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Man vs. Kitten?
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Puppy is quite young and she needs to be with her humans if she so desires to be. Perhaps he could try allergy medicine. It may even be that he isn't allergic to her at all, but to something else.
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I though of that! Perhaps he is allergic to all the attention I give Puppy!
Also, I don't think he will give in ... so confused and frustrated!
Tara,
Your situation brings to mind the early years of my own marriage ... my husband didn't like it that I wanted my cat to sleep with me. She always had before I met him and I saw no reason to change what had made both my cat and myself happy before so I refused. He tossed, he turned, he fake-coughed and carried on for all of about 2 weeks before it all just suddenly stopped. *grin*
Roughly 18 years later, when he learned upon coming home from work that this cat had died earlier that day while he was gone, he sobbed like a baby at her loss.
Hope this helps,
~gf~
Your situation brings to mind the early years of my own marriage ... my husband didn't like it that I wanted my cat to sleep with me. She always had before I met him and I saw no reason to change what had made both my cat and myself happy before so I refused. He tossed, he turned, he fake-coughed and carried on for all of about 2 weeks before it all just suddenly stopped. *grin*
Roughly 18 years later, when he learned upon coming home from work that this cat had died earlier that day while he was gone, he sobbed like a baby at her loss.
Hope this helps,
~gf~
Well if he has allergies take him to an Ear, Throat, and Nose Doctor.. either ask for allergy meds or get him tested and on a shot treatment which will increase his immunity to anything he is allergic to.
His allergies might be what causes his trouble sleeping
Teach the kitties to sleep on the bottom of the bed or away from the face area and pillows, our cats follow that rule unless they are wanting attention then they come up meowing and purring. Also washing the bed linens often and vaccuming the bedroom and the rest of the house often also helps with allergies. I am allergic to House Dust, Cat hair, Cat Saliva, and Dog hair ...would i give up my babies ... OVER MY DEAD BODY !! ( i also will not give up my baby shadow kitties kisses either .. she loves giving kisses on my nose *G* )
His allergies might be what causes his trouble sleeping
Teach the kitties to sleep on the bottom of the bed or away from the face area and pillows, our cats follow that rule unless they are wanting attention then they come up meowing and purring. Also washing the bed linens often and vaccuming the bedroom and the rest of the house often also helps with allergies. I am allergic to House Dust, Cat hair, Cat Saliva, and Dog hair ...would i give up my babies ... OVER MY DEAD BODY !! ( i also will not give up my baby shadow kitties kisses either .. she loves giving kisses on my nose *G* )
I am in sort of the same predicament as you, Tara.
My BF doesn't understand the cat-toy buying, attention giving, kissing-cat behaviour I have gotten into either.
He does feel affection for Lovey but "attempts" to put his foot down in every way that I may give in to the cat other than him.
Ie, moving him over on the couch so that Lovey can sit with me...
However, I did recognize that BF would get more irritated and sulky if I paid excessive attention to Lovey rather than him..This would in turn allow me to catch him looking resentfully at our said cat and getting angrier with him than necessary
Ie, yelling at him to jump off a counter for no apparent reason.
I decided (after telling him that he wasn't to yell at him) that I have to divide my attentions to make sure my cat was not going to be the bane of our relationship existence or that Lovey would become the object of unnecessary irritable outbursts.
BF does love the cat and I can often find him now playing with him or cuddling with him when I get home so I know that it was really just jealousy~!! ha..towards a kitty!
If he really does have allergies as well, I would look into the medication angle..I also know that there is something you can put on cat fur so that the dander isn't so allergy causing (though I don't know anything about the product so research it first).
Good LUck! and remember to pay extra attention to David for awhile
My BF doesn't understand the cat-toy buying, attention giving, kissing-cat behaviour I have gotten into either.
He does feel affection for Lovey but "attempts" to put his foot down in every way that I may give in to the cat other than him.
Ie, moving him over on the couch so that Lovey can sit with me...
However, I did recognize that BF would get more irritated and sulky if I paid excessive attention to Lovey rather than him..This would in turn allow me to catch him looking resentfully at our said cat and getting angrier with him than necessary
Ie, yelling at him to jump off a counter for no apparent reason.
I decided (after telling him that he wasn't to yell at him) that I have to divide my attentions to make sure my cat was not going to be the bane of our relationship existence or that Lovey would become the object of unnecessary irritable outbursts.
BF does love the cat and I can often find him now playing with him or cuddling with him when I get home so I know that it was really just jealousy~!! ha..towards a kitty!
If he really does have allergies as well, I would look into the medication angle..I also know that there is something you can put on cat fur so that the dander isn't so allergy causing (though I don't know anything about the product so research it first).
Good LUck! and remember to pay extra attention to David for awhile
Poor Puppy, she wants her humans. She will continue to be shy and sulky if she is not allowed to interact freely.
It is just the opposite in my house. If kitties get too annoying at night, my sweetie will gather them up and cuddle them rather than put any of them out of the bed.
It is just the opposite in my house. If kitties get too annoying at night, my sweetie will gather them up and cuddle them rather than put any of them out of the bed.
I'm thinking that what you said is the most likely scenerio!Originally Posted by luckyIrish
I though of that! Perhaps he is allergic to all the attention I give Puppy!
Also, I don't think he will give in ... so confused and frustrated!
This sounds like my situation and it's nice to know there are others out there having this problem with their significant other. I thought I was just morphing into a crazy cat lady.
I have pretty bad allergies and asthma as well and I still let my kitties sleep on me at night. I just use an air purifier (ionic breeze), allergy medicine, brush the cats a lot and sometimes give them baths, change my sheets a lot, etc.
Well I morphed into a crazy cat lady last October when I took in 2 more unwanted cats. And I can say, no man will ever come before my cats. But I'm single/unmarried and can say that & mean it.
I couldn't imagine my bed without my cats! Whoa! I'd not get any sleep at all without my babies snoring on me!
Poor Puppy. I say show your hubs the sofa so Puppy can come in and snuggle with you.
I couldn't imagine my bed without my cats! Whoa! I'd not get any sleep at all without my babies snoring on me!
Poor Puppy. I say show your hubs the sofa so Puppy can come in and snuggle with you.
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Thanks for all the support and good advice! I have spoken to David and we will be leaving the door open for a "trial run" at night beginning Friday (no work for David on the next morning in case of lost sleep).
I know it will work out. I didn't even have to break out the crocodile tears!
I know it will work out. I didn't even have to break out the crocodile tears!
Way to go, Tara! *grin* And not even being reduced to turning on the water works! You rock!
~gf~
~gf~
