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post #1 of 21
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And this is a thing that is called cyber love

I met my wife online.

However she was the 10th gal that I had met from online.

I think it is easier for people to lie online.

The first gal I dated from online said I was going to fast after our first real life date.

And we had chatted online for 3 months prior to our first date in real life.

After crashing another relationship I decided to see if she would give me a second chance.

So remembering where she stated she went to Church I visited her church. She went home sick upon seeing me there. And after the service I got to meet her husband and kids.

Not only did she lie about her marital status I learned she soild realestate and not stocks.

Another gal that I just chatted online with admitted that she told one guy so many lies that she could not meet him in real life. She had sent him a picture of someone else.

One one of my profiles I was nonsmoker919 and one gal had even lied about her smoking status. So that was a one date event!!!

Someone should re-record Golden Earings Radair Love as Cyber Love.

So anyone else give a chance on cyber romance?
post #2 of 21
Wasn't looking for a date, but I lived in KY and my husband to be lived in Los Angeles.... We've been married a few months shy of 8 years now!
post #3 of 21
Truthfully, if anything ever happened between the hub and myself, I might give online dating a try......might, mind you.....might not even bother again!
post #4 of 21
as weird as it seems ive met over 100 people from the internet!
I met my current bf online and it was a weird situation when we met in real life. Because when we started chatting he broke up with his gf but got back together and they were together for a while before he left her for me so it was kind of horrible! :S
I made heaps of great friends from the internet but they are all in australia.
Here in germany ive met only 5 people.
post #5 of 21
I'm considering it as I'm not having any luck in "real" life. Hopefully with a wider range of people I'll happen upon someone who is honest and doesn't play a lot of games and for gosh sakes, that doesn't feel the need to cheat.
post #6 of 21
Yes, just goes to show that there are many liars out there (both male and female) who are not happy with who they are are and feel the need to escape using alter egos (I just DON'T get it!).

It is difficult to trust people you meet online... My view is to either just keep it casual and online (I mean, how well can you REALLY know someone from that type of relationship anyway?!?), or, meet in person VERY early on to decide whether it's worth your while and to prevent future hurts.

My 2 cents...
post #7 of 21
Met Jerry online and it was the best thing I ever did. There are ALOT of liars though on line, but then again, there are alot of liars you meet on the street too. You have to check them out, etc. If they are reluctant to give you phone numbers, etc, then you have to wonder why. Jerry gave me everything, phones, pagers, addresses, work phone, etc. I was a skeptic at first! But then I found out there are some great, truthful guys still left in the world, and we will be marking our 5 year wedding anniversary this year. Online meeting of people is not that much different than other ways.......common sense and use your head are musts! Good luck!!
post #8 of 21
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Originally Posted by kittylover4ever
Met Jerry online and it was the best thing I ever did. There are ALOT of liars though on line, but then again, there are alot of liars you meet on the street too. You have to check them out, etc. If they are reluctant to give you phone numbers, etc, then you have to wonder why. Jerry gave me everything, phones, pagers, addresses, work phone, etc. I was a skeptic at first! But then I found out there are some great, truthful guys still left in the world, and we will be marking our 5 year wedding anniversary this year. Online meeting of people is not that much different than other ways.......common sense and use your head are musts! Good luck!!
Wow, interesting story. I had no idea you both met online.
post #9 of 21
I tried it and won't do it again. I've found it's better to just meet someone or just know someone from friendship versus seeking out love or lust or relationships on the Internet.

Kind of like the guy from Sleepless in Seattle said, "I'd rather just see someone and get a feeling about them, then decide if I want to date them" versus putting an ad out on one of the sites or meeting someone online. I did it and won't again! I have found meeting people by chance and / or hooking up with friends has been the safe way.
post #10 of 21
Met Mike through the personals many many moons ago before home computers. We wrote for four years, met twice and have been married now over 18 years.
post #11 of 21
It's probably the only way I'd be able to talk to a girl without being really nervous, stuttering and making myself look like an ass, lol. If they're honest, I love how your able to get to know them before meeting them so you don't have to do all that ice breaker stuff.

Later,
Brandon
post #12 of 21
I don't give personal info to people online, and I won't ever do online dating. I'm too paranoid.

However, two of my ex-boyfriends I met at week-long summer camps. (Different camps in different years.) The only reason we became such close friends and then started dating is because of the internet. I was more comfortable talking to them online than in person. Plus, they lived on the other side of the state.
post #13 of 21
I met my hubby online 9 years ago, we lived about 100 miles apart, we talked online for several months and then we both drove half way to a public place to meet in person. We statred at that time talking on the phone witch we did for a few months.
I had been a widow for 2 yrs, I lost my first hubby at 50, I was 47,we were married for 32 years, never did I dream or think that I would ever find another person to be with as I had been married to him from the time I was 16. My new hubby had been a batchlor for 12 yrs, I guess you just know when something is right, my hubby had been in the service for some 20 yrs he is now retired, he did 25. We have been married for going on 8 yrs, I think he saved me emotionally at that time, and he told me I changed his life, and we are very Happy, I think you just know things are right and it has been...
post #14 of 21
Met my boyfriend online 2 years ago.. on an interracial dating site on Yahoo and we are still together and going strong.... Hoping to meet IRL in the near future. I tried dating offline and got cheated on by an ex and that was the end of that!!
post #15 of 21
I met my husband on line as well. Both of us had ended recent relationships and neither of us was looking for anyone else at the time. We both belonged to a mutual interest group and 'knew' each other through the group for about a year and a half. When I had computer problems, I IMed him because he worked in the computer field. He helped me out, we started to chat - and continued to chat for hours at a time:-). We soon realized that we should meet in person to determine if what we were feeling was real or just something 'on line'. Since I lived in Ontario and he lived in Georgia, he flew up, I picked him up at the airport and in person was even nicer than on line. We became engaged about 2 months later, and started the immigration process. We were engaged 13 months so had a good chance to get to know each other better before I moved south last May. We were married last June. He had been married twice before but divorced for about 8 years while I had never been married but had been in a 9 year relationship. I think the trick is not to try and find someone as a partner on line but that the internet allows you to meet people who you normally wouldn't meet but who share your interests and then just to be 'open' to the possibility.

Kathryn
post #16 of 21
Talking about chatting, My hubby's first phone bill was over $500 lol
post #17 of 21
Thread Starter 
I bought a pre-paid calling card in my dating days.

However, most gals I met online had cell phones and called during the unlimited time so still actually have phone time left on the calling card. Of course I bought a ton of time to get the 4 cents per minute rate.

Of couse now I have a cell phone bill which I did not have before.

Trying to get the wife to either give up the home phone or the cell phone. Seems redundant to pay for both.

Now when I was a teenager most of the gals I met were usually long distance (next door neighbor was long distance) and I was not permitted to call long distance.
post #18 of 21
I've actually been dating a guy that I met on the internet for the last year and a half. I haven't met most of the guys I've come in contact with, but I suppose sometimes you just know that it's going to work out (and take precautions on the first meeting regardless). The internet is such a wonderful place because you truely get to meet people that you would have never come in contact with before. I know that your run into creeps and liars, but I figure that if I'm on the internet and I'm a good person who doesn't lie, then there must be others out there too.
I suppose the biggest downside to internet dating is the distance that always seems to be there. Kevin started out 8 hours away, and now is 4. It's hard to maintain a long distance relationship, especially if you're not ready to make the big jump to living together. Myself, I'm looking for a job and an apartment near his place, but also near some friends of mine. Afterall, isn't the whole point of internet dating having your cake and eating it too? I'm just carrying it on to the next level
post #19 of 21
Small world! I have family in Midland, but we won't go there to keep the anonymity.

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Originally Posted by Sylorna
I've actually been dating a guy that I met on the internet for the last year and a half. I haven't met most of the guys I've come in contact with, but I suppose sometimes you just know that it's going to work out (and take precautions on the first meeting regardless). The internet is such a wonderful place because you truely get to meet people that you would have never come in contact with before. I know that your run into creeps and liars, but I figure that if I'm on the internet and I'm a good person who doesn't lie, then there must be others out there too.
I suppose the biggest downside to internet dating is the distance that always seems to be there. Kevin started out 8 hours away, and now is 4. It's hard to maintain a long distance relationship, especially if you're not ready to make the big jump to living together. Myself, I'm looking for a job and an apartment near his place, but also near some friends of mine. Afterall, isn't the whole point of internet dating having your cake and eating it too? I'm just carrying it on to the next level
post #20 of 21
I met my husband on line 10 years ago...after not dating at all for 9 years, it was daunting. I'd never settled, dating just to date, preferring to be alone then to play any games. We "dated" by telephone and email, and became engaged before meeting each other (we lived on opposite coasts). and were married within the year.

We've been married 10 years as of this upcoming Fall. It was truly meant to be, as it took an incredible number of circumstances for us to meet, and I do believe God had a hand in our meeting.
post #21 of 21
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Originally Posted by vespacat
Small world! I have family in Midland, but we won't go there to keep the anonymity.
That is neat, especially considering the smallness of Midland! Tis a small world AND a small town.
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