A friendship question....

This is about my 2 closest friends who were obviously invited to my daughters wedding 2 weeks ago.
The one lives 25-30 miles away, and doesn't really come to my town very often. I almost didn't expect her to show up, but she did.
The other friend lives in a little town right outside the city limit.
She took off from work, way in advance.
She even came over two nights before the wedding to bring me a coupon to a shoppe to get my hair done. I didn't go there, I found another place.
That was never a big deal.
So the wedding starts, no sign of her.
Reception, still nothing.
No phone call, or anything.
Then she calls me at 11:30pm the day after the wedding.
I let the answering machine get it, I was and still am upset with her.
She left a message saying she was sorry, but half-laughing in her tone.
She offered no reason on the message.
I still haven't called her back and I don't know when or if I will.
I went with her to the hospital for the birth of her last 2 children.
One is 2 & 1/2, and the other was born in November '04.
I thought we were really good friends, and I cannot believe she did not show up after acting as if she would from the beginning.

Am I being childish? Or am I rightfully upset?

I'd be upset! That was just disrespectful of your feelings and thats unacceptable. She should have at least called or given a reason. I could see if something bad had happened and she couldn't, but to just half laugh on a machine is rude.

Laughter is often the sign of embarassment. It could be that something happened with your friend that may not be a big thing but she realizes that it will be a big thing with you that she missed the wedding.

Friendship is often a good excuse to give some one the benefit of the doubt. I would definitely allow her the opportunity to explain why she didn't make it. It may be that she doesn't have a viable excuse - although I suspect if she took the time and effort to be there prior to the wedding, that she probably does.

I know how important this was to you and how hurt you are feeling. I suspect she knows this as well. This is a stressful time as well as a happy time, and I hope that you will find it in your heart to forgive her even if she doesn't have a valid excuse. I am sure the last thing you want is to have your memories of this wonderful occasion coloured by hurt and anger, even if it is deserved.

Good luck
Kathryn

It sounds like she was too ashamed to tell her reason for being absent.
I understand you being upset but try to think about your friendship. It's too valuable to lose it.