Sorry, but I really need to vent!

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I've been trying to hold back on my rant but I feel if I don't write it out I'll explode!

OK, some of you may remember the situation I wrote about in December concerning my niece and nephew and their (can't use the word I want to here) father. Here is that thread, if you want to check it out that way I can keep this post as short as possible.


My niece has finally had enough of her father trying to control her and she's afraid he won't let her come home again because he was telling her he wanted to take her to W. Virginia to look at houses this weekend. She told him on the phone last week in no uncertain terms that she did not want to see him anymore and that she would not willingly go with him this weekend.

So what does he do instead of respecting her wishes or try to be understanding and let her have a cool down period...he calls the police on her...a 14 year old girl...last night they show up and after some discussion still say she has to go with him even though he basically kidnapped them both before.
She didn't put up a fuss with the police or anything but they still had 4 big policemen surround this skinny five foot three girl and take her out to his car
All the while she was crying



Well she's not going through this quietly, because about an hour after they left her father calls my sister (not the mom, but she lives here as well and will be getting temp. custody if all goes well) where my niece got such a foul mouth...my niece never uses foul language but once she got shoved into the car with him she started freaking and screaming and cussing him out....she called later on when they got to his house and said she could't help herself and she barely remembers what she said, but she felt better for having said it


Now my worry is how he's treating her and if he will actually bring her home tomorrow...and what negative effects this will have on my niece because since she's been living here for the past almost 2 months she's finally getting back to her old self and she said it seems like she's just waking up from a bad dream she's been going through for the past few years.



If you made it this far, thanks for listening!
 

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Aww Diane - I'm so sorry. I hope that you niece gets through this weekend without too much upset and comes home right on time tomorrow.

She must have been so intimidated when the police turned up.
 
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Thanks Beth

I don't think she was intimadated as much as she was disappointed.
 

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I'm really sorry to hear that Diane. I just read the old thread and it sounds like you have a real controlling jerk stuck in the family. Is he a liar or a diagnosed sociopath? They often act like hypochondriacs to get attention and manipulate people. I feel sorry for you and your neice.
It would drive me crazy too.
 

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What a crappy situation! I hope the weekend plays out well for your niece, and her father brings her home without any more shenanigans.
to you and her.
 
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Thanks Ryan and Fran

I don't know about him being a sociopath (but I wouldn't doubt it) but he is a great liar and since I've know him he's *had* brain tumors, severe HBP, twisted intestines, very bad back, knees...and the list goes on.. all of which he claimed at one point he needed surgeries for that never happened. Now his latest thing since my one sister is going for custody is he has a terminal lung disease
If his lungs were that bad (and he supposedly was in the hospital for it a few times) I don't think he'd be getting around as good as he is and driving for a staight 6 hours in one day (from here to where he lives is a 3 hour drive each way).
 

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Originally Posted by stormy

Thanks Ryan and Fran

I don't know about him being a sociopath (but I wouldn't doubt it) but he is a great liar and since I've know him he's *had* brain tumors, severe HBP, twisted intestines, very bad back, knees...and the list goes on.. all of which he claimed at one point he needed surgeries for that never happened. Now his latest thing since my one sister is going for custody is he has a terminal lung disease
If his lungs were that bad (and he supposedly was in the hospital for it a few times) I don't think he'd be getting around as good as he is and driving for a staight 6 hours in one day (from here to where he lives is a 3 hour drive each way).
I knew someone like that in my life once. How old does your neice have to be before she can legally avoid him for good if she chooses?
 
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Originally Posted by Hydroaxe

I knew someone like that in my life once. How old does your neice have to be before she can legally avoid him for good if she chooses?
Well, she's 14 and I've always heard it was 14 in NJ so I'm not sure. But we are in the process of getting a lawyer to check into things and my niece wants to legally seperate all ties to her father to where he has no legal rights as a father. Hopefully we'll be able to do that for her.
 

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Poor dear, I had a Father like that. It is so hard when you have to deal with a situation like that when you are so young. My prayers are with you all. Tell her to be strong, don't back down and be intiminated. That's what men like that do. I wish you all well and big hugs and know that the lord is behind you all for strength.
 

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being young my self i can undestand the pressure.
I'm still not fully back to my old self but im sure she will soon
 

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Originally Posted by stormy

Well, she's 14 and I've always heard it was 14 in NJ so I'm not sure. But we are in the process of getting a lawyer to check into things and my niece wants to legally seperate all ties to her father to where he has no legal rights as a father. Hopefully we'll be able to do that for her.
He must be some piece of work to hurt so many people you know that you all want nothing to do with him. Good luck with that then.
 
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Thanks for the good thoughts everyone
My niece is home and very happy to be here
 

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I'm so glad she came home
She must have been terrified. I really hope that you can all work something out to allow her to be somewhere she wants to be, instead of with a man who seems to be a bit of a psycho. Sorry, it had to be said and I couldn't find any nice words for him. Give her big hugs from me
 
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