OH My GOODNESS!
Listen buddy, i'm sorry your family has so many marital issues! I'm sorry that things are rough between you and your wife, and I'm happy that you are looking to YOUR god to help you see your way through it! But for the love of that god, note that this is a thread meant to help someone in a totally different situation, not your wife trying to leave you. Please stop projecting your marital issues on another person, and projecting your religion that relationship as well. Does it occur to you that not all the worls, nor all the united states is christian, and therefore does not need to be flagged about with biblical talk? To me it is quite clear in her original and subsequent posts, that her husband has already left her! how is she to make a go for the marriage in that case?
Furthermore, as she was asking for help, I don't think your self pity is necesary. Perhaps your problem is that you are self centered? It certainly seems like it in this case as you seem to be more interested in talking about yourself than the problem at hand. Believe it or not, I've seen at least 1 other man that has offered an opinion, and he's not been shot down- so perhaps it is that you answered the topic with a controversial and "taboo" response.
As for Tigger- Im sorry honey, but he sems to be a real creep.. I hope you get out of the slump he's creating for you.
[quote=LottomagicZ4941]Good job taking my quote out of context.
This thread has oviously oppened up some wounds.
I'm just a guy who saw a request for a guys opinion.
Perhpas I was a fool for thinking that my opinion was actually wanted.
Learning is best defined as a relatively permant change in behavior(sophmore level principles of learning). It takes a motivated adult 20 to 21 days to change behavior (psycobable from training at work).
The Bible says to speak evil of no man. Sorry I don't know the reference. I think that is because then it makes it harder for us to improve. As I have said before words have power.
You want a guys opinion. Don't be so critical. Consider the psychological concept of projection. When your accusing someone of being manipulative are you the one being manipulative.
Us men are not mind readers. I only know of this based on this thread. What is the real issue here. Wasn't a guys opinion asked.
I would advise women not to ask for something they don't want.
Once again I think this thread has oppened some wounds. I'm not a bad guy just a guy who saw a request for a simple opinion. And I never advocated anyone remain in an abusive relationship. I am against both verbal and physical abuse.
Addendum: HOW- Can you DARE even post that rape and a man losing his job are remotely the same thing? HOW?! A raped person (as it has happened to men as well) feels like an animal.. it doesn't even feel like you're human. you feel like you're forever left with the stigma of being raped, and you don't even know if this person has given you health problems for the future, and you can't hardly trust anyone ... male or female.. ever.. again. your ideas of what it s like tto have all thse pieces of you that are sacred being torn away- the way you think that losing a job is even remotely equal to that.. for a man or a woman.. is insane.