's because I have a life of my own.. a new and exiting life all my own.

I'll meet someone someday that is worthy of this diva!
 

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On the bright side, at least you figured it out before you moved out there and settled down....
What a jerk. You deserve better than to be treated like that.
 

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What a shame!Honey,sometimes all the love in the world can't change a person,as much as we would hope that it would.It's tragic when you
love someone dearly and you're treated poorly.You can't rationalize love,you'll still love him,but follow your gut instinct which knows the truth;That you'll be better off without him.It will take time and patience.Take one day at a time,one minute at a time if that's what's needed.

You're not alone and have new friends here who care.Hang in there and be
strong.
 

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Originally Posted by Arielrain

...Honey,sometimes all the love in the world can't change a person,as much as we would hope that it would.It's tragic when you
love someone dearly and you're treated poorly.You can't rationalize love,you'll still love him,but follow your gut instinct which knows the truth;That you'll be better off without him.It will take time and patience.Take one day at a time,one minute at a time if that's what's needed.
 

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I can only say that if "my guy" called me from Vegas and had another girl (whom he thinks is cute and funny!) talking to me on the phone, when he arrived back any of his belongings in my possession would be on the front lawn or given to charity.

IMO he has shown a total, TOTAL lack of respect for you and if he has no respect for you now, it doesn't improve over time.

Get rid of him and get on with your life and one day you will meet a man who loves and respects you.
 
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