Lilly girl update

We got a 6 month old kittie 6 years ago (unfortunately we lost him last year), but he stayed behind the headboard in our bedroom for 4 full weeks and it took another week for him to actually come downstairs and another week still to be comfortable moving around the house. So Lilly has already advanced beyond this stage.

Patience and love - it could take several months, but if Lilly is like our Simba it will be well worth the wait. He was one of the most affectionate cats we have had.

Bijou is also affectionate so we consider ourselves very lucky.

Originally Posted by Yosemite

We got a 6 month old kittie 6 years ago (unfortunately we lost him last year), but he stayed behind the headboard in our bedroom for 4 full weeks and it took another week for him to actually come downstairs and another week still to be comfortable moving around the house. So Lilly has already advanced beyond this stage.

Patience and love - it could take several months, but if Lilly is like our Simba it will be well worth the wait. He was one of the most affectionate cats we have had.

Bijou is also affectionate so we consider ourselves very lucky.

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This does make me feel better. I will admit patience is not my strongest virtue, but I am trying REALLY hard with Lilly. And we are seeing results even if they are small. Ebony was so different, we got her as a kitten, and even though she was shy when she came to us, she still had her kitten instincts of wanting to explore EVERYTHING, so she opened up much quicker.

Lilly is coming out alot more at night. She spends from about midnight until 6am with me, which is a start. I guess I should be grateful she is eating and using her box with no problems.

My biggest concern is that she is as much adjusted as possible by the end of June because we are moving into a new house. Hopefully 3 months will be enough time for her.

Thanks for listening.

That will be a big transition for everyone, Beryl, but very exciting! Sure hope Lilly is feeling more comfortable by then.

the past few days I've seen alot of progress. I am so happy. Lilly is coming out more and more (she still hides under the bed when we're not around) but now I can come in her room and announce my prescence and she'll come right out for snuggles and scritches!!!

Tonight I was also elated that I was able to get the girls to eat dinner together with no running away, growling, or hissing. I HAD to take a picture of that.

What a great picture! Things are looking good!

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cue Ebony:

moooooooommmmm she's TOUCHING ME WITH HER TAIL!!!!!!

such a cute pic

well you all have to bear with me tonight as I am in one of my impatient phases. As of tomorrow Lilly will have been with us one month. Although I have seen some progress, I still wish she was trusting us more. She still spends a good 8 hours under the bed, and when she comes out she either eats, uses the box, or chills on top of the bed. She has not yet left our bedroom.

Ebony does not help matters. She still growls (no more hissing really), but the growling has gone down to about once a day. Her new thing however is chasing Lilly. Everytime Lilly comes out, Eb will run after her. I am not sure if Eb is trying to play or trying to be mean and get Lilly to go back in hiding.

I moved Lilly's food and water today to a location closer to the exit of the bedroom. Its still within her view from under the bed, just closer to the rest of the apartment to aid in maybe having her explore more.

At times I worry that Eb is just way to energetic for Lilly and Lilly might do better in a house with older more laid back kitties, or not kitties at all. But, I also know that deep down with time it will probably all be ok. I just want my girls to be happy now and not stress out as much!

Thanks for listening.

I'm sure things will shape up. It takes some kitties longer to adjust to a new situation. Ebony might be letting Lilly know who is boss by chasing her a little. In time they'll be snuggling together. Chin up. I'm sure things will work out fine. I can understand your frustration.

I had a significant thing happen tonight and I was just so excited i had to post!

Lilly has been spending the past 2 days up on top of our bed and she'll sit so that she's positioend looking out of the bedroom door. She's had a look on her face like she wants to come out, but she hasn't actually left the bedroom yet. We'll tonight I got home from running errands and all of a sudden I see a little white head peeking out around the door! she spent about 10 seconds looking at me, and then got scared and ran back under the bed. Hopefully in the next few days she'll be confident enough to start exploring!

She's doing great!

She is totally coming along!!!!!!!! I can only imagine how hard this is for you as I am a person with very little patience and always anxious. I just want everyone to love each other right away!!! Unfortunately that is not realistic. I know that things will be just fine soon. Hang in there! She is making progress and everyday you should see something new even if it's little.
I am praying and sending good vibes your way that things keep getting better and I bet they will be best of friends before too long!!

Thank you so much Aimee. I am exactly the same way. I wanted everything to work out right away. But unfortunately the reality was that Lilly was not a kitty who wanted to adjust quickly. This has definitely been a time of learning for me, and its been amazing to see Lilly slowly start to love and trust me and Brendan and Ebony bit by bit. I know she is so close to trusting us fully and I am trying my very best to give her the time and space she needs. I think its going to be worth the wait.

I totally understand. It's so hard to go through that because you want so bad to see them take to each other right away!!! I know in my heart though that it will happen. You are doing such a great job and they both love you for your effort and patience. It's totally worth the wait! Hang in there, I am standing by for continuous updates!!

I had almost the opposite issue. I got my two kitties at the same time (they're sisters). After a few days they were all over the house, and Sylvester was pretty friendly. She's not a love-bug, but she would fallow me around and chat with me. Annie meanwhile was playing hard to get! She'd look sweetly at us, flop on the ground, and then run off when we tried to pet her. Seriously. Repeatedly. She didn't want to be touched.

I've now had them for over a year and it's so great. Annie is still the more reserved one, but she comes up and demands a lap and cuddling when she feels like it. It's so sweet. And she does let us pet her all the time. But it took a few months before she was cuddly at all. Sometimes I still feel like she is still getting more affectionate every month.

So anyway, I definately think the wait is worth it.