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post #1 of 29
Thread Starter 
right now I have to make a very hard decision, but I know what I have to do. I was wondering if you all could help me in this time. My daughter has been having really bad ear infecions and chest colds due to allergies and we believe it involves our cats. She has never had this bad of infections till we got our cats and they have ran tests and has come to this conclusion. We all are heart broken because of this but I can't put the cats above the health of my daughter. So, I have to find homes for my fur babies, but I DO NOT want to take them to the pound. I have posted free cats to good home at pet stores but no one has called. So, I am turning to my family here for help. I want my daughter to be well but I also want my fur babies to go to a home that will take care of them. PLEASE HELP ME!!! I beating my head against a wall here!! Any halp will be appreciated!!!! Thank you ALL
post #2 of 29
Oh Jenny, I am so sorry you are faced with such a serious conundrum Have you talked to your daughter's allergist about taking a medicine such as Zyrtek? It's funny you should post this today b/c I visited an allergist just 2 hours ago about the same thing. He thought I may be allergic to my cats (tests showed I'm not, thank God), but he said if I WERE allergic, there are meds one can take so that they may also keep your cats.
So, my advice is: if there are meds for your daughter, I'd give them a shot before adopting out the kits.
Good luck with everything and I hope you can find a balance that you, your daughter, and the kits can all live with!
post #3 of 29
Keep the cats out of the bedrooms. You're lucky you live in Cali and have warmer temps. Open the windows and air out the house. Keep the windows open during the day time, especially the bedrooms, and close them at night. Do you have an electronic air cleaner on your furnace? Did you try any HEPA air cleaners? What about the Ionic Breeze?

An allergy is an over-reactive response of your immune system. An allergic person would be creating more antibodies and have more of a response to any invading organisms. I don't know if you can attribute ear infections and chest colds to allergies to cats, but I'm not a doctor. I tend to be skeptical of doctors, anyway, and it's easy for them to say get rid of the cats.

I would try some of the remedies I mentionned. My son had strep throat four times and a persistent tonsillitis in one year before we had any cats in the house. The doctor wanted to remove his tonsils. I decided to wait and forego any tonsillectomies and now he is fine, never having had strep throat since then.
post #4 of 29
If you live in or near the Los Angeles area, I can ask some of the people I know, if they'd be interested in getting a cat or cats.
post #5 of 29
Thread Starter 
She does take Zytec. She has asthma and allergies really bad. She keeps getting bronchittis and ear infections to the point that they want her to get tubes in her ears, when they ever get better. It's a very tough decision that I do not want to make but if my daughter will get better and stop stuggling with her health I will do it. I just feel terrible to have to make this decision. I just want to be a good mom and take care of my children and my fur babies. That is why I want them to go to good homes.
post #6 of 29
Thread Starter 
I live in the valley, 15 min. below Modesto.
post #7 of 29
Have you tried posting for free on Craig's List for the Sacramento and Fresno areas? If you post pix that helps a lot.
www.craigslist.org
post #8 of 29
Quote:
Originally Posted by CaliGirl
She does take Zytec. She has asthma and allergies really bad. She keeps getting bronchittis and ear infections to the point that they want her to get tubes in her ears, when they ever get better. It's a very tough decision that I do not want to make but if my daughter will get better and stop stuggling with her health I will do it. I just feel terrible to have to make this decision. I just want to be a good mom and take care of my children and my fur babies. That is why I want them to go to good homes.
another allergy suggestion/possibility - air quality in general will make a difference. Cigarette smoke, smog, etc - these can cause problems. there are some nasal sprays, like Flonase, that can also help - i take both Zyrtec & Flonase! there are also some wipes you can use on the cats to help cut down on dander - you can get them here. they have some sprays & shampoos, too. most allergy sufferers are allergic to the saliva, not the hair. also, can you foster them out for a while to see if there is a difference? that way, if it's not the cats, you can get 'em back!
good luck - i live too far to help you out!
post #9 of 29
I'm so sorry to hear that. Are you sure there isn't any medications for your daughter? Looks like your in California, so am I. Which part, if I may ask? Maybe I can help you.

As HopeHacker as mentioned, I live near LA. I'm another Jenny in California.
post #10 of 29
Thread Starter 
I live in Turlock, right under Modesto. If you could help me, I would appreciate it. Thanks!!
post #11 of 29
I'm not sure where that is. I'm look for some directions. We could maybe foster...
post #12 of 29
CaliGirl, I am praying for all of you. This must be hard on everyone!!
post #13 of 29
Just an aside, but if your doctor recommends implanting tubes into your daughter's ears, get a second opinion and a third opinion. This operation is often unnecessary and not needed. The tubes also need to be surgically removed.

Also, don't underestimate the effectiveness of some simple antihistamines for clearing congestion in the ears. I used Dimetapp for my kids whenever they came down with a cold and it really helped their ear congestion. One of the best products for allergies, IMO, is Chlortrimeton decongestant 4 hr. which is almost impossible to find in the stores. You may be able to order it from a pharmacy.

As for all medicine, the less you take the better. Remember that all medicines have side effects.
post #14 of 29
If you do decide to place your kitty up for adoption maybe you can your ask your vet to help you find a home for your kitty. I know my vet allows you to put flyers up in their office. My vet also gets quite a few calls from people looking for cats so maybe you can tell your vet and if someone calls looking for a cat that fits your cats discription they can call you. Atleast if the people are trying to adopt through a vet or see your info at the vet you know they take their current pet in. It's just an idea. I hope your daughter feel better.
post #15 of 29
I promise I'm not a saleswoman for this product, but it might help your daughter until you are able to find good homes for the kitties. I've been using the Shaper Image Ionic Breeze in my apartment and my asthma isn't nearly as bad as it was. I have one big one, one desk size, and one bathroom size that I ordered through their Outlet website- so they were all around 50% off. These things really, really work for me and I am quite allergic to my cats. I rarely have to use a rescue inhaler now. Also, keeping the cats out of her bedroom, brushing them often, bathing them can help.
post #16 of 29
So sorry to hear that...
Then a Doctor give you his opinion about if the Cats are the problem???
Just another Idea, can you ask to other Doctor to be sure that the cats are the problem???
Hope you can keep the kitties, so sad this...
post #17 of 29
here is the website where I got my Ionic Breezes- you can read about them or something- http://www.sharperimage.com/us/en/ou...catid=39064300
post #18 of 29
I was going to mention those wet wipes and special shampoo products that Laureen mentioned. I bathe my cats regularily and wipe them down real good when we visit with my sister, who has bad allergies and asthma as well. She has no reaction to them.

I'll ask around and see if I can find anyone who would be willing to love your babies! I live in Oakland...not too far from you!

~Kim
post #19 of 29
Hi Jenny I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter.I have really bad allergies to cats too.It takes me months to get used to a new cat,that being said here's some sugestions...Get rid of the carpeting in her bed room if you can and replace it with vinyl or laminite.I recently purchased an Oreck air purifyer, not cheap but one of the best on the market,it really helps! As a kid I lived on claraitn b/c we always had cats, now I take Zertec as needed.
post #20 of 29
YOu know there's a topical lotion that you can put on cats that helps, it controls the dander. I used it on my cat when I first got him, I am allergic to some cats. I would try it.
post #21 of 29
My boyfriend's allergic too. He takes Allegra-D to minimize the simptoms. ask your doctor is that would work for your daughter.
I would hate to have to give up my kitten, but if Ihad to that would be the best reason. You have to think of the health of your family.
post #22 of 29
Thread Starter 
Thank you all for being so understanding and the helpful advice. I will defintely look into all those things. My daughter takes Zyrtec, Singulair, Abtuterol Inhaler, Advair and Flonase. She already takes so much, I just feel aweful to have to make this decision and I am being choosy in this situation. I'm doing everything to keep the cats clean and brushed at the same time I am looking for homes that I can still have me and kids see them. I have taken my daughter to 3 doctors. She was born at Standford, She had a lot of problems at birth with a 5% chance of even living. This is why I am being very protective of her health. I hope you all understand. I also don't want to break my daughters heart.
post #23 of 29
I am so sorry you're having to make this very hard deccisson but I totally understand about how important your daughter and her health is *sending lots of hugs* I only wish there was more I could do to help but please know I am thinking of you and if you ever need someone to talk too I'm here for you.

I hope you figure something out and if you have to give your cats away I hope you can find someone really nice who will give them a good home and maybe even let you visit.

Sending even more hugs and all the support I can

Eva xxx
post #24 of 29
Thread Starter 
Thank you so much for your kind words. I will remember that you are there and I appreciate it. It has been very hard durning this time, My daughter and I want to keep them but it's hard seeing her always going to the doctors for some other reason and missing so much school. Here they look at the parents as you are bad parents if your child is out of school for any reason. I just want my child to be healthy.
post #25 of 29
You are never a bad parent, you are concidering doing something really difficult all because you love your daughter and don't want her health to suffer. I am sorry the school feels that way but please rememeber you are a fantastic mother and that she loves you.

I really hope you can find a way of solving this problem but if not that the cats can go somewhere good and that you can visit.

Sending you even more hugs and support and thinking of you at this really hard time.

Pm me anytime if you need a friend,

Eva, Eviecat, Molly and Huggy (who sends lots of cuddles)




Quote:
Originally Posted by CaliGirl
Thank you so much for your kind words. I will remember that you are there and I appreciate it. It has been very hard durning this time, My daughter and I want to keep them but it's hard seeing her always going to the doctors for some other reason and missing so much school. Here they look at the parents as you are bad parents if your child is out of school for any reason. I just want my child to be healthy.
post #26 of 29
My heart goes out to you! I am praying that you will be able to find good homes for the kitties and that your daughter's allergies will go away soon.
post #27 of 29
You have all my symphathy for having to make such a hard decision. And you have my admiration for doing all you can to make the right decision in the right way. You are in my prayers during this difficult time.

Tricia
post #28 of 29
Thread Starter 
I juat Want to thank you all for all your support and understanding the hard time that I am in. I just want to give you all hugs for your kind words. What wonderful friends that you have been. Thank you!! My daughter has been begging me to keep the cats but I think possibily we will keep one and see how it goes and I am going to get one those Hepa Filters and also buy one of those Dyson Pet Vacuums. I need to do all I can to keep my daughter healthy and happy She's a wonderful little girl and I want her to be happy as I do for both of my wonderful children. So, I'm going to be broke this month
post #29 of 29
Quote:
Originally Posted by CaliGirl
I need to do all I can to keep my daughter healthy and happy She's a wonderful little girl and I want her to be happy as I do for both of my wonderful children. So, I'm going to be broke this month
and many prayers, too, that it will work out and you will not be as broke as you think you might!!!!
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