Daren & I are over.

As alot of you know, Daren is the love of my life, and the father of my oldest boy. We'd been talking about being together and me moving to Vegas to be with him in the near future..... well.. after at least a year.. I just got a great job. But he's been pretty down in the dumps about finances, and had been a real peach, to say the least.. he started ignoring my calls, not answering the phone, and stuff like that... I figured I would just ride it out and see....

Last night, I was sleeping (had to be up at 5 for work), when I get a phone call at 3 am... it was him.. partying in vegas. Normally, that would have been fine, except for the fact that he had this girl he had just met get on the phone. I mean.. :censor::censor::censor:????? SHe gets on the phone & proceeds to tell me that he is the biggest flirt she has ever met... SO... I ask her to put him on the phone, and when he gets back on.. he tells me how sweet she is and cute she is.. and how I need to talk her into comming back to Oregon with him. I was FUMMING!!!! I couldnt get back to sleep to save my life... SO.. all day I was a total zombie at work.

I realized that we arent right for each other. I cant trust him, he has major money issues, and is irresponsible. SO.. I sent him an email, telling him what I thought of things between us and that It was done.

I'm sad about this, because I love him very much, and I was really hoping that after 10 years, we'd figure it out and be together finally. I really wanted this to work.

I am so very sorry... .it must be pretty numbing what just happened. But I think after ten years it might be time to move on, and feel very good about yourself that you see him as objectively as you do, that's a great skill to have. I feel very strongly that if you should work on anything, it should be putting in place those things that will keep you strong and safe and happy for yourself.

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry! It sounds just awful what he's doing. I don't know you very well, and I don't know your story, but it really sounds like you are better off without him!

It's definately time to move on, and it sounds as though you've made a wise decision. Sending you positive vibes...

I am so sorry to hear this. My prayers are with you. When I left my first fiance even though it was for all the right reasons it was still hard. Do something good for you. I have been there and it does get better.

I'm sorry things had to end on such a note, but at least you can have a bit of closure, I hope. I'm sending lots of good vibes your way...

It sounds like he totally takes you for granted, not as a lover and potential partner but as someone who he can use in whatever way he likes. It is sad when we see people suddenly in a new light, but I htink you are doing hte right thing, though it will be hard at first. Think positively - you now have a clear path in front of you.

What a horrible way for him to treat you!! His actions took incredible gall. It sounds like the new girl has him figured out, too. Do you think he might have Narcissistic Personality Disorder? I found some great info. on a Yahoo!Search on that subject. As for you, BRAVO for having the confidence & courage to "86" him. I am glad that you have a new job but am sorry that you have to being going through this emotional thing at the same time. But, since you're a cat-person, you'll land on your feet and we at TCS are rooting for you!!!! Please keep us updated on how you're doing. Lots of hugs of encouragement from CA, Susan

What!!!!. Pffftttt listen chick, that to me is what i call degrading!, and your worth a lot more than that i'm sure of it!.

He may have money problems etc...but if he can still manage to find the funds to party?!. He's a grown man and like you say he's irresponsible, so i would certainly think about this because like Elizabeth said, maybe it is time to move on after 10 years because do you want to waste another 10?!.

Let him get on with it because this sort of thing can lower your self esteem, and honestly no one is worth that!!.

I spent 10 years with a loser like that. Thank dog I didn't have any kids with him. Move on girl, you don't need that.

I agree with Elizabeth.
You deserve the best, and this guy sounds immature. I think you know in your heart this is not right for you. I am praying for you, girl!

It looks to me you're too good for him. You deserve better. I think you made a wise decision.

I am so sorry, i know it must be hard because I don't doubt that you love/ed him but you really are better of without him. He sounds like a complete jerk and was taking you for granted. As hard as it was to dumb him I think it was for the best because you need to look after yourself.

I am here if you ever need to talk, i would say sorry but I know that might be the last thing you wanna hear and I often find it doesn't make anything better.

Thinking of you and hope you feel better soon

Eva

I don't know all of the details with you and him, but that was just mean and disrespectful. Heck with anyone that would treat you like that.
I know you are probably feeling bad right now, but he is the one that has lost out. Let him have his little bimbo, it's more of what someone like that deserves. Now you can get on with your life.
Down to more practical matters, now you need a good child support lawyer.
Good luck, sweetie, I hope you feel better.

This must have been just be so painful for you. I feel you have made exactly the right decision, and am so proud of you for being so strong! You deserve so much better than the way he is treating you. One day you will find the special someone who will treat you wonderfully, and until then, you shouldn't settle for less!

I'm sorry. I know you really wanted this to work. He's got some problems. What type of person would do that? That is just not right. You need to move on to find someone who is going to treat you with the respect you deserve.

I am so sorry for what he has done and what you must be going through right now. You are the mother of his child, the woman he has spent 10 years with... you deserve so much better than the cards he dealt you. You will move on... in time. Take this time to grieve, cry , eat lots of ice cream , scream , enjoy your new job , and do things that make YOU happy . We're here for you if you need someone to "talk" to.
Best, Amy

Oh my god, i'm so sorry hang in there. I know it's tough letting go, but i think in this case you have to, this guy sounds like a total jerk

Was this loser drunk or what???

How horribly disrespectful!!! I can't believe someone would do that. Sounds like he still wants to just party and be a kid. I'm so sorry that Daren did this to you.